hotloader Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I joined POF a few days ago on a whim just to see what would happen. A few years ago I had a Match account, and I had some success with it (if you wanna call it that). I had it for a few months, and I wound up being contacted by maybe five or six different chicks each week. I wound up talking to a few of them online, and I wound up going on two dates. Both of the women who I met in person had totally misrepresented themselves in their profiles, and it left a bad taste in my mouth....so I canceled my account. Plenty of Fish is totally different. First of all, 99% of the women on there seem like their either morbidly obese, mentally retarded, or both. The ones who aren't appear to have ulterior motives for being there in the first place. I'll give you one example: I'm an average looking guy. I'm 34 years old. I'm 5"11, 175-180 lbs. I've got a receding hairline but I think it kinda looks cool. My profile pictures are just a few snaps that a friend of mine took a couple of weeks ago when we were hanging out on a railroad bridge before we went fishing. No big deal. Everyday me. My profile is simple and reads as follows: "I don't use drugs and I don't drink. I like punk rock and science fiction movies. I work all the time. Not looking for a girlfriend, not looking for random hookups. Just wanna find a cool girl who's into the same stuff I am and just wants to hang out. Nothing serious." Of course I'm not going to write my entire life story like most of the women on the site do. Thus far (I think it's been three days), I've had one message from some fat chick in a Garth Brooks t-shirt. That's it. I've sent a few "hey, how are you?" type messages. I've received one response about how ugly I am (I'm not), and how I need to "learn my place" and that I'm "shooting way too high". WTF? My last girlfriend was a freakin' pinup fetish model. WTF is up with this site? Is it just a cover for a secret feminist emasculation site? It sucks. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 It's a dating website and women are looking for dates. You sound like you just want a friend. Find a lesbian to hang out with if it has to be a female. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 My profile is simple and reads as follows: "I don't use drugs and I don't drink. I like punk rock and science fiction movies. I work all the time. Not looking for a girlfriend, not looking for random hookups. Just wanna find a cool girl who's into the same stuff I am and just wants to hang out. Nothing serious." Red flag! Girls want boyfriends and they want to be someone's girlfriend. They don't need some random guy who just wants to "hang out." I've sent a few "hey, how are you?" type messages. Wrong, wrong, wrong... Girls are INUNDATED with those types of messages. It doesn't show that you have read our profiles or seen anything remotely interesting about US that you want to get to know. It looks like trolling and usually gets ignored. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Craigslist has a strictly platonic section, try posting there instead. I think it would strike most women as odd that you're creating a profile on a dating site and saying you don't want to sleep with them under any circumstance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 WTF is up with this site? Is it just a cover for a secret feminist emasculation site? It sucks. Uhhhhhhhhhh, women can get a hotloader anywhere. They want something deeper, more lengthy, and longer-lasting. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Nightsky Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 OLD sux. POF is better then match because its free. But OKCupid seems to be the ladies favorites because they get to play cutsie games. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotloader Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Uhhhhhhhhhh, women can get a hotloader anywhere. All....Silly suvin' gorger. You haven't a clue what the moniker "hotloader" even means, my friend. That's a flag for those on the inside track. I throw up quite a few of those in my online exploits just in case I bump into one of my own kind. Link to post Share on other sites
manup Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I joined POF a few days ago on a whim just to see what would happen. A few years ago I had a Match account, and I had some success with it (if you wanna call it that). I had it for a few months, and I wound up being contacted by maybe five or six different chicks each week. I wound up talking to a few of them online, and I wound up going on two dates. Both of the women who I met in person had totally misrepresented themselves in their profiles, and it left a bad taste in my mouth....so I canceled my account. Plenty of Fish is totally different. First of all, 99% of the women on there seem like their either morbidly obese, mentally retarded, or both. The ones who aren't appear to have ulterior motives for being there in the first place. I'll give you one example: I'm an average looking guy. I'm 34 years old. I'm 5"11, 175-180 lbs. I've got a receding hairline but I think it kinda looks cool. My profile pictures are just a few snaps that a friend of mine took a couple of weeks ago when we were hanging out