Kidd Posted April 2, 2012 Posted April 2, 2012 This weekend I was able to go through my wife's wallet again, and the business card was gone. I'm not sure of the significance of this. I'm sure she accessed it because she wasn't thinking about him at all. 1
Author gullible Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 I originally posted this in March, 2012. I got some good advice from people on the site and pretty much ignored it. Things continued for several months and then for some reason I decided to check Jim's website. He is a photographer specializing in erotic photos. Guess what I found there? A picture of my wife. Not one that he had taken, but one that I had taken that she had apparently sent to him. He had touched it up so that it wasn't real erotic, but it still bothered me immensely. We went to a festival in October and she said that we should use this time to rejuvinate our marriage. I was willing. All I wanted was for her to be open and honest with me. The first day we were gone I mentioned that she had told me in 2008 that she had cut off all contact with Jim, but I still wondered. I asked her "Have you seen or had any contact with Jim since 2008". She looked me straight in the eye and said "No, and I don't know why you keep asking me this. Have you ever considered that you might be autistic?" I was shocked and didn't know exactly how to react to this. She said that's one sign of autism, when you just can't let go of something and keep harping on it. I ignored it and decided to try again later. That night we went to a masquerade party and she met a man that was dressed as a Catholic priest. She was raised Catholic and they started telling Catholic jokes and really seemed to hit it off. I didn't think much about it. A few days later we were out on the street and just happened to run into this guy. I thought it was strange, but again ignored it. A few days later we went to another party and she ignored me and acted like she was with him. I heard him introduce her to people as his wife. I decided to let it go until we got home. The day after we got home I checked the phone log and found that she had 30-40 texts back and forth from him every day. I confronted her about it and she said that we needed to talk, but she wanted to wait until the weekend. Saturday rolls around and I asked her what was going on. She said "What did you think would happen when I met a man who actually believed I was a woman of value, one who could be loved, valued and not taken for granted? Did you think after years of neglect, I could walk away? " I asked her what she wanted to do. She said she wanted a divorce. I said OK, then we talked about the settlement. She was to remain in the house and I would get an apartment. Then she asked if I could be out by Friday. I was anxious also, so I was out. I asked if we could continue to be friends. That was early November. Late December rolls around and she tells me that she's seeing someone new. She dumped the guy from the festival because he turned out to be a jerk. I suspect she also found out he didn't have money. She tole me that the new guy is a millionaire. She'd had two dates with him and the 3rd date is always the big date. However, he is bartending for a friend on New Year's eve, so would I like to take her out for New Years eve. Like a fool, I said sure. She said "You're not driving home after drinking, you're spending the night with me". Then she said "You said you wanted to be friends, can we be friends with benefits". Like an idiot, I said yes. Then she told me she still loved me and wanted to get back together. She said she had a date with new guy on Friday but she would cancel it if I asked her to. I said, "no, go ahead". She's told me quite a bit about new guy and apparently he's a jerk also. She hasn't mentioned getting back together since New Years, but I suspect that she would jump at the chance. Our divorce will be final this week, and I'm having second thoughts. Am I doing the right thing? I do miss her. Should I try again? Am I making a big mistake in divorcing her?
whichwayisup Posted March 11, 2013 Posted March 11, 2013 NO. DO DIVORCE HER and stop having sex with her. End things completely. She is not your friend at all. your wife is selfish and mean, using you along the way, cheating and going for millionaires, yet wants you on the side. Man, she's manipulating you big time so stop thinking with the wrong head here and cut her out of your life. 1
Author gullible Posted March 11, 2013 Author Posted March 11, 2013 Oh my god, man. Run for the hills. Very good advice, except I live in Florida. There ain't no hills around here. 1
leonine Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Very good advice, except I live in Florida. There ain't no hills around here. However close the nearest hill is (GA?), you want to be twice as far away from this woman. 1
BetrayedH Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 Please understand that I don't say this lightly. Unless you want to be a cuckold that permits his wife to have sex with other men, you need to run. If you have any questions, they should only be, "How far?" or "How fast?" There is life after detaching from these insane women but it doesn't start until you actually detach from them. 2
Running Man Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I ignored it and decided to try again later. That night we went to a masquerade party and she met a man that was dressed as a Catholic priest. She was raised Catholic and they started telling Catholic jokes and really seemed to hit it off. I didn't think much about it. A few days later we were out on the street and just happened to run into this guy. I thought it was strange, but again ignored it. A few days later we went to another party and she ignored me and acted like she was with him. I heard him introduce her to people as his wife. I decided to let it go until we got home. The day after we got home I checked the phone log and found that she had 30-40 texts back and forth from him every day. I confronted her about it and she said that we needed to talk, but she wanted to wait until the weekend. There are a whole lot of obvious red flags you decided to ignore to the point of being ridiculously naive. For awhile I thought this was a fake post because it. The next time something like this happens with any women you decide to be in a relationship with, DON'T IGNORE IT or SETTLE FOR A BS EXCUSE. 1
Bryanp Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 I think you get off getting played. You need therapy to understand why you tolerate such humiliation and disrespect. She will use you until she finds someone else. She has shown that she has absolutely no respect for you and you have no respect for yourself. This will end very badly for you. If you do not respect yourself then who will? 1
Oberfeldwebel Posted March 12, 2013 Posted March 12, 2013 She is an addiction for you, but you need to break the cycle. You can continue along this road for years OR go find a woman that deserves your loyalty.
Author gullible Posted March 13, 2013 Author Posted March 13, 2013 The divorced is now final. Thanks to everyone for the good advice.
2sunny Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 The divorced is now final. Thanks to everyone for the good advice. That's good to hear! Have you cut all communication with her?
Just a Guy Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 Good for you Gullible! Now go forth and find a rip roaring new life for your self. My best wishes to you. Cheers!
stillafool Posted March 14, 2013 Posted March 14, 2013 The divorced is now final. Thanks to everyone for the good advice. I don't believe you. I think you just said that to somehow end this thread. I hope you regain your self-respect and never let anyone treat you the way you have allowed your wife to treat you. You should have stood up for yourself the first time you suspected her of anything. 1
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