Fab001 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 (edited) Now, my ex wrote a few songs and published on his fb page (damn fb and who ever invented it). As one explicitly referred to a situations we agreed we would have not talked about to anyone (gentlemen agreement they call it: verbal, not legally binding), i called him as I was furious about it, it was really touching a very personal and private situation in our relationship nobody should have not known about and he not only did not keep his mouth shut but even published a song for the world whose lyrics revealed it all... He told me he knows it would have hurt me but he hoped not to be caught as I should have not gone to see his FB page (public for everyone as everyone needed to know his song) in other words, to him it was my fault. After an email from me (with a bit on a legal tone), he reluctantly agreed to hide the post from fb BUT he told me he would have published the CD anyhow (apparently he had an agreement with a recording label) and that I could have not done anything about it. And he was right: I could have not objected to it in any way. Gentlemen agreements as not forceable by law. So i just tried to ignore it and move on (and wrote my previous post ab. slandering over here). Now, I came to know/understand (via fb again) that his deal with the recording label did not work out. The CD wont be published. Good for me, however: I have come to know he told some of his fb friends (not all of them as some are involved in recording labels too but the virtual friends, who knows them in RL?) that he gave up to publish his CD as I would have been suicidal and threatened him to commit suicide if he would have published the CD. What a coward hypocritical is that? Covering his artistic failure by slandering me with such an accusation? Now what would you do if you were me? I am afraid his FB friends would not witness against him even if they knew the truth and have not clear enough evidences to say his FB friends posts (bitching generally people wanting to commit suicide and all) refer to me... I am here totally furious. I am keen to write him an email but would it work again? And if he tells me I am dreaming that's in all in my head? Edited March 19, 2012 by Fab001
Exit Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 If I were you? I'd stay away from Facebook, remove this person from my life, and move on. We've all had to deal with exes who like to talk about us and run our name through the mud and tell stories to people that involve personal matters that we wish had been kept private, but we don't make a legal case out of it. Keeping in contact with him and sending emails and looking at his Facebook is just giving him more material to laugh about with his friends. Stop giving him more ammunition to use against him. Move on and live a happy life and if months from now he's still trying to make a joke out of you maybe other people will think "get over it, when's the last time you even heard from that person?". Leave it alone.
Author Fab001 Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 but we don't make a legal case out of it. I also don't otherwise I wouldn't be here on LS to ask for advice :-) if months from now he's still trying to make a joke out of you maybe other people will think "get over it"... You got a point even if it's not ab out simple jokes only but I guess it does not change things much...
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