veggirl Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 (edited) Wow dude...just block this fool already. He can text about how much he likes you but wont answer your calls so you can hear his voice and talk about all this...really? Jeez...Youre not gonna listen to any of us here and youre gonna continue with the drama...so what the point in us giving you advice when you ignore all of us. Im convinced that youre just desperate for a boy in your life...meh...Im just gonna follow these threads for the lulz from now on. EDIT: P.S. - Why the hell would you wait for the other shoe to drop when your gut is telling you bad news is a comin'. Im convinced you are looney tunes ms. cutz. YES, all of this! Why even post, you won't listen to anything we offer you. Don't you think it's odd that everyone has the basic same advice, and yet you do the complete opposite even after agreeing with what we have to say? I also think you are desperate for a man. I was going to ask earlier how long it's been since you had a BF and if that's all you wanted, but I decided not to cause you seemed to be letting this dude go. Why are you inviting this drama into your life? FFS, it's been one month!!! Can you please try to recognize the RIDICULOUSNESS of the amount of drama this is for one month?! OMG. I haven't had this much drama in 8 mos with my bf. He's not "pulling you back in". You are allowing it to happen. Quit acting like a victim in this. if I didn't answer him he was gone for good. Then why did you answer!? You should want him gone for good! He is no good for you. and I take back what I said about you and Kaylan. Edited March 21, 2012 by veggirl 1
Author xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 I'm kind of scared he's going to hurt himself. His messages were incoherent. I called him to tell him to stop it, okay, I know I slap my hands for even dialling the phone. I really didn't want to talk to him at all, he just kept texting and texting. Okay I'm sorry momentary lapse. I'm not going to talk to him. Besides my phone is broken and my mins are running up again. So NC.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Wow dude...just block this fool already. He can text about how much he likes you but wont answer your calls so you can hear his voice and talk about all this...really? Jeez...Youre not gonna listen to any of us here and youre gonna continue with the drama...so what the point in us giving you advice when you ignore all of us. Im convinced that youre just desperate for a boy in your life...meh...Im just gonna follow these threads for the lulz from now on. EDIT: P.S. - Why the hell would you wait for the other shoe to drop when your gut is telling you bad news is a comin'. Im convinced you are looney tunes ms. cutz. Technically my phone can't block his texts even though I did delete all of his contacts. I was really surprised he texted me. Ugh.. forget it. I have work tomorrow. I am turning off my phone. Sorry guys.
kaylan Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 and I take back what I said about you and Kaylan. I lol'd I'm kind of scared he's going to hurt himself. His messages were incoherent. I called him to tell him to stop it, okay, I know I slap my hands for even dialling the phone. I really didn't want to talk to him at all, he just kept texting and texting. Okay I'm sorry momentary lapse. I'm not going to talk to him. Besides my phone is broken and my mins are running up again. So NC. Youre scared for his well being? Really now? You da Pope hun? If this dude is ready to act all weird and suicidal over a girl he barely know...you should be running the other way. Then again... Technically my phone can't block his texts even though I did delete all of his contacts. I was really surprised he texted me. Ugh.. forget it. I have work tomorrow. I am turning off my phone. Sorry guys. You know a good way to block someone? Press Reply and then type "Omg psycho I thought I told you to leave me alone" Then hit send. Problem sizzolved. lulz:laugh:
veggirl Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I'm kind of scared he's going to hurt himself. His messages were incoherent. I called him to tell him to stop it, okay, I know I slap my hands for even dialling the phone. I really didn't want to talk to him at all, he just kept texting and texting. Okay I'm sorry momentary lapse. I'm not going to talk to him. Besides my phone is broken and my mins are running up again. So NC. oh lord. he's not going to hurt himself. I really really think I can guarantee that.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Then tell him to stop contacting me. I had sex because I wanted to sleep with him. Yeah I put out, that hardly makes me a slut. I don't think you are a slut. I probably would have done the same thing at your age. No judgment here. I DO think that your actions are contrary to your goals. You seem absolutely clueless about men in this situation. Perhaps your emotions are getting in your way. Think about it.... really think about it. He is contacting you to keep you on a string. There is no exclusivity... and he only reaches out to you when it's convenient for him.
