robaday Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Dated someone, took her out, saw her a lot, and was going to take her abroad with me (Im working abroad for a week in june), so offered to pay for flights. We saw each other for maybe 2 months or so. And then suddenly a couple of weeks back she turned on me. Sent me a voicemail message of abuse, as well as an angry email. I had been distant, but that was due to me having medical problems, which meant I couldnt see her as much until I recovered. I didnt react. And then the next day I received another 5 messages apologising. She claims it was insecurity. and drunkenness. Ive told her its over, but Im still left scratching my head. I had been clear why I couldnt see her. And Im not sure I fully believe her about insecurity either.
69ways Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 You might consider giving her a chance if she was drunk... If she was not, she will slowly keep her insecurities inside her and manifest them to a an emotional explosion one day that will rip you apart. Imagine been in love with her when it happens......aoouuch I know, I been there, low self confidence insecurities will lead her to a bad reaction towards you sooner or later.... Proceed with caution, women like this end up doing two things: 1.Leavng you at some point, maybe because the feelings accumulate inside her, as you notice she is not talking about her issues with you or when you have fully devoted yourself, she sees no challenge in you anymore to keep her emotional instability under control so she will react. 2.You will boost her self confidence to the max, it could be a permanent boost or a momentarily one but the result will be:I hold life by the horns, I dont need him anymore....... Both cases will lead to you been dumped, as I said it can also be a case of her been drunk and just emotional overloaded.......so you got nothing to worry about.....
gotye Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 i would talk to her about it I mean, above poster is kind of right... I would probably back off and say I think we should get a little bit of space and junk
CaliBabe Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Always trust your intuition. Something is telling you something isn't right. It does sound odd to me as well. I personally think that "being drunk" is not an excuse to mistreat someone. I also hate when people use the excuse they were "drunk" to cheat on someone (I know it doesn't apply here) but my point is, people can't use that excuse as a free pass or else everyone would use it. If the same person used that excuse 4 or 5 times, would it still have the same effect? No, then it shouldn't be excuseable the first time either. Time will always give more persepctive and hopefully the truth will come out. Also, I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with such crap while you are having medical issues. I mean gosh, how cold can your ex be. Anyhow, stay strong, we are all here for you and wish you a speedy recovery! 1
Cmac Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Yeah being drunk is no excuse for anything. I've never accepted the "I was drunk" excuse and never will for any behaviour. More often than not, drunk words are sober thoughts, alcohol alone will not create venemous thoughts towards someone, it merely allows pre-existing thoughts to be spoken more easily. 1
Author robaday Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Thanks for the responses they all made very valid points. I have spoken since, and while she was apologetic, she just kept justifying her behavior, and used every single excuse possible. Its that part that really pushed me away. I can let things go pretty easy, if someone just makes an apology. But I cannot stand it when they justify and blame you. Why is it so difficult for some people to just say two words - "im sorry"? thats all it takes.
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