Anela Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 He was a feminist Man. You, under another name. Are you a feminist? Are you from that cameldog forum that someone mentioned? Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 That poster was a man, not a feminist.Even worst... basically it's a guy with no self-esteem that has to find attention online because probably no women in life real find him attractive. It's either that or he's simply trying to made a terrible repuation of us. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 On my Friday Night Date there were so many good signs throughout the date and I just knew we would be seeing each other again. I sent her a text last night and I was expecting a response when I woke up this morning and nothing. It's confusing because of the good signs below 1. Offered to pay for my meal-"I didn't accept" 2. Face to face with each other at the cafe and stayed until it closed 3. Lots of Laughter 4. I suggested we catch the bus together 5. Asked me when my birthday was and told me when her birthday was 6. When hugged and I kiss her on the cheek before I got of the bus 7. When the bus dropped me off in front of my door she waited for me to turn around so she could wave bye 8. I sent her a text 3 mins after the date saying I had a good time and she responded with..."me too, I had a good time" 9. She text me to let me know she was home. So since Friday Night I didn't send any texts and decided to send a teasing type of text last night so she would get it when she woke up. When I woke up I see no response to the text??? Now do you see why people look for friends with benefits? After all of those good signs I just don't know how I go on another date in 2012 if I don't get a chance to see her again. I would not have the mental energy to go on another date. So, you waited two days to text her and are freaking out because you sent a text last night and it's what, a little after noon in Philly? PD, the best advice in this thread was from carhill. Call the women directly and set up another date if that's what you want. It doesn't sound like you DO take (your part of) dating seriously, so it's no wonder you're continually frustrating. Link to post Share on other sites
Bob_Funk Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 So looks like I should have asked her to get off the bus to come to my place but I just figured that would be way too inappropiate. lol Which is why you need to plan out the logistics beforehand. Meet near your place, take her back after a few minutes of idle chit-chat, and just go for it. Of course if you don't have your own apartment downtown, you're screwed. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 or such thing as rape. We all know that it is only rape or sexual harassment, if guy is ugly.... BINGO!!!!!!! It's sexual harassment because it's no sexual attraction Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 So, you waited two days to text her and are freaking out because you sent a text last night and it's what, a little after noon in Philly? PD, the best advice in this thread was from carhill. Call the women directly and set up another date if that's what you want. It doesn't sound like you DO take (your part of) dating seriously, so it's no wonder you're continually frustrating. I actually think this is a bad sign. I told her on the bus to call me when she arrived home not text me. So when she gets home she sends a text that read "Home" WTF kind of text is that? Link to post Share on other sites
samsungxoxo Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 So just because he was a Man..it is worst....and he has no game and is a virgin...wow....i would never guess a female say that to a guy she does not like....feminazi much?It's not me. That's what you're displaying on your posts loser. Link to post Share on other sites
serial muse Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 You, under another name. Are you a feminist? Are you from that cameldog forum that someone mentioned? Yep, all of these latest crop of trolls come from that forum. Seriously, starP and redP and SadGirl and whoever the he!! else assuming you aren't all the same sad loser, shouldn't you be practicing your MMA or something? Why are you wasting your time like this? Bruce Lee is rolling in his grave. Link to post Share on other sites
Lostinlife4now Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 PhillyDude!! CALL HER!!!! and if she doesn't pick up....LEAVE HER A MESSAGE!! A nice one. If she doesn't get back to you within 24 hours... Was there any chemical attraction? I hope so...You should find a nice girl! Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 PhillyDude!! CALL HER!!!! and if she doesn't pick up....LEAVE HER A MESSAGE!! A nice one. If she doesn't get back to you within 24 hours... Was there any chemical attraction? I hope so...You should find a nice girl! But after no response to a text sent last night followed by her not picking up the phone when I call, wouldn't that be a bad sign? I won't feel the need to leave a message because I would feel like she is avoiding me by not answering the phone on top of not responding to a text. Link to post Share on other sites
