robthefool Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Long story short, I got dumped just over a year ago after a 5 month relationship. For both of us it was our first, we lost our virginity to each other etc. She talked about me behind my back shortly after we broke up, and was chatting up a guy shortly before we broke up, which annoyed me a lot.. She always wanted to remain friends, and contacted me a lot after the break up, but I was very blunt and sometimes ignored her, untill April when I went full on NC. Since then, she has made a few attempts to contact me, but recently for the first time in about 5 months she has tried again. First of all she found my twitter and followed me, I ignored her and she then unfollowed me then wrote some story about how she's fed up and hates life. She then texted me today, I didn't have her number so didn't know who it was until she said.. do I just ignore her again now? She only said her first name so it could be someone else, but that's a very small chance. By the way, she is in a long term relationship at the moment, and I would never want to get back with her or really be friends with her if anyone is wondering.
HollyBolly Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Long story short, I got dumped just over a year ago after a 5 month relationship. For both of us it was our first, we lost our virginity to each other etc. She talked about me behind my back shortly after we broke up, and was chatting up a guy shortly before we broke up, which annoyed me a lot.. She always wanted to remain friends, and contacted me a lot after the break up, but I was very blunt and sometimes ignored her, untill April when I went full on NC. Since then, she has made a few attempts to contact me, but recently for the first time in about 5 months she has tried again. First of all she found my twitter and followed me, I ignored her and she then unfollowed me then wrote some story about how she's fed up and hates life. She then texted me today, I didn't have her number so didn't know who it was until she said.. do I just ignore her again now? She only said her first name so it could be someone else, but that's a very small chance. By the way, she is in a long term relationship at the moment, and I would never want to get back with her or really be friends with her if anyone is wondering. Ignore her. Don't respond.
Chi townD Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Ignore it. Dude, she's in a long term relationship anyways. She has no reason to be contacting you in the first place! 1
TaraMaiden Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I third the motion. Absolutely continue ignoring and stay no contact... 1
Author robthefool Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Thanks.. I'll try and resist the temptation to reply. I'm 99% sure it's her, but it could be a different person because she only said her first name. I was tempted to reply 'their first name' who? That way if it is not her than I can know, and if it is her then I can just ignore her, and she can feel that I've forgotten about her..
Chi townD Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Dude, you're trying to GIVE yourself an excuse to contact her. Claiming that you weren't sure if it was her. If she wants to contact you that badly, she'd be knocking at your door.
CaliBabe Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 This is not your first post about the same exact thing. We have all told you over and over to NOT respond. She is in a relationship and is looking for an ego boost. Don't give it to her she treated you terribly.
Author robthefool Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Dude, you're trying to GIVE yourself an excuse to contact her. Claiming that you weren't sure if it was her. If she wants to contact you that badly, she'd be knocking at your door. You're right.. thanks for persuading me, I'm going to try and ignore it. I just feel that maybe i'm being a bit mean? it was over a year ago and I really do not care about her at all anymore, I am still annoyed at what she did, but I don't want to come across as being mean if you understand.
Author robthefool Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 This is not your first post about the same exact thing. We have all told you over and over to NOT respond. She is in a relationship and is looking for an ego boost. Don't give it to her she treated you terribly. I know, it's just this is the first time in a while that she has started trying to contact me.. it's kinda bringing back all my anger towards her. I will ignore it, but I was only going to respond along the lines of 'which (their name)? I know quite a few (their name) just so she can see that I have forgotten... it's unhealthy I know, but I feel like I want to get my revenge back on her still..
CaliBabe Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 You ARE getting your revenge back right now. You are not feeding her ego which is what she wants. Your doing it right now! Be strong, and continue on, you are showing your worth without saying a word and thats powerful! Silence sends the strongest message.
