dasein Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Whether she accepts your next invitation, whether she responds favorably to physical advances, all that matters, the rest is noise, waving, smiling, "home" texts, etc., all noise. Simplify your thinking in this way and save youself lots of angst dating new women.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 No, I don't think so. Many women feel a need to maintain a certain level of pretend interest to avoid any awkwardness during the date. I've even done that myself. The real test is if she agrees to a follow-up date AND actually meets you for the date. I don't think you had to talk to her on the phone that night. That could come across as needy. Waiting until the next day to call would have been better. I think you sound a bit desperate too. You should watch the full video I posted. She might have picked up on that. You are timing the duration between texting and analyzing all possible scenarios regarding a text. The key sign you are a bit desperate is you have taken a meaningless text message and extrapolated it into a doomsday scenario, i.e. girl did not respond to my text so now I should abandon all hope of relationships with women and only seek FWB Not trying to be hard on your bro. I am just going by your layout of the scenario. Next time you have a good date, wait and call her the next day or at latest the day after and ask her for another date. If she doesn't answer, leave a nice message and don't try to communicate with her again for at least 5 days. Even if she agrees to go out with me again it's not going to be this weekend. I just want to confirm if she has a interest in seeing me face to face again. And I sent one text since I date so how the hell is that desperate? Unless you mean from my post on here
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Chill. Give her some time to respond. Also... give her a REASON to respond. Ask her on another date. Don't freakout because she hasn't contacted you in the last 5 minutes... there is only room for 1 girl in the relationship. (if you get to that stage) Well I'm glad a have a platonic friend fetish-lol Because I know for a fact that she got the text this morning before she left and has made no effort to respond and it's almost 5pm. What will confirm this is when I call tonight and she doesn't answer.
PlumPrincess Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 So looks like I should have asked her to get off the bus to come to my place but I just figured that would be way too inappropiate. lol Please have enough brains to pick advice from the right people... Just yesterday I thought, you must be really good-looking otherwise you wouldn't get dates considering how little smart you often sound.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Please have enough brains to pick advice from the right people... Just yesterday I thought, you must be really good-looking otherwise you wouldn't get dates considering how little smart you often sound. I was joking, I would never have asked her to do that at 10pm on a friday night knowing she doesn't drive. But there is probably a guy who would have had the skills to get her to walk off the bus and come inside his apt have sex with her and she leaves the next morning
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Well I'm glad a have a platonic friend fetish-lol Because I know for a fact that she got the text this morning before she left and has made no effort to respond and it's almost 5pm. What will confirm this is when I call tonight and she doesn't answer. Give her a call... leave a message inviting her to something. If that doesn't work try again in 2 weeks. Still nothing... move on. Sorry but they don't all work out.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Give her a call... leave a message inviting her to something. If that doesn't work try again in 2 weeks. Still nothing... move on. Sorry but they don't all work out. If I call and get the voicemail and there is no response to my message by end of the day on Wednesday, I'm sending a proposition text message for her to receive a financial gift to play with me at my place"
TheFinalWord Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Even if she agrees to go out with me again it's not going to be this weekend. I just want to confirm if she has a interest in seeing me face to face again. And I sent one text since I date so how the hell is that desperate? Unless you mean from my post on here Yes, I mean your overall posts. No, one text isn't desperate. What is desperate is taking one text and from there extrapolating that there is no hope for relationships, you are mentally drained, and thus men should only seek FWB. You can do whatever you wish. You seem to still not see what I mean, which is okay. Maybe after you get tired of casual sex you will be open to learning from your mistakes. Best of luck!
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 If I call and get the voicemail and there is no response to my message by end of the day on Wednesday, I'm sending a proposition text message for her to receive a financial gift to play with me at my place" That's totally up to you. I try not to take these things personal.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Yes, I mean your overall posts. No, one text isn't desperate. What is desperate is taking one text and from there extrapolating that there is no hope for relationships, you are mentally drained, and thus men should only seek FWB. You can do whatever you wish. You seem to still not see what I mean, which is okay. Maybe after you get tired of casual sex you will be open to learning from your mistakes. Best of luck! This has been something I been going through since 2000. Now last summer I was able to meet someone nice and but out of 12 years, I only had about 3 good years of dating which was 2007, 2008 and 2011. All the other years it's been one struggle after another so at some point you just would rather look for FUN instead of going on a date.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 This has been something I been going through since 2000. Now last summer I was able to meet someone nice and but out of 12 years, I only had about 3 good years of dating which was 2007, 2008 and 2011. All the other years it's been one struggle after another so at some point you just would rather look for FUN instead of going on a date. Dude, why do you let yourself get so worked up about dates? Why cant you brush them of for what they are so that you dont get frustrated?