LovJoy Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Do not call her! Reapers are taking Earth..we need more people for the defensive effort! Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 You, under another name. Are you a feminist? Are you from that cameldog forum that someone mentioned? Have they still not got over their obsession with this site? Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 You should have been nicer to Saturday night girl. Karma is a bitch. Definitely should have called. Texting looks bad. Hope you didn't throw out your Chinese menu Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 But after no response to a text sent last night followed by her not picking up the phone when I call, wouldn't that be a bad sign? I told you dude. No matter how well you think the date went, some people will act like it went really well, and then ignore you, thats why you have to always assume you wont hear from them after, and you wont be disappointed. Dates are job interviews. The person interviewing you most likely wont tell you right then that they dont like you, and wouldnt hire you for the job. You cant get attached to the outcome just because you got the date. You have to NOT need the date. There could be things about your personality that she didnt like, or she could be bored and lonely, trying to rebound, you never know what the problem is unless you can pick up on things she says during the date to suggest otherwise. You cant make expectations for any date, no matter how well you think it went. You dont make expectations until you are exclusively dating. You cant get frustrated, this is how it will go until you catch one that really likes you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 You should have been nicer to Saturday night girl. Karma is a bitch. Definitely should have called. Texting looks bad. Hope you didn't throw out your Chinese menu I know one thing, if I don't get in touch with her tonight but instead get a text from the girl I don't want who I met saturday she will get this message "NOT INTERESTED" in a text Link to post Share on other sites
zengirl Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 I actually think this is a bad sign. I told her on the bus to call me when she arrived home not text me. So when she gets home she sends a text that read "Home" WTF kind of text is that? A very short one, but I don't see how it negates all the good signs given. I would've suggested you follow up the very next day if you were interested. Too late now for that but not for a direct approach. Call her, leave her a message if she doesn't answer (I agree with the poster who said that), and ask her out again. She will either say yes, no, or nothing, hopefully yes or no if she is polite. Then you will know and it will be simplified. You make things WAY too complex. But after no response to a text sent last night followed by her not picking up the phone when I call, wouldn't that be a bad sign? I won't feel the need to leave a message because I would feel like she is avoiding me by not answering the phone on top of not responding to a text. I don't know what the text said, so presumably she should (at some point) answer your text. However, if you waited 2 days to text her, I'd give her a full 24 hours to respond for sure. However, if you call and don't leave a message that's way weirder. I'm not sure why you think people are just hanging around their phones waiting for your texts and calls. Link to post Share on other sites
musemaj11 Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Arent you the unemployed guy? As long as you have no job, its wise to accept that you are never going to find a woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 I told you dude. No matter how well you think the date went, some people will act like it went really well, and then ignore you, thats why you have to always assume you wont hear from them after, and you wont be disappointed. Dates are job interviews. The person interviewing you most likely wont tell you right then that they dont like you, and wouldnt hire you for the job. You cant get attached to the outcome just because you got the date. You have to NOT need the date. There could be things about your personality that she didnt like, or she could be bored and lonely, trying to rebound, you never know what the problem is unless you can pick up on things she says during the date to suggest otherwise. You cant make expectations for any date, no matter how well you think it went. You dont make expectations until you are exclusively dating. You cant get frustrated, this is how it will go until you catch one that really likes you. No I'm not frustrated because I didn't spend any money on her just that I want to point out why I like to PAY to PLAY instead of dating. It's just easier than way rather than going on a date in public sitting across from someone and having scripted conversation. So that's why I go on dates once or twice a year because the process is so annoying Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 On my Friday Night Date there were so many good signs throughout the date and I just knew we would be seeing each other again. I sent her a text last night and I was expecting a response when I woke up this morning and nothing. It's confusing because of the good signs below 1. Offered to pay for my meal-"I didn't accept" 2. Face to face with each other at the cafe and stayed until it closed 3. Lots of Laughter 4. I suggested we catch the bus together 5. Asked me when my birthday was and told me when her birthday was 6. When hugged and I kiss her on the cheek before I got of the bus 7. When the bus dropped me off in front of my door she waited for me to turn around so she could wave bye 8. I sent her a text 3 mins after the date saying I had a good time and she responded with..."me too, I had a good time" 9. She text me to let me know she was home. So since Friday Night I didn't send any texts and decided to send a teasing type of text