Star Gazer Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 By the way, most of those signals seem like just common courtesy. Birthday, laughing, waving good bye are not necessarily strong signs of interest. If you were on a date with a girl most of us would be cordial even if we were not interested. Agreed. Since he's not courteous to ANYONE, I'm not surprised that PD took those basic decent actions as "good signs" of interest. Link to post Share on other sites
fishtaco Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Well it's not that easy for me because I rely on OLD to meet women. So it's not like I can pick up and meet someone else. That's the problem with being a shy guy Oh, that's unfortunate. You know just because you're shy, the world isn't going to cut you some slack and lower the difficulty level for you. You and me, we face the same challenges. So it's to your best interest to develop tools that allow you to deal with these challenges. Can you overcome your shyness? At one point during my teenage years, I couldn't even talk to women. But I was able to get over it. Then later, through trial and error, and being on the receiving end of plenty of bad dating behavior, I managed to learn the game. Now I can say I'm average, and average is actually not bad, unless your goal is to sleep with 10,000 women before you die. But good job on trying. Even if you don't succeed, every experience is valuable. The more you do it, the better you'll get at it. Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Well it's not that easy for me because I rely on OLD to meet women. So it's not like I can pick up and meet someone else. That's the problem with being a shy guy Then stop relying on OLD, stop being shy, and go chat up women in public. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Well hopefully I can atleast get some fetish activity out of this if she has no romantic interest-lol Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Edirol Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Unemployed guy can't get a date, news at eleven. It's a good thing she didn't offend you even more by asking how the job search was going. So, how's the job search going? I just spit up my drink... :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 No I mean if I'm waiting for a call back from a woman I want and a woman who i don't WANT calls first it will probably make me snap out and be rude to her because of her bad timing. Yes, that's what I understood. Don't take it personally; that's not something that you should snap out over. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Yes, that's what I understood. Don't take it personally; that's not something that you should snap out over. I can't help it, I just hate that life has to be that way when it comes to dating. The females you want take forever to call while the ones you don't want call faster. It almost seems like someone planned it that way so they can see me get irritated. Link to post Share on other sites
Cypress25 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 The females you want take forever to call while the ones you don't want call faster. It almost seems like someone planned it that way so they can see me get irritated. No, it's just that the females you want...well, other guys want them too. And the other guys have more to offer than you do. I mean, let's be honest: You're rude, stingy, entitled, and vindictive. Who could resist that? Link to post Share on other sites
Motor35 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Well hopefully I can atleast get some fetish activity out of this if she has no romantic interest-lol do you even know what a *fetish* is? Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Well I just called and NO ANSWER like I expected-lol I left a message and will give it to this time on Wednesday Night, I don't hear from her I will send a text message asking her to play with me for a financial favor Link to post Share on other sites
RovingReporter Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 OneGoal, you've been discovered my friend. Nice try! Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 do you even know what a *fetish* is? WACKY PLEASURE-lol Link to post Share on other sites
Cypress25 Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I left a message and will give it to this time on Wednesday Night, I don't hear from her I will send a text message asking her to play with me for a financial favor And what do you think her response will be? She's not a prostitute and she's making it clear that she's not interested in you. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 And what do you think her response will be? She's not a prostitute and she's making it clear that she's not interested in you. what if she takes him up on the offer? Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 And what do you think her response will be? She's not a prostitute and she's making it clear that she's not interested in you. At that point it won't matter what her response would be. That's what I was saying this morning when I started this thread but so many posters kept posting that she may not have checked her phone, and call her tonight. It's rough when you have nothing but good signs and there is no call back. I kind of wished she had never responded to my text after I got off the bus. Atleast I would not why she didn't respond today or not answer the phone Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 what if she takes him up on the offer? Exactly-lol It will go something like this "hey I was wondering would you be interested in receiving a $100 Amex Card to come over and have some safe adult fun with me? lol I sent that to a girl last year and she was saying she had to think about it-lol It's nothing to think about it, YES or NO Link to post Share on other sites