LexiB Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 But after no response to a text sent last night followed by her not picking up the phone when I call, wouldn't that be a bad sign? I won't feel the need to leave a message because I would feel like she is avoiding me by not answering the phone on top of not responding to a text. Have you ever heard of missing a call? It's like you don't believe it's possible for a girl to have anything going on in her life that could distract her from answering you. Leave a message. If she doesn't answer you after that, then flip out. All of your "I'm so frustrated with dating!!" threads are so premature. I know one thing, if I don't get in touch with her tonight but instead get a text from the girl I don't want who I met saturday she will get this message "NOT INTERESTED" in a text WTF would you be so rude? Especially given how sensitive YOU seem to be over much more minute issues. Well I'm glad a have a platonic friend fetish-lol Because I know for a fact that she got the text this morning before she left and has made no effort to respond and it's almost 5pm. What will confirm this is when I call tonight and she doesn't answer. You still haven't mentioned what you wrote. For all we know, she may not have thought your message required an answer. Did you ask her a question? Talk about the weather? What?
Art_Critic Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 It's confusing because of the good signs below You just assumed you are the only guy she is dating The other guy that she saw on Saturday kissed her on the lips and made a move.. he's in.. your out..
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Have you ever heard of missing a call? It's like you don't believe it's possible for a girl to have anything going on in her life that could distract her from answering you. Leave a message. If she doesn't answer you after that, then flip out. All of your "I'm so frustrated with dating!!" threads are so premature. WTF would you be so rude? Especially given how sensitive YOU seem to be over much more minute issues. You still haven't mentioned what you wrote. For all we know, she may not have thought your message required an answer. Did you ask her a question? Talk about the weather? What? I wrote "you probably been sleeping all weekend since I kept you out so late on friday. Don' t be mad at me ok early bird?. That is your new name by the way-lol Have a good Monday"
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 You just assumed you are the only guy she is dating The other guy that she saw on Saturday kissed her on the lips and made a move.. he's in.. your out.. Could be, so that's why I covered on both ends If she is dating another guy and wants to tell me about him that fulfills my "platonic friend fetish" If she picks up and agrees to go out on another date then I have a chance in dating her"
RovingReporter Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Unemployed guy can't get a date, news at eleven. It's a good thing she didn't offend you even more by asking how the job search was going. So, how's the job search going?
LexiB Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I wrote "you probably been sleeping all weekend since I kept you out so late on friday. Don' t be mad at me ok early bird?. That is your new name by the way-lol Have a good Monday" This isn't the kind of message that *requires* a response. Honestly, I'd be just as likely to respond to this as I would be to simply read it, smile and go about my business. <<shrugs>> Call her.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 This isn't the kind of message that *requires* a response. Honestly, I'd be just as likely to respond to this as I would be to simply read it, smile and go about my business. <<shrugs>> Call her. my friend disagrees and said she could have atleast send a smiley face
oaks Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I know one thing, if I don't get in touch with her tonight but instead get a text from the girl I don't want who I met saturday she will get this message "NOT INTERESTED" in a text Are you always this uncouth? Could you, perhaps, convey the same message but in a polite way?
LexiB Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 my friend disagrees and said she could have atleast send a smiley face Right, *could have*, but not neccessary. It was a vague/blah/pointless kinda text. But this is beside the point, just make sure you call her tonight (and either ask her out or leave a message) if you want to settle this once and for all.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Are you always this uncouth? Could you, perhaps, convey the same message but in a polite way? The bad timing would make me explode.
oaks Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 The bad timing would make me explode. Don't take it so personally.
fishtaco Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Meh, it is what it is. Go get another number whether this one responds or not.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Don't take it so personally. No I mean if I'm waiting for a call back from a woman I want and a woman who i don't WANT calls first it will probably make me snap out and be rude to her because of her bad timing.
Author PhillyDude Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Meh, it is what it is. Go get another number whether this one responds or not. Well it's not that easy for me because I rely on OLD to meet women. So it's not like I can pick up and meet someone else. That's the problem with being a shy guy
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