last night so she would get it when she woke up. When I woke up I see no response to the text??? Now do you see why people look for friends with benefits? After all of those good signs I just don't know how I go on another date in 2012 if I don't get a chance to see her again. I would not have the mental energy to go on another date. I would recommend not texting next time and instead call her on the phone. Tell her you had a great time and would like to see her again. If nothing else you'll at least get a immediate response. Texting as a primary medium of communication is lame in general, especially early on. You want to establish yourself as a man. Texting is not the best way to do that. Good luck with your future dates. By the way, most of those signals seem like just common courtesy. Birthday, laughing, waving good bye are not necessarily strong signs of interest. If you were on a date with a girl most of us would be cordial even if we were not interested. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LovJoy Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 Most human females, like free stuff, because they feel entitled to it.... Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 I would recommend not texting next time and instead call her on the phone. Tell her you had a great time and would like to see her again. If nothing else you'll at least get a immediate response. Texting as a primary medium of communication is lame in general, especially early on. You want to establish yourself as a man. Texting is not the best way to do that. Good luck with your future dates. By the way, most of those signals seem like just common courtesy. Birthday, laughing, waving good bye are not necessarily strong signs of interest. If you were on a date with a girl most of us would be cordial even if we were not interested. Good date follow-up formula at 3:20 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Share Posted March 19, 2012 I would recommend not texting next time and instead call her on the phone. Tell her you had a great time and would like to see her again. If nothing else you'll at least get a immediate response. Texting as a primary medium of communication is lame in general, especially early on. You want to establish yourself as a man. Texting is not the best way to do that. Good luck with your future dates. By the way, most of those signals seem like just common courtesy. Birthday, laughing, waving good bye are not necessarily strong signs of interest. If you were on a date with a girl most of us would be cordial even if we were not interested. So you are saying that a girl who waited for me to turn around before I went in the house so she can say bye and then responded to the ext I sent 6 mins later saying she had a good time too was not strong signs? Now I will admit that the STRONGEST SIGN to me would be if we had talked on the phone that same night before she went to sleep. Link to post Share on other sites
TheFinalWord Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 (edited) So you are saying that a girl who waited for me to turn around before I went in the house so she can say bye and then responded to the ext I sent 6 mins later saying she had a good time too was not strong signs? Now I will admit that the STRONGEST SIGN to me would be if we had talked on the phone that same night before she went to sleep. No, I don't think so. Many women feel a need to maintain a certain level of pretend interest to avoid any awkwardness during the date. I've even done that myself. The real test is if she agrees to a follow-up date AND actually meets you for the date. I don't think you had to talk to her on the phone that night. That could come across as needy. Waiting until the next day to call would have been better. I think you sound a bit desperate too. You should watch the full video I posted. She might have picked up on that. You are timing the duration between texting and analyzing all possible scenarios regarding a text. The key sign you are a bit desperate is you have taken a meaningless text message and extrapolated it into a doomsday scenario, i.e. girl did not respond to my text so now I should abandon all hope of relationships with women and only seek FWB Not trying to be hard on your bro. I am just going by your layout of the scenario. Next time you have a good date, wait and call her the next day or at latest the day after and ask her for another date. If she doesn't answer, leave a nice message and don't try to communicate with her again for at least 5 days. Edited March 19, 2012 by TheFinalWord 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 So since Friday Night I didn't send any texts and decided to send a teasing type of text last night so she would get it when she woke up. When I woke up I see no response to the text??? Now do you see why people look for friends with benefits? After all of those good signs I just don't know how I go on another date in 2012 if I don't get a chance to see her again. I would not have the mental energy to go on another date. Chill. Give her some time to respond. Also... give her a REASON to respond. Ask her on another date. Don't freakout because she hasn't contacted you in the last 5 minutes... there is only room for 1 girl in the relationship. (if you get to that stage) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PlumPrincess Posted March 19, 2012 Share Posted March 19, 2012 If you're a girl what is that little thing dangling between your legs? Troll pickle? :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
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