I have no name Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I've been on 5 dates with this girl that I met at a bar. We have been taking things slow and have only made out. Nothing more. But things seem to be going good and she's definitely interested. Her birthday is this Sunday and so I was planning on taking her out for dinner on the weekend. However I'm kind of confused as to whether or not I have to buy her a gift. I don't want to seem cheap but at the same time, I'm not sure if it's too soon to buy her a present. So what do you guys think, should I buy her something? And if so, how much do you think is reasonable to spend. I'm not cheap and I'm willing to spend a decent amount of money but I don't want to seem desperate. Any input? Also girls, would you expect/want a gift if you were in this situation? Thanks
dasein Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 The dinner itself would be a nice gift, or a very inexpensive gift if you decide to get her one, something consumable like a bottle of wine is always a safe bet for this timeframe.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Flowers. It's the gesture not the present especially since you guys have only been on 5 dates.
FitChick Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 The dinner itself would be a nice gift, or a very inexpensive gift if you decide to get her one, something consumable like a bottle of wine is always a safe bet for this timeframe. Yes, make a point of saying you want to take her out for a special birthday dinner and ask her what type of food would she like. Then arrange for the place to give her a cupcake with a candle in it. Just kidding! Unless she likes cupcakes.
Author I have no name Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Answer me this: Has she actually DONE anything to deserve a gift? You're only going on dates, don't even think about giving a girl a gift before you've been out with her for at least like 4 months. By giving her a gift you lower your value in conjunction with her; however, buying a joke gift/card could be appropriate, e.g. woopey cushion. (kidding... kinda.) Well when you put it that way, I guess she hasn't really done that much to deserve a gift lol But I just feel like I have to get her something. I like the flower idea. Nice and simple. Maybe a bit too chiche but that's not neccesarily a bad thing. And as far as avoiding the dinner date because it's boring, I see where you're coming from there and I actually agree. But all our dates have been on the fun/creative side and I haven't taken her out for a nice meal yet so I figured this would be a good time to do it. And our conversations are never awkward/boring so I'm not too worried about that. Thanks for the advice guys!
Leigh 87 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I second the flowers idea. Just show her you think she is a great girl - not getting her ANYTHING will be rude. I would be offended it it were me. I would not expect much, but either a nice card and movie date or something more thrilling, as the last poster suggested... or simply flowers and a card. NOthing over the top, but do show her you care. Perhaps u could tell her to keep a date free at or around her birthday, and take her to the beach with food u have packed - nice bread, wine, a meal u have cooked. I REALLY would NOT buy her more than a car and/or flowers at this stage. To the person who said no figt until 3 or 4 MONTHS? really? LOL. A lot of people fall in LOVE at this stage.
thehead Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Flowers. It's the gesture not the present especially since you guys have only been on 5 dates. Bring a nice bouquet of flowers when you pick her up for dinner. It's not too personal but lets her know you care.
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