lexaton Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 So my boyfriend broke up with me because I looked through his cell because some girl was texting him. Said I mistrusted him and then was dishonest. So he flipped, Broke up with me in a snap of the fingers, Said he needed space and thats it. Then a few days later finally agrees to see me. He decides he wants to get back with me and he can get over this. The thing that is tough is that I feel like a lot of his trust was broken because he broke up with me so fast and closed off from wanting to work it out. He caused so much pain and hurt I am not sure how long it will take me to bounce back from this. In the past we have always said there isn't much that we couldnt be able to get through, that I am worth the work, that he wants to make me happy and he is in for the long haul. But my issue is that if we argue again is he going to breakup with me and then just shut down without working through it first? I trusted him before to not do that but now that he clearly has done that I am scared it may happen again. He did not anything super reassuring to tell me when I asked him about it. He said he can't promise tomorrow and can only plan day by day. No guarentees. I don't know how to feel or respond to this. I want him to work through things before breaking up not visa versa. Any recommendations?
Philosoraptor Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 You need to discuss these issues before you commit to this person. If the issues of the past are not fixed then the relationship will likely follow the same path.
Author lexaton Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 You need to discuss these issues before you commit to this person. If the issues of the past are not fixed then the relationship will likely follow the same path. I agree. I have tried to discuss this to him and how he hurt me so much and he basically was like that I have those feelings because I created the mess. He also said he cannot guarantee the future and how things will end up. I don't want him to leave me before trying to work things out. Basically his response is I cant predict the future.
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