Tiera D Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 i need help in a situation tommorrow is my ex birthday should i send her a simple text or just keep NC im in 6 days at the moment,my breakup story is somewhere in Second Chance hope can get some suggestions in this matter thanks :0 TD
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 send her nothing, do not communicate, do not send a single letter of a single word of a single text. No Contact means exactly that. no exceptions, no provisos no minor excuses or trivial reasons.
Author Tiera D Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 have u read my breakup story?yeah perhaps ur right,she has been distant to me lately but still seems wanting to pick quarell with me,well my plan is 1 month no contact,i just dont want to be mean to her and ruins all chances,she did say my sweet text are pressuring her though TD
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 OK. in case you didn't get that the first time... send her nothing, do not communicate, do not send a single letter of a single word of a single text. No Contact means exactly that. no exceptions, no provisos no minor excuses or trivial reasons. I don't need to read your story. it's unfortunately, tragically, pretty much the same as every break-up story on here...you broke up, you're obsessive about getting her back.... right? Again: no contact means no contact - under any and every circumstance. i would very strongly recommend you read the link in my signature.... and know that not only is it 100% accurate, it also works 100%. EDIT: Just looked at your thread. yeah, you really need to quit obsessing!!
Author Tiera D Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 yeah,so should i do it a month?because il see her in a course 1 month later anyway?or permanent nc? TD
Philosoraptor Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 If contacting her would bring you pain or any sort of expectations, then don't do it. Make no contact until your feelings for her have faded. Strangely enough once they have faded you don't really have any urge to contact them at all.
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 yeah,so should i do it a month?because il see her in a course 1 month later anyway?or permanent nc? TD you do it for as long as it takes for you to look at her and think, "oh, she's a girl i used to know...." incidentally, the person who wrote the 'Caliguy no Contact guide' at the bottom of my signature, had to live with AND work with the woman who cheated on him - and he managed to do everything the guide states. So just because you will be seeing her in a month does not mean, at all, that you will have to end No Contact. it just means you'll have to adjust how you interact with her, and move it from 'broken-hearted romantic' to 'impersonal same-environment' student.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 You shouldn't contact on her birthday, or Christmas, valentines or Groundhog Day. You shouldn't contact her here or there, you shouldn't contact her anywhere. Not in a boat, not with a goat, not in a box, not with a fox, not in a train, not in the rain Do you get the point? 1
Author Tiera D Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 well today is the day and i did not text her,i believe it should be a shock to her since ive been smothering her with presents or sweet texts every important occassion,last time i broke contact she seem very interested in being buddies,but yeah you guyz are right NC rules. But i believe that she would contact me soon,she always does..and im gona act normal but not cruel is that alright?
Philosoraptor Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 well today is the day and i did not text her,i believe it should be a shock to her since ive been smothering her with presents or sweet texts every important occassion,last time i broke contact she seem very interested in being buddies,but yeah you guyz are right NC rules. But i believe that she would contact me soon,she always does..and im gona act normal but not cruel is that alright? You should just kinda not respond at all. Just hit the delete button and move on.
TaraMaiden Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 well today is the day and i did not text her,i believe it should be a shock to her since ive been smothering her with presents or sweet texts every important occassion,last time i broke contact she seem very interested in being buddies,but yeah you guyz are right NC rules. But i believe that she would contact me soon,she always does..and im gona act normal but not cruel is that alright? Act normal, but not cruel - and keep on with No Contact. No contact is not cruel. It's self-preservation. It's looking after your best interests - and right now, your best interests are to keep your distance and not respond to anything, because otherwise it will just start you questioning all over again. the questions are never about what they're doing - the questions are about "what do i do?" And what you do - is to maintain a silence, which will let her know that there is no possibility of her being able to get under your skin....
Author Tiera D Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 but i still love her,its not that i cry anymore or anything,but it would be nice to reunite..its just i did the same thing to my 1st love NC and things,i was the dumper that time although i still love her that time and in the end she had an accident and passed away,i have been guilty more than 5 years,im just worried i would make another wrong decision that cost me,i think my 1st love died in despair and pain.. TD
robertmathis1026 Posted March 23, 2012 Posted March 23, 2012 A simple text message will be good Are you SUFFERING THE PAIN, because your ex DUMP you? Can You imagine, if you can make your ex BEGGING TO BACK WITH YOU? click here to make it HAPPEN!!
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