Author robthefool Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Ugh, she just asked if she had the right number.. and then just now she said 'are you there?'
jerbear Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 She was the one who dumped you. The best line would be "Who are you? Hello, are you trying to reach the morgue?" Ok, skip the morgue line but the who are you will send a message to her. I understand you two lost the virginity but that will happen anway. To be honest, it was no biggie; just the first few months you'll be raw but trust me. You'll never forget but you'll get over it.
Chi townD Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 You're right.. thanks for persuading me, I'm going to try and ignore it. I just feel that maybe i'm being a bit mean? it was over a year ago and I really do not care about her at all anymore, I am still annoyed at what she did, but I don't want to come across as being mean if you understand. There's a big difference between being mean and being indifferent. Being mean is responding back, "What do you want, B*tch!" Being indifferent is not responding at all. She doesn't know what your frame of mind is other than you don't desire to talk to her. She has no idea if you're mad or happy. Sad or angry. She lost those privledges.
Author robthefool Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 There's a big difference between being mean and being indifferent. Being mean is responding back, "What do you want, B*tch!" Being indifferent is not responding at all. She doesn't know what your frame of mind is other than you don't desire to talk to her. She has no idea if you're mad or happy. Sad or angry. She lost those privledges. Yeah, I mean i've never gone that low. I've never ever been mean to her in that way, i've only ignored her. I'm just worried because in the past when i've ignored her she's gone into hissy fits on FB and Twitter saying how 'some people are such d*cks!' and how 'people who don't have the courtesy to reply are immature' which obviously corresponded to me.. I will ignore her though.
blotter Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Who the **** cares what she says on facebook and twitter? And if you're in No Contact why are you visiting her facebook and twitter accounts?
Author robthefool Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Who the **** cares what she says on facebook and twitter? And if you're in No Contact why are you visiting her facebook and twitter accounts? In the past I used to and she did this. This is the first time she's contacted me for about 5-6 months though, I haven't been looking since then really though. I guess it's just that she was turning it on me and I don't like people thinking i'm a d**k when i'm really not.
Chi townD Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Yeah, I mean i've never gone that low. I've never ever been mean to her in that way, i've only ignored her. I'm just worried because in the past when i've ignored her she's gone into hissy fits on FB and Twitter saying how 'some people are such d*cks!' and how 'people who don't have the courtesy to reply are immature' which obviously corresponded to me.. I will ignore her though. Ahh....she can blow it out her ass and tell it to her new boyfriend about it. Not your problem anymore. See! That was mean!
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 For a gal in a long term relationship, she sure has been trying to get in touch with you. Wants her cake and eat it, too. Definitely looking for ego boost, hoping you will tell her you miss her and still love her, etc. Hate that term "long term"; does that mean a relationship that will break up in say, a year?
Author robthefool Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 For a gal in a long term relationship, she sure has been trying to get in touch with you. Wants her cake and eat it, too. Definitely looking for ego boost, hoping you will tell her you miss her and still love her, etc. Hate that term "long term"; does that mean a relationship that will break up in say, a year? Yeah.. well this was the first time she had contacted me in about 5 months, but I was surprised as usually she says hi or something and I ignore her and that's that.. she followed me on twitter last week, and then today she texts me.. When I say long term, I mean for her standards, should have said that really! I have no doubt that she will break up with her current boyfriend soon, at least definitely before uni. I remember her talking about university when she was with me and she always talked as if we wouldn't be going out by the time we went to uni. I was probably stupid and should have realised earlier that this was a bad sign. She also flirted with guys towards the end of our relationship.. she got with someone within our 'old group' a few days after the break up right in front of me at a mini gathering thing and that was when I decided enough is enough. She still kept begging me that we could be friends and said that she was scared of losing me.. despite bitching about me behind my back and me getting annoyed and starting to ignore her, she never tried to say sorry to me , it was always little breadcrumbs saying 'hi' etc.. when I think back i'm glad that I did what I did, but at the same time she is a nice person inside, and a tiny part of me does just want to start a new slate and forget what happened.. but it's too late for that now I feel, and we just would not work as friends IMO.
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