Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 You seem to be so focused on looks! I mean, I know attraction is important, but now that you've went on a date with a girl who is a B+ are you never going to settle for a C? I'm just curious. Only B's. B-, B, and B+ lol C+...........MAYBE Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Wow! You must be, what, at least a B then? Link to post Share on other sites
shorty7 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 A female friend told me years ago that due to the fact I'm 6'5 and 275, a woman will be intimidated by my size and may just go along with the flow of the evening to avoid any type of confrontation So as a man who is 6'5, there is no way for me to tell if a woman is pretending or is actually interested. As a woman of less than 5' stature and less than 100lbs, I assure you that is utter and complete BS. And as a man I'm the complete opposite, if i;m on a date with a woman I don't pretend, I talk less, and laugh very little, and purposely check my phone more. This is assuming you're not interested in the woman; if you do this regardless all the time you might have an answer to why you're not getting a response. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Wow! You must be, what, at least a B then? Yes I always request what I offer back in return Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 As a woman of less than 5' stature and less than 100lbs, I assure you that is utter and complete BS. This is assuming you're not interested in the woman; if you do this regardless all the time you might have an answer to why you're not getting a response. I only do this when I'm on a date and not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Yes I always request what I offer back in return Hahah, good to know. This is going to sound conceited but if I only dated guys who are as good or better looking than me, I'd be narrowing down possibilities quite a bit.. Sometimes dating someone who isn't as good looking as you, or who's just an average C is a good thing. OR you can just hold off on grading their looks as ABC and see what their personality is like. Sometimes a C can make themselves a B+ because they're hilarious. That's the case with guys anyways. But grading people on an ABC scale kind of is starting to gross me out! Haha. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Hahah, good to know. This is going to sound conceited but if I only dated guys who are as good or better looking than me, I'd be narrowing down possibilities quite a bit.. Sometimes dating someone who isn't as good looking as you, or who's just an average C is a good thing. OR you can just hold off on grading their looks as ABC and see what their personality is like. Sometimes a C can make themselves a B+ because they're hilarious. That's the case with guys anyways. But grading people on an ABC scale kind of is starting to gross me out! Haha. Ok on a scale of 1 to 10 I like the range of 8.0 to 8.5 Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Ok on a scale of 1 to 10 I like the range of 8.0 to 8.5 Haha. Clever! Link to post Share on other sites
Jono85 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 haven't followed through the entire thread, but as someone else mentioned, those signs are nothing all that special. they speak nothing to the level of chemistry on the date. they're just 'nice' things to do. most nice people will go through with a date until the end, regardless of if they already know the person isn't for them, and ask questions/be interesting, etc. just b/c she had a good time with you, doesn't mean she sees you as a potential partner. anyway, no worries. it happens to all of us. keep searching, good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
aj22one Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 The title of this thread is correct. No one (guys and gals) should take "dating" seriously. It's not a serious venture. All it is is getting to know someone with some trappings of romance attached. Relationships you build are to be taken seriously though. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 haven't followed through the entire thread, but as someone else mentioned, those signs are nothing all that special. they speak nothing to the level of chemistry on the date. they're just 'nice' things to do. most nice people will go through with a date until the end, regardless of if they already know the person isn't for them, and ask questions/be interesting, etc. just b/c she had a good time with you, doesn't mean she sees you as a potential partner. anyway, no worries. it happens to all of us. keep searching, good luck. Anyone who askes when my birthday is on a date and tell me when hers is and don't want to see me again is ****ing retarded. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Anyone who askes when my birthday is on a date and tell me when hers is and don't want to see me again is ****ing retarded. Seriously!? I think that's actually a really lame attempt at making conversation... not much else. If she had said, "when's your birthday?" and you said "April 10th" And she said, "Oh good that's a Saturday! Have you ever tried the McFosters!? We totally should!" Then that would be freaking "retarded".. and.. creepy. As for just making conversation about birthdays... that's just you reading too much into it I think. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Seriously!? I think that's actually a really lame attempt at making conversation... not much else. If she had said, "when's your birthday?" and you said "April 10th" And she said, "Oh good that's a Saturday! Have you ever tried the McFosters!? We totally should!" Then that would be freaking "retarded".. and.. creepy. As for just making conversation about birthdays... that's just you reading too much into it I think. I'm one going to say this one more time before I explode, no girl needs to know when my ****ing birthday is if we are not seeing each other again. What the **** would she need that information for? I should send her a text asking..."I had forgot to ask you if you like sucking dick" to be smart Link to post Share on other sites
