pennycoco21 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Hi, so I just started dating this one guy. I really like him, but I found out he was a virgin. He has had other girlfriend's though, just nothing too serious I guess. I am not a virgin, I have been with a few guys, and I was only with a virgin when I was a virgin too. Everyone I have been with has been good in bed and knows how to make me orgasm and stuff. I am scared that this guy may suck? I dated a guy once who sucked at kissing, and I tried to teach him, but he just didn't get it. So I am worried that I cannot teach this guy. How would you feel about being with a virgin guy if you weren't a virgin? All my friends say that is super awkward.[/FONT][/sIZE]
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Well I'm a virgin guy (albeit one who is completely inexperienced, never kissed, etc. unlike your guy). And I'm pretty sure it will be "super awkward".
carhill Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Sex is a pretty natural activity. IMO, if he's had GF's before and you really like him, and you can talk about sex as mature adults do (presuming you are an adult), his virginity will be a relatively insignificant issue in the scheme of things. Another factor to consider is, if he's had GF's before you and he's still a virgin, he may have 'reasons' for that status which might make him incompatible. How to find out? Communicate. How a man acts in your space, how he holds you, how he touches you, how he kisses you, along with words, tells you a lot about his feelings, desires, and potentials as a lover.
SJC2008 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 How old are you by the way? Ok you need to analyze what u want. An r, an orgasm? or both? How important is sex to you? You sound worried about not being able to o by your post so you may want to steer clear. It's ok if u do, most woman don't like to date virgins. That's why when I get a gf im gonn rock it like a porn star!!! I'll make sure she gets hers!
somedude81 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 She's dating a model, wearing a Rugby Polo shirt? Spam. But still, watch the all the replies come in. 2
irin Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 do go about this so negatively. those guys that were "good" were virgins at some point. you might end being very special to him. dont judge him based on this. it shows that he is picky about who he does it with since hes had a girlfriend before. thats quite admirable about a guy!
Nextlane Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I was a virgin when I dated my ex. I just copied the adult movies and made her orgasm lol.
R1TE0N Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 She's dating a model, wearing a Rugby Polo shirt? I'm sure there's nothing left to teach that guy. Zing.......er.
Casablanca Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I was a virgin when I dated my ex. I just copied the adult movies and made her orgasm lol. Pretty much, when I love my virginity many moons ago, I basically just used what I saw in some porn...plus like someone else said, it is pretty natural.
Chiyo Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Hi! My current bf was a virgin when we first started dating, and I was not. I was, like you, really concerned that, despite him being a wonderful guy, things were going to suck. I'm not sure how old you and your bf are, but my bf was in his mid-20s (he had his reasons). If there's a reason he's still a virgin, you need to make sure he's ready to actually have sex. Maybe it just hasn't felt like the right time, but with you it just will. Maybe he'll have reservations, or even be embarassed. Chances are through the making out process he'll soon be "ready" unless there are other moral issues at play (religious, etc.). With my bf, he was very shy about things at first - his own nudity, condoms, etc. (Never was shy about me though ; ) He and I talked about it many times early on, and they were good, open, honest conversations. Sometimes I felt like my high school sex ed teacher and it was a little odd, but it was for the best. Basically, when discussing if he/we were ready, I told him I wouldn't go there unless he was really comfortable with the idea, which I outlined as able to discuss things, able to be naked around me and not embarassed (such as showering, situations when we were not actually making out... although this might have happened sporatically), and he must be comfortable enough with the idea to be able go into a store and buy condoms. The buying condoms was a big thing, because he was REALLY embarassed about having to buy them "in public". But after he had time to think about my reasoning that if you can't buy them because its too embarrassing, you may not be ready... it took about a week for him to "become ready" ; ) The first time things were... brief... but they got much better after that : ) I recommend watching porn together, as this can also be an opportunity to discuss what it is you like. Communication is key, hopefully he'll be eager to please, and will listen. Also, mutual masterbation can be a helpful way to get to know eachother (esp. him getting to know your anatomy and what you like) before you go the whole way. Throughout the entire process of intercourse, whether you are by nature vocal or not, you need to be. Lots of feedback for what you like or what you'd prefer will ensure you get what you're looking for. Once you've had a bit of experience with him (or rather, he's had a bit of experience) you can ask him what he likes most, and offer what you like most. My bf was very keen to do things that I would tell him I really liked, or felt great, etc. If you're somewhat serious about this guy, or about having a very positive sexual experience, I recommend LOTS of talking. While some guys might not like the out-of-the-sack talking, it helps a lot. During sex, I've never had any negative feedback to me encouraging him or telling him when he's doing something I really like : ) I may not know how most guys would feel, but I would have to believe that a girl telling you she really enjoys something is probably not a turn off. Every guy will be different, some are more open to feedback than others. Beyond the feedback, the actual act is pretty instinctual ; )
Beetleguise Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I lost my v to a pretty experienced and older bird and she didnt have a clue. He might suck but if he is a "Great guy" surely worth persisting with? Also you can mold him to your liking Your probably more concerned with the stigma / what your friends think than him actually sucking.
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