cyr22 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 It seems like im tied behind the back, and yet only a handful know my situation and it wont matter how I type this no one will truly know who and I are, giving advice to randoms I cant see as beneficially but Ill write the short form of my situation. I am 25, she is 22. We needed a place to live in the summer of 2011,and I found a place for myself a friend. Problem is we needed a third. She agreed to live with us, even though she hadnt spoken to me in 6 or 7 months. Previous to this we had casual sexual encounters that in the end amounted to nothing. When living together it appears we had grown feelings for eachother, her more so towards me, but I still had strong feelings (this was in november). Unfortunately I couldnt give my all to her, I had many issues on my plate that made me closed off to her, and when it came to giving her attention and having sex it just wasnt meshing. We seemed to bicker over the smallest most stupid things during that time and it was my fault that only until 3 or 4 weeks later, I finally let her into my stressful issues. At this time though, I did not know that she was starting to lose feelings for myself, while a friend of mine was also trying to friend her and such. This ended up her having some sort of feelings for him until he was caught kissing other women at a bar that she was at as well. This caused a riff between my friend, myself and her. I felt betrayed when for the last little while, she always seemed to assume I was the untrustworthy one. Although I never did anything to break her trust. Now that my life is good, ive done everything, i wrote her a huge letter telling her how I feel......flowers, ive talk to her for hours on end.......even so much as last week her missing her train to go home and i got her in my car and drove an hour in a snowstorm to get her to the next train station so she could get on. What did she do? gave me a kiss on the lips and a hug. She also stated that shed be upset if i dated someone else and that she just doesnt want to hear about it. Im trying to hard to get a second chance from her, i have to see her everyday it kills me inside...i just literally cry everyday......and yet shes so hellbent on not giving me a chance....but some of her actions say im still attracted to you and i care for you.....i dont know what to do..how can you care for someone so much supposedly and in a few weeks change your mind when you see them everyday. I personally feel shes got somesort of feelings for me in there but i really dont know. She states that she wants space and she doesnt wannadate anyone and she realized that when she liked me she noticed how jealous she was, by asking me who I was with, and where i was all the time. Part of that also really stressed me out more when i was going through a hard time. Things are different its like this is thw second time in a row our wavelengths arent on the same path. Im afraid to lose her, i care for her a lot...and id rather here theres a small chance than nothing...but my hands are tied i just dont know what to do
Dimitris26 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 How are you financially? Sorry to ask that first but this is the ONLY question right now to make up a plan.
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