SJC2008 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I personally think it's overused and is the "company" line when a man or woman doesn't like him/her. BUT I think a woman would whip that card out faster IMO. The last girl I dated texted me about 15 min after getting off the phone "hey handome, I could use some more of ur attention". I didn't freak out I told her thanks for the compliment and said I was busy and would talk to her tomorrow. She said ok. Now if she kept at it I would of had my hand on the card ready for the next time but she left it alone. Something tells me most people on this forum would of pulled the card as soon as they got the text. So would u of? And what's YOUR definition of?
Leigh 87 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 lol, some chicks like ot be flirty when they are attracted:) I like to be that way, when I please:) If a guy does it for me, occasionally, I may do things I would not normally do; such as send a flirty text after a phone call.. I would do it because " gee, this guy does it for me, hmmm, I feel like letting him know he turns me on;)....." Of course, I WOULD KNOW he was into me first! She is not necessarily clingy. She would be if she: - always texted you without a response from you - always needed to text u, even after u just chat on the phone ealier - had not much going on in her life, and therefore pinned her happyness on you too much and focused on the relationship too much/ did not want u to leave her to pursue your own interests alone Just use common sense. There is a diffference between a girl who loves giving attention, and a chick who is clingly in a bad way. I like to look after guys I love, and I show it to them. My guy is not a big writer and he is not big on showing his " feelings", where as I love to show him how sexy he is and I always talk more than he does, o messages, on facebook... You need to find a girl who matches you and your communication style,.... If your like my boyfriend, you will like a girl who shows u loads of attention. However, the attention needs to come AFTER your in a serious relationship.. it is a bit of a red flag if the girl shows heaps of attention, before the guy is into her... As a women who loves giving lots of attention, I still only text back to the guy at first, and I do not do a whole lot more initiating than the guy; I keep it fairly even, and leave the attention to when in a relationship, wuth a guy who loves attention.
Leigh 87 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Also, clingy is: whatever makes YOU feel uncomfortable. for instance: - if a girl calls you " gorgeous" too soon. Some girls use that language with men all the time, but to SOME men, it can seam like the girl is over bearing too soon.. even if the girl does not mean it that way. I am a girl who likes to call a guy " hey gorgeous see ya soon" early on. That is not universally freaky, some girls use that type of langaue with men.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Yeah like I said she let it alone after I told her I was busy. She did star texting me gm and gn so I thought that was kind wierd. I told her to cut back on the texting bc I couldn't respond too much at work. She seemed a little bothered but not crushed. I gave her the benefit of the doubt with a watchful eye if u will. She friendzoned me after 3rd date then tried to reconcile a week later.
Star Gazer Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 There is no "official" meaning of needy/clingy. It varies from person to person, just as the meaning of "attractive" varies from person to person. That said, I've never heard any of my girlfriends use the term clingy or needy when referring to a man, but I've heard it thousands of times from men who complain about the women they are/were dating.
Leigh 87 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Hmm, the fact she messaged u after the phone thing on gm, without u initiating, is prob showing too much interest early on; she is prob just a chatty person, but still, it can point to girls being needy of your attention later down the track, if they initiate too much early on. Not all people should be written off, but personally, I do not initiated heaps, just a healthy amount, not multiple times in a row from numerous sources early on!!
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