Jono85 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Anyone who askes when my birthday is on a date and tell me when hers is and don't want to see me again is ****ing retarded. lmao ok bud. you don't seem too socially calibrated then if that's what you believe. it's just making conversation. it speaks to nothing of the chemistry between the two of you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 So no girl needs to know basic facts about you!? Doesn't that make first dates so hard to talk during? I mean, what do you talk about then... Dexter? Then she'd have to know you like Dexter.. no girl needs to know you ****ing like Dexter if you are not seeing each other again... as for asking if she likes to suck dick... Yeah! Do it! That sounds really smart! Link to post Share on other sites
Jono85 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 I'm one going to say this one more time before I explode, no girl needs to know when my ****ing birthday is if we are not seeing each other again. What the **** would she need that information for? I should send her a text asking..."I had forgot to ask you if you like sucking dick" to be smart NO GIRL WOULD NEED TO ASK YOU ANYTHING IF SHE DIDN'T WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN. but guess what, some ppl aren't that cold. they sit through the date and try to make a good time of it. you don't really have a clue about potential signs a girl is into you on a first date. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 So no girl needs to know basic facts about you!? Doesn't that make first dates so hard to talk during? I mean, what do you talk about then... Dexter? Then she'd have to know you like Dexter.. no girl needs to know you ****ing like Dexter if you are not seeing each other again... as for asking if she likes to suck dick... Yeah! Do it! That sounds really smart! She asked me the birthday question at the end of the date while we were waiting for the Bus and told me hers so that's why I thought it was a good sign. Then again maybe I'm retarded since this dating sh*T is so confusing Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 NO GIRL WOULD NEED TO ASK YOU ANYTHING IF SHE DIDN'T WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN. but guess what, some ppl aren't that cold. they sit through the date and try to make a good time of it. you don't really have a clue about potential signs a girl is into you on a first date. No I don't so tell me so I will know for the future Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Ah no, you're not, it's confusing. It sucks. But you do seem to think too much of little things and get angry when they aren't what you think they are. I think a key part of dating has to be to not read into everything, and to not care too much too quickly. And you seem to discard the idea of even speaking to a girl who is slightly beneath your standards... when maybe you shouldn't be so quick to judge. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 So besides a female sitting on my dick at the end of the night what other signs are good on the 1st date?? LOL Link to post Share on other sites
Jono85 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 No I don't so tell me so I will know for the future I'm no master of it, but I think that chemistry trumps all. The great dates that I've been on, the girl can't stop grinning throughout the entire date or laughing. The conversation usually ends up just flowing naturally, and nothing seems forced. Usually you can just feel the energy of a good date. It's got very little to do with what was actually said. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 I'm no master of it, but I think that chemistry trumps all. The great dates that I've been on, the girl can't stop grinning throughout the entire date or laughing. The conversation usually ends up just flowing naturally, and nothing seems forced. Usually you can just feel the energy of a good date. It's got very little to do with what was actually said. That's everything that happened on friday night. all through the date, face to face and smiling staring into my eyes Link to post Share on other sites
sweetsmmr91 Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 Ugh, I never understand why men speak so bluntly! haha It's hard for girls to do this, because I'm totally weird about my signals. I think my physical signals are more noticeable than my "speaking" or whatever else. I tend to brush my hair behind my ears and bite my lip and smile excessively when I like someone. Umm things girls would say.. I don't know. I just flirt excessively and talk fast. Make jokes, be adorable. You should be able to tell if a girl is trying to be cute and make you like her.. I feel like girls are so much easier to read than guys are! I guess, it varies for different girls. I always want to walk around downtown, and give the guy a chance to hold my hand/put his hand on the small of my back. Just at a dinner table though, I don't think basic conversation and learning about someone else is anything more than common courtesy and normalcy. And usually first dates don't go further than normal talk because you don't want to be weird or creepy. I tend to just let my weirdness shine through if I like a guy though, so who knows. That's a hard question, sorry I'm no help! Haha Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted March 21, 2012 Share Posted March 21, 2012 You can't network if the person doesn't call in order to be platonic friends. She doesn't even know I'm open to platonic friends because she hasn't called Keep in mind, you actually need to be ok being platonic friends... not an orbiter. If I like a guy too much, it would be impossible for me to be platonic... at least not right away. Eventually, sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 21, 2012 Author Share Posted March 21, 2012 Keep in mind, you actually need to be ok being platonic friends... not an orbiter. If I like a guy too much, it would be impossible for me to be platonic... at least not right away. Eventually, sure. My dumb a$$ went for a kiss so that's probably why she feel I don't want a platonic friendship Link to post Share on other sites
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