kiss_andmakeup Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I can't even fathom "fighting" this much with someone I've known for a month. It just seems completely bonkers to me. The first couple months of dating someone are supposed to be fun. One or two dates a week, with fun, light, sporadic contact in between. To look forward to hearing from him is one thing, but to get angry when you don't? That's just bizarre to me. There shouldn't be any expectations after one month and four dates. If it works out, cool. If not, bummer, but still cool. Is it possible that your anger stems from the fact that you didn't initially find him physically attractive, and thus you feel as though he should be working *extra* hard to pursue you? Do you perhaps feel that he is lucky that you even want to date him and should be shedding roses at your feet? I'm trying as hard as I can not to say this in an accusatory manner...they're real questions. If you feel "superior" to him in some way, maybe you're expecting him to chase you extra hard. But that just doesn't appear to be happening. Learn how to date and have fun getting to know someone. There is absolutely no reason why there should be drama after two weeks of dating. It's just not healthy. Because I haven't seen it mentioned anywhere: how often would you ideally like to be contacted at this stage in dating? Assume that you've been dating a guy for one month and you like him and he likes you. How often would you expect to hear from him? Once daily? Twice daily? Once hourly? Once every other day? I'm just trying to get a feel for your expectations.
Star Gazer Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I'm kind of scared he's going to hurt himself. Just stop it. The guy who backburnered you, won't make time to see you, and won't even answer the phone when you call in the middle of a text convo is now so distraught over you he's going to hurt himself? You cannot be serious. 1
snug.bunny Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 If something feels 'off' (IE, your "too fast too soon" thread after your 1st date on 2/19), to getting carried away in the moment (IE, your "He changed my mind" thread following your second date of 2/20), pay attention to it... You went from not really digging him (on 2/19), to totally digging him (on 2/20). Your mindset changed drastically, in the span of ONE day (I think, from your posts, it was around one day). Do you follow? Just try to go slower from now on, it will help slow the process down for you emotionally.
AlexDP Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I'm kind of scared he's going to hurt himself. His messages were incoherent. I called him to tell him to stop it, okay, I know I slap my hands for even dialling the phone. I really didn't want to talk to him at all, he just kept texting and texting. Okay I'm sorry momentary lapse. I'm not going to talk to him. Besides my phone is broken and my mins are running up again. So NC. Have you ever had suicidal thoughts?
Kamille Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Interesting. He thought he called the shots. You ended the game. Now he's resorting to emotional manipulation to keep you hooked. Don't fall for it papercutz. Let's recap: He leaves you hanging and ditches you by text. You're hurt and angry (I think that's perfectly legitimate - it's how you internalize the anger that gets you into trouble). You realize this isn't what you want (even though you internalize it as a rejection), and write to tell him it's over. He proceeds to suddenly blow up your phone and calling you stubborn and immature. He's playing whatever card he can to make you feel like you're the (only) one who has issues. He fails to take responsibility for what the part he played. He clearly is not boyfriend material. (I would not wish a guy like that on my worst enemy). He doesn't even pick up the phone when you try to call! You (thank goodness!) stick to you guns. You're finally not falling for his game and being mature. And what does he do? Resorts to emotional manipulation. Now, here's the point we've all been trying to make: Pay attention to his actions. Is this guy really worthy of being considered boyfriend material?
xxoo Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I'm glad you decided to go NC. I hope you stick with that. About possibly wanting to hurt himself--I doubt it. But if, worst case scenario, that were the case, he would be seriously unstable and you should stay away from him. He has friends and family to help him, if he is that troubled. Your involvement will not help him. Further contact is a very bad idea for both of you.
zengirl Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Stay NC. This situation is perpetually toxic at this point, and you will feel better after a few days away from it. Really.
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