Emilia Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 She knows I have a fetish for a woman to take off her shoes and walk on my back Did she know this before you had your date?
serial muse Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Ok I'm about to go to sleep but after reading several articles and looking at several youtube videos, I have come to the conclusion that it was something I did to turn her off from the time we left the cafe to the time I got off the bus. So i'm not sure if the things below were turn offs but i know for a fact that in that cafe she was totally into me. 1. I mentioned that was my first date since on a friday since last May 2. I sent her a text while we were waiting for a bus to be silly-thought it would be cute 3. Brought up the job situation again while waiting for the bus 4. While on the bus told her I have to check my phone to see if my basketball team won. 5. Once I found out they won I said...."Now I really feel good since I spent a evening with you and my team won, great friday. 6. Mentioned on the bus that I may need to wear glasses soon because my vision seems to be changing as I get older. 7. When I got off the bus and waved bye, I sent a text 2 mins later like this "It was a pleasure meeting you:) So i'm thinking that one of those 7 things from the time I left the cafe may have been a turn off Maybe you shouldn't have brought up the job thing; that's the sort of thing that makes people think you're a golddigger. Actually, though, I suspect that it was the birthdays that did you in. She was comparing zodiac signs...you weren't a match. 2
jerbear Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Maybe you shouldn't have brought up the job thing; that's the sort of thing that makes people think you're a golddigger. Actually, though, I suspect that it was the birthdays that did you in. She was comparing zodiac signs...you weren't a match. The two above and maybe she already has a masters degree or in the process of earning one. The birthdays could be it, the signs are there. 1
sid3 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 The birthdays could be it, the signs are there. Nah, I think number one got him into trouble, from that moment on she was looking for reasons why. Number 2 answered that.
Imajerk17 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I'm curious as to how the girl reacted to your text.
sid3 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I'm curious as to how the girl reacted to your text. She's probably pissed she had to change her number.
Emilia Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 She's probably pissed she had to change her number. . . . . .
jerbear Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 She's probably pissed she had to change her number. Or it ends up on an internet site like textsfromlastnight. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Maybe you shouldn't have brought up the job thing; that's the sort of thing that makes people think you're a golddigger. Actually, though, I suspect that it was the birthdays that did you in. She was comparing zodiac signs...you weren't a match. Both of our birthdays were in the last week of June
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Did she know this before you had your date? Yeah because i sent her a message on OKC asking "would you have a problem taking off your shoes and walking on my back" Her response..."I don't see why not" Maybe I should have brought it up in the cafe-lol
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Yeah because i sent her a message on OKC asking "would you have a problem taking off your shoes and walking on my back" Her response..."I don't see why not" Maybe I should have brought it up in the cafe-lol Um, or not brought it up... ever. Or at least until after you knew each other. I'm surprised she actually went on a date with you haha. That would tip off my creep radar... you must either be really good looking or she was not a B. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 I'm curious as to how the girl reacted to your text. It's a HIT or MISS, i didn't expect her to reply back put i just like to put it out there just in case. Her messages and number were deleted so now I'm moving on and in the process of setting up 3 or 4 dates in the next 8 days.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Um, or not brought it up... ever. Or at least until after you knew each other. I'm surprised she actually went on a date with you haha. That would tip off my creep radar... you must either be really good looking or she was not a B. She said she find fetishes interesting so that's why she was not creeped out. So that's why I was mad at her not calling because how often do you meet a female who is attractive and open to trying out fetishes? I may not ever find that again
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Actually probably a lot more often than you think, but I feel like the more normal ones won't be so upfront about being open to it. Idk why you have to worry about fetishes from the get-go? Can't you just build a relationship, then let her know? Or does it not work like that? I feel like if a girl cares about a guy she'll be open to his sexual fantasies in the end. Especially since yours is relatively harmless. Maybe the BSDM fetishes have to be more upfront though.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 Actually probably a lot more often than you think, but I feel like the more normal ones won't be so upfront about being open to it. Idk why you have to worry about fetishes from the get-go? Can't you just build a relationship, then let her know? Or does it not work like that? I feel like if a girl cares about a guy she'll be open to his sexual fantasies in the end. Especially since yours is relatively harmless. Maybe the BSDM fetishes have to be more upfront though. Well you said my fetish sounds boring lol So i would think it wasn't too creepy
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Well you said my fetish sounds boring lol So i would think it wasn't too creepy It is boring. In relation to other crazy ones.. yours is mild! I'm just saying! Haha. But are you simply looking for a girl to do that for you? Or are you looking for a girlfriend to do that for you? I don't get it. Why would you make your fetish the most important part of your dating life? Is it? I just think if a guy messaged me and wanted to get to know me he'd ask about my dog before he'd let me know what he's expecting sexually. All girls are different though, I just like to think that a guy is expecting more from me than fetish fulfillment. So that shouldn't really be introduced for a while.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 It is boring. In relation to other crazy ones.. yours is mild! I'm just saying! Haha. But are you simply looking for a girl to do that for you? Or are you looking for a girlfriend to do that for you? I don't get it. Why would you make your fetish the most important part of your dating life? Is it? I just think if a guy messaged me and wanted to get to know me he'd ask about my dog before he'd let me know what he's expecting sexually. All girls are different though, I just like to think that a guy is expecting more from me than fetish fulfillment. So that shouldn't really be introduced for a while. Well I''m not really looking for a girlfriend, just recruiting for "safe adult fun buddies' Just so happen that the girl turned out to be dating material on friday night. On the phone she seemed kind of weird which is why I thought she was a prime candidate Qualifications for a Safe Adult Fun Buddy 1. Pleasant 2. Goofy 3. Thick 4. Affectionate 5. Attractive
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Well I''m not really looking for a girlfriend, just recruiting for "safe adult fun buddies' Just so happen that the girl turned out to be dating material on friday night. On the phone she seemed kind of weird which is why I thought she was a prime candidate Qualifications for a Safe Adult Fun Buddy 1. Pleasant 2. Goofy 3. Thick 4. Affectionate 5. Attractive Oh, so you weren't really taking dating seriously to begin with! Just looking for fun. Until you noticed she was pretty. That's a good list.. I guess! Good luck!
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 You forgot to mention: Willing to satisfy my fetish without any sexual contact because I am celibate. I may add that too
RovingReporter Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 PhillyDude, I live in Harrisburg. Next time I come to Philly i'd like to have a drink with you and just kind of be around you. Cool?
Author PhillyDude Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 My friend said today that me not paying for her FOOD may have been the turnoff.
LexiB Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 My friend said today that me not paying for her FOOD may have been the turnoff. Just one of several, I'm guessing... You insisted on spending hours pre-meet talking to this girl, and at the end of all that, take her on a pay-at-the-register dinner date and don't foot the bill. This, on top of whatever other weird vibes you may have given off during the date. I'm sorry, you're upset this didn't work out, but honestly, it's not surprising. 1
Author PhillyDude Posted March 22, 2012 Author Posted March 22, 2012 Just one of several, I'm guessing... You insisted on spending hours pre-meet talking to this girl, and at the end of all that, take her on a pay-at-the-register dinner date and don't foot the bill. This, on top of whatever other weird vibes you may have given off during the date. I'm sorry, you're upset this didn't work out, but honestly, it's not surprising. I know, I screwed up. I have not been on a date since November so I was a little rusty-lol
Star Gazer Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 I know, I screwed up. I have not been on a date since November so I was a little rusty-lol Huh? Don't you go on multiple dates a week?
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