on a railroad bridge before we went fishing. No big deal. Everyday me. My profile is simple and reads as follows: "I don't use drugs and I don't drink. I like punk rock and science fiction movies. I work all the time. Not looking for a girlfriend, not looking for random hookups. Just wanna find a cool girl who's into the same stuff I am and just wants to hang out. Nothing serious." Of course I'm not going to write my entire life story like most of the women on the site do. Thus far (I think it's been three days), I've had one message from some fat chick in a Garth Brooks t-shirt. That's it. I've sent a few "hey, how are you?" type messages. I've received one response about how ugly I am (I'm not), and how I need to "learn my place" and that I'm "shooting way too high". WTF? My last girlfriend was a freakin' pinup fetish model. WTF is up with this site? Is it just a cover for a secret feminist emasculation site? It sucks. Flirt with your words. If you wanted to attract a woman in public would you just go up to her and go hey how are you. Maybe if you were a really attractive guy, but that usually doesn't work. Women on those sites respond to stupid flirty messages. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 POF is rather scary, I've done it in the past and have encountered nothing but weirdos and people looking for sex on it. However, I have had things like that happen when one is on a paid website as well. You need to rewrite your profile first of all, what you have put up is something that just says "I'm here, I'm looking, but not very serious about too much." And there are people out there who want nothing but to just push people's buttons and play jokes and whatnot online. In general, you will not have a lot of luck with the free websites because they are free. As for the paid ones (Match and whatnot), you may meet more people face to face or chat on the phone, but don't hold your breath. Internet dating will, in general, get you a lot of dinners / drinks, but does not really lead to a real relationship of any kind. Link to post Share on other sites
missyme04 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Red flag! Girls want boyfriends and they want to be someone's girlfriend. They don't need some random guy who just wants to "hang out." I agree with you CarrieT. this is so true! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I'm an average looking guy. I'm 34 years old. I'm 5"11, 175-180 lbs. I've got a receding hairline but I think it kinda looks cool. My profile pictures are just a few snaps that a friend of mine took a couple of weeks ago when we were hanging out on a railroad bridge before we went fishing. No big deal. Everyday me. My profile is simple and reads as follows: "I don't use drugs and I don't drink. I like punk rock and science fiction movies. I work all the time. Not looking for a girlfriend, not looking for random hookups. Just wanna find a cool girl who's into the same stuff I am and just wants to hang out. Nothing serious." Of course I'm not going to write my entire life story like most of the women on the site do. When I see a profile like yours (summary usually ending with 'If you want to know anything just ask') I conclude the following: he is after casual sex (the 'not looking for a girlfriend' and 'nothing serious' parts) or he doesn't know what he wants (doesn't seem to want random hookups either?) and he is lazy as he can't be bothered to fill out his profile. Maybe he is just boring. You sound unattractive too by your own description. I'm guessing you are not athletic. Why should attractive, quality women contact you exactly? It doesn't seem you have much to offer. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 OP, Women on POF are always available for hooking up if you are hot enough. Their also good to go with flings. But you cant just come out & say you don't want a GF in your profile. Just use their feature to mark yourself down as dating but nothing serious. Women on POF will have casual sex with a guy as long as they can say their "dating" you to their friends even though they know it's just hanging out & sex. You have to be a 9/10 in looks, build, height, cash in order to pull your profile off & get somewhere. However a guy like that slumming on POF is a serious red flag because he should be beating them off with a bat while he walks down the street. Link to post Share on other sites
Son Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Just write that you make $150.000 a year ( lie ) and get as many dates as you like. Link to post Share on other sites
El Brujo Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Plenty of Fish is totally different. First of all, 99% of the women on there seem like their either morbidly obese, mentally retarded, or both. Yep... fatties, feebs, and fakes. That's why I only do meetup groups! Link to post Share on other sites
