lexaton Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 So my boyfriend broke up with me because I looked through his cell because some girl was texting him. Said I mistrusted him and then was dishonest. So he flipped, Broke up with me in a snap of the fingers, Said he needed space and thats it. Then a few days later finally agrees to see me. He decides he wants to get back with me and he can get over this. The thing that is tough is that I feel like a lot of his trust was broken because he broke up with me so fast and closed off from wanting to work it out. He caused so much pain and hurt I am not sure how long it will take me to bounce back from this. In the past we have always said there isn't much that we couldnt be able to get through, that I am worth the work, that he wants to make me happy and he is in for the long haul. But my issue is that if we argue again is he going to breakup with me and then just shut down without working through it first? I trusted him before to not do that but now that he clearly has done that I am scared it may happen again. He did not anything super reassuring to tell me when I asked him about it. He said he can't promise tomorrow and can only plan day by day. No guarentees. I don't know how to feel or respond to this. I want him to work through things before breaking up not visa versa. Any recommendations?
Author lexaton Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 tell him how you feel? I did and he was like I cannot promise tomorrow and I only want to worry about right now. Right now I want to be with you and I think we can work through this.
CaliBabe Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 This is where communication is really needed. You will both have to be willing to speak candidly and openly. You both have to earn eachothers trust again and that takes work. Almost going out of your way to make sure the other person is comfortable. It's possible but will take some time, please communicate, it has to come to a point where he gets it for you to trust him again.
Author lexaton Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 This is where communication is really needed. You will both have to be willing to speak candidly and openly. You both have to earn eachothers trust again and that takes work. Almost going out of your way to make sure the other person is comfortable. It's possible but will take some time, please communicate, it has to come to a point where he gets it for you to trust him again. Yeah I need him to say he is willing to do whatever it takes to make the relationship work.
veggirl Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Wait, so your BF goes behind your back, texts other girls, you find out and then he manages to twist things so that it is YOUR fault? Did he acknowledge what HE did? What is the story with the girl?? He is manipulating you because you are letting him. He dumps YOU because of what HE was doing? and then you go back to him? Cmon. You need to look out for yourself, this guy is scum. 6
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 If i could 'like' the above post 100 times over - i would.....
M2155 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 1000% was thinking what veggirl said too. Fool me twice....
RobotNano Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Trust; I do not know how to write this, but will do my best. Myself doesn't own a cellphone (yet). Did but was a waste at the time. But in my relationship I shouldn't have anything to hide, even on a cellphone, FB or anywhere,. If my partner wants to get curious, I would let him, to help increase trust, unless if it is a surprise party, present or something planned for fun, but do not do changes without my permission. Want to use cellphone, can ask. I do not know how anyone feels about this. The one that was more dishonest was your partner.
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