himynameislukie Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Hi Guys, I have been doing a lot of reading on this forum since my split, I have taken a lot of advice in and I must admit it does help. I thought I would share my story, I'm 25, she is 20 I had been with my EX for 4 years we was each other first real love. She ended our relationship 3 days before Christmas & her birthday (her birthday is Christmas day) so as you can probably imagen bad timing IMO. She said she was unhappy although we never really talked about that, well I never noticed to be honest, we did start arguing more then average towards the end but I never really though it would come to an end. Although she said she was unhappy her excuse for us ending changes eg I've herd from her - I love you but im not in love with you, we wasn't working, #So much has happened and much more excuse's it changed every time I asked, From what I have red and can gather it is something to do with GIGS though, and yes I made the mistake of begging and pleading and trying to win her back etc for two months... Anyway after finally realising we are over I found this forum 2/3 weeks ago and just took a lot of advice from it, mainly put NC into action but she started emailing me, not about our relationship but about her website, I'm a freelance designer and I did her a website 2 weeks or so after breaking up as a favour but I took it down around a month ago as I was paying hosting for it told her obviously I'm not going to pay anymore and I transfured her domain to her etc as I just wanted to put NC into action so she would have no reason to contact me. Anyway she started getting in contact asking what to do with her domain etc but I ignored it all as I had already told her weeks ago. But then yesterday she was going on how she wanted her website back online so I broke no contact explaining I told her ages why I took it offline, then it went onto what's all this about you getting on every girl (which I ain't) I don't know who is telling her stuff to be honest, anyway further down the email conversations I figured something was wrong eg she lost her job... which I asked her directly if she did and she said she has but I also asked if she had done anything with anyone in the same email I basically though if she has then maybe I wouldn't care that she lost her job and feel bad and try help her out which to be honest didn't really work out as it turned out she got off with a lad she hangs about with when out with her mate clubbing, oh yeah she is out every weekend too. I just wanted to share that breaking NC is a pretty bad idea, for whatever reason... I honestly mainly broke NC to tell her no you can't have your website as I don't want contact with you of which we would need to keep it running. I do have her question though, why is she emailing me?
minee Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I'm sorry... but I can't help to comment on your age differences.. when you guys got together she was 16 and you were 21.. isn't that illegal?
Author himynameislukie Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 I'm sorry... but I can't help to comment on your age differences.. when you guys got together she was 16 and you were 21.. isn't that illegal? No, not in England anyway and if it was I would not go there! But yeah you are right sound's a bit iffey but to be honest I did have to think to myself for 2 weeks about even asking her out because because of the age reason but she started at where I used to work one day and like I don't know how to explain it but when I first saw her It was like that feeling I guess I just looked up seen her sister showing her round the restaurant and boom it hit me, I have been out with plenty of women before her and never got that... then after that we got on amazingly well for months and she seem'd right to me I guess so I walked her home from work one day and went from there.
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