RovingReporter Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 Why is everyone taking it so easy on this guy? He's going to dis-respect this girl and treat her like a whore simply because she isn't interested in his unemployed ass. PhillyDude, you're a loser and you will be single for a long time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 Why is everyone taking it so easy on this guy? He's going to dis-respect this girl and treat her like a whore simply because she isn't interested in his unemployed ass. PhillyDude, you're a loser and you will be single for a long time. I don't have any respect for a woman who can't be straight up with me and let me know that it's not a connection. Link to post Share on other sites
RovingReporter Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 I don't have any respect for a woman who can't be straight up with me and let me know that it's not a connection. You're such a turd. I think you should stop dating until you find a job and learn a thing or two about proper human interaction. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 So, how did the other dates go? I would think, if you're dating a number of ladies, the response from any one lady wouldn't rise to the level of annoying. In the future, try this. Call her back and ask her out when you feel like it. Whatever the answer is, even the voice mail abyss, accept it. Enjoy more dates with other ladies. Etc, Etc. You had a good time on the date with this lady. Not everything has to have a future. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 It could be she's not interested after meeting. It happens to all of us, there is just no real connection even though it might seem like it at the time. It is possible for one party to perceive a connection and the other not. But there are a few things I think worth mentioning: Leaving it a couple of days before a follow-up text is a bit of a long time. If a guy is really interested, he's likely to make contact each day. It's not a good idea to send multiple texts and become stalkery but showing an interest in communicating is a good move. If a guy only contacts me once every few days, and I've been out with him and thought we got on well, then I'll think he's only thinking of me every couple of days. I'd like to think I was on his mind a bit more than that. What kind of teasing text did you send her? I have been out with guys who have been nice, gentlemanly and seemed decent guys. We've got on well and agreed to meet up again in the near future. Then, the guy sends me a 'flirty' text with very suggestive language. Considering I liked him because he was a gent and knew how to behave with women (amongst other things), it's actually not amusing to receive a text like that, but a huge disappointment. All of a sudden, he's just like all the rest. So I have a dilemma: do I meet up with the nice guy or the leary one? As the nice guy has apparently transformed into the leary one and thinks he owns me sexually all of a sudden, there isn't a choice any more. I ignore his text and switch off. Only you know what kind of text you sent and it may have been sweet and harmless, but if it was clearly suggestive, you could have tipped the balance. Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted March 20, 2012 Share Posted March 20, 2012 On my Friday Night Date there were so many good signs throughout the date and I just knew we would be seeing each other again. I sent her a text last night and I was expecting a response when I woke up this morning and nothing. It's confusing because of the good signs below 1. Offered to pay for my meal-"I didn't accept" 2. Face to face with each other at the cafe and stayed until it closed 3. Lots of Laughter 4. I suggested we catch the bus together 5. Asked me when my birthday was and told me when her birthday was 6. When hugged and I kiss her on the cheek before I got of the bus 7. When the bus dropped me off in front of my door she waited for me to turn around so she could wave bye 8. I sent her a text 3 mins after the date saying I had a good time and she responded with..."me too, I had a good time" 9. She text me to let me know she was home. So since Friday Night I didn't send any texts and decided to send a teasing type of text last night so she would get it when she woke up. When I woke up I see no response to the text??? Now do you see why people look for friends with benefits? After all of those good signs I just don't know how I go on another date in 2012 if I don't get a chance to see her again. I would not have the mental energy to go on another date. Getting worked up over a girl you've known for one night ... a few hours at best? I can beat that story ... badly ... and many times over. That's how life goes man. Keep trucking along. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 You're such a turd. I think you should stop dating until you find a job and learn a thing or two about proper human interaction. Stop talking to me before I report for harassment Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 So, how did the other dates go? I would think, if you're dating a number of ladies, the response from any one lady wouldn't rise to the level of annoying. In the future, try this. Call her back and ask her out when you feel like it. Whatever the answer is, even the voice mail abyss, accept it. Enjoy more dates with other ladies. Etc, Etc. You had a good time on the date with this lady. Not everything has to have a future. I wasn't attracted to the other two girls so those dates don't matter. Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Share Posted March 20, 2012 So, how did the other dates go? I would think, if you're dating a number of ladies, the response from any one lady wouldn't rise to the level of annoying. In the future, try this. Call her back and ask her out when you feel like it. Whatever the answer is, even the voice mail abyss, accept it. Enjoy more dates with other ladies. Etc, Etc. You had a good time on the date with this lady. Not everything has to have a future. Call her back and ask her out on her machine?-lol Link to post Share on other sites
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