volkl1996 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 POF is free. match.com is not...do the math. Seriously, I was on POF for a while and noticed a big difference with match.com. And, I do think it's because POF is free...probalby more care free, not so serious, not sure what they want, folks on POF. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotloader Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 You sound unattractive too by your own description. I'm guessing you are not athletic. Ah, hello princess. You again. No, I guess I'm not athletic in the sense that I don't play sports. I work out nightly though in order to maintain my average physique. My BMI is average. Everything about me.....is average. There are a lot of "BBW" (or big beached whales as I like to call them) chicks out there who...never mind the 67 rolls of fat lard that they've got around their waist like a Mac truck tire....INSIST on nothing but the most roided-up alpha jock they can possibly find. To me, you sound like one of those girls. Ever try one of those Twinkies deep-fried and wrapped in a pancake? I hear their yummy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotloader Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Just write that you make $150.000 a year ( lie ) and get as many dates as you like. Eh...That number's actually pretty spot-on. Actually it's a little low for some years. Link to post Share on other sites
JesseJames Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Plenty of Frowns is not a prolific activity. I've seen trash before, but when they are all boxed up with words and headlines and whatnot...... it's like graffiti on a Hefty bag. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sith Apprentice Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 The OP has the right attitude. Only a brain-dead moron would go on POF looking for a girlfriend. That site is nothing but low value women looking to get pump and dumped by the "All Stars" who have the goods to get in their pants. Don't even bother. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sith Apprentice Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Watch this 25 minute rant on Youtube. POF Attracts Women with Issues and Baggage: Dating Sites attract women with issues and baggage Plenty Of Fish - YouTube Link to post Share on other sites
dasein Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Man with that income, wth are you doing on free sites? PAY the $17, it's much better. Just make a plan of sending out mails daily, polish your profile and pics, and learn from the experience. OLD is a practice thing, I started out doing the wrong things and got better with practice. Have trained several friends IRL and they have done well with it. Good luck. EDIT: Also try meetup.com for friends with similar interests, one of the posters, el brujo maybe, has posted about that. Link to post Share on other sites
starla33 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 OLD sux. POF is better then match because its free. But OKCupid seems to be the ladies favorites because they get to play cutsie games. I freaking hate okcupid its serial/multi-date galore. Actually POF I have met more guys that I have gone on multiple dates with than Okcupid (and POF has a much smaller selection of these types of quality guys). Strange. Link to post Share on other sites
LSgirl Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 haha omg too funny, fat chick in a garth brooks shirt HAHA we should meet in person and talk about how much people misrepresent themselves. you should try OK Cupid, i only met one guy but he looked like Frodo from Lord of the Rings. OK Cupid was bought out by Match but it's free and pretty popular. But yeah, overall, I don't feel like I'm compatible with anyone on there. My taste in music and movies are too obscure, everybody in my location is in the military or just straight up weirdos. I did notice the people on POF and OK Cupid are the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Lobouspo Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 For whats its worth, I have had more luck with OKC, than I had when I was on Eharmony. Actually had dinner with an architect last week, and she was not bad looking. Also OLD is so skewed towards women that i just refuse to spend a damn penny for any of those paid sites Link to post Share on other sites
Coil Posted March 23, 2012 Share Posted March 23, 2012 i will agree that POF is a messed up place.. But your profile / you seem to fit right in. You need to work on your profile and try to not to be so flaky sounding. You are on a dating site and not looking for a relationship?! ""I don't use drugs and I don't drink. I like punk rock and science fiction movies. I work all the time. Not looking for a girlfriend, not looking for random hookups. Just wanna find a cool girl who's into the same stuff I am and just wants to hang out. Nothing serious."" seriously when you subtract the folks who use drugs, the folks who drink, those who are looking for serious relationships, and those looking for hookups, you are left with very few options. Your best possibly scenario is being contacted by a bisexual obese punk rocker nerd, and she is still going to want something serious. I think that you are on the wrong site really. You need to find plenty of friends or a friend site or something lol. I think most people on that site would find your profile as a turn off. You might as well add that you are not looking for games to your profile etc. basically what I am saying is don't blame POF when you post a profile like that. Link to post Share on other sites
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