snap Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 (edited) I have had a crush on this guy from work for about 6 months... 2 weeks ago at a work event he was all into telling all our co-workers i was his girl friend etc. playing it cool i left early on.... a week later he called me on my work phone for a date...sharing that he got my number through a co-worker, we went out for dinner and drinks that same night.. to keep a long story short.. it was the most amazing date ever.. we are at a small mexican place followed by drinks and played pool at a dive bar... he told me about his ex wife, work, family, everything... we sang, danced, and i fell hard and we both drank way too much. even though we both had to work the next day we kept drinking and paying pool till about 10. He walked me home and continue to come in for a night cap and we made out a bit ( well about 2nd base) and we hung out till 2am The next morning he called as he had left his phone at my place and we met up briefly for the hand off.. since than, i text him a few times to try to get together and he keeps replying maybe tomorrow, maybe later... maybe, maybe, maybe... my gut tells me that he is a mature man and would not disrespect me as a co-worker and especially since he went through all the trouble of tracking down my number etc. i just cant believe that this amazing night didn't turn into anything else in his mind.... should i just keep playing it cool for the sake of work.. or call him out and get over it??? Edited March 20, 2012 by snap fuller story
veggirl Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Okay, first of all, please realize your "amazing" night was dictated by alcohol. Almost everyone has amazing nights when out drinking with fun people. Second of all, you fell hard midway through your first date?! What?? Third of all, he introduced you as his girlfriend before he even had your phone number?! Wow. Well, stop contacting him. he is clearly not reciprocating. And btw, boys come in all ages, this man of your dreams sounds like a boy who is not interested but doesn't have the balls to admit that. Please don't call him out. I know it's tempting to do, but you are already doing all the initiating and he is trying his hardest to blow you off. Don't be "that girl" by demanding an explanation after one date. Perhaps he picked up on your needyness/clingyness? I sure did...
Author snap Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 thank you, i need to hear the frank truth!
veggirl Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Just relax in the future. Don't get so caught up in the fun excitement of a great first date. Take it for what it is, push back the inclination to start mentally living and planning your life with the guy.
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