nick d Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 This is for the women out there. I really am just curious to know what your perfect guy or guy you would like to meet would consist of. Looks wise, age, and personality traits.
threebyfate Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I've got my ideal mate, my husband. The last time I listed all the things I loved about him, there were 50 traits. The list could easily have been longer. While he's not perfect, he's perfect for me where the longer I'm with him, the more in love I become. He's a very good man. Kind, compassionate and loving to all his loved ones. This doesn't mean he's a pushover. Not even close. He not only maintains his boundaries, he also respects mine. You should see him with our son. The two are hysterical together, so much alike in looks, facial expressions and body language. So very mini-me! 1
WhiteChocolate Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 As a brief background, I'm 19 y.o. female asian and single. In college. Looks: Height - above 5'5'' - below 6'2'' I like 'em lean to muscular. Don't like skinny or fat guys. Average is great with me. I also like all races. Don't matter to me. Age: 18-24 is great. Personality: Friendly, but not necessarily outgoing. Has friends of both sexes. Educated. Ambitious but is also fun to relax with. Likes me. Has a sense of rhythm. Doesn't get angry easily. Easygoing and happy with who he is. Communicative - conversation flows easily and openly between us. Not a cheesy romantic, but enjoys "being sweet".
Jane2011 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Mind you, this is just my "ideal," not requirements. And I'm just gonna list a bunch of things I like in a guy, not that any one guy could possibly do/have all these things. Dark hair5'9" to 5'11"About 145 to 165 lbsPlays the guitarLikes basketball and maybe plays basketball recreationallyEats healthy but isn't fanatic and critical of others (or me)Has a college degreeWrites and speaks wellImportant: Reads booksI used to say I didn't like a lot of chest hair, but last guy I dated had a lot and I liked it.Keeps up with current events, has opinions about politicsIs politically liberalAppreciates and is an active patron of art, literature, music, theater, etc.Cooks a bit. Doesn't have to be chef-caliber. But will cook.Exercises regularly (to me, that means 4 to 5 times a week, at least)Isn't too critical, tends to be agreeable in demeanor even when he disagrees with me or othersIsn't too sarcastic (or sarcastic at all). Some sarcastic men are funny, but for whatever reason, I've been in love with men who are not sarcastic as a form of humorHas a sense of humor, but is not actively "the funny guy" (I don't do well with the constant entertainer/comedian type of guyIs smart, intellectualLikes movies and music (who doesn't, though?)Likes to try new things, but isn't some major daredevil (bungee jumping and the like)I also like a guy who likes to write
irin Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 cuddles 24/7 affectionate:love: lotsss of love, not rude, rational, calm, caring. smart, doesnt have to be a comedian but be able to laugh at things. respectful. age wise 20-30. appearance: dont have any specifics but i like dark hair.
Jane2011 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Have to add those things, too. Communicative, sensitive, likes to cuddle. And sexy.
WhiteChocolate Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 As a brief background, I'm 19 y.o. female asian and single. In college. Looks: .... Oh yea, I forgot to add: Has a similar political alignment as me.
eleanorhurting Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 he has to be taller than 5'5 and preferably not obese. I can deal with overweight. We have to have a similar sense of humor He has to have ambitions an goals in life. Either he is studying or working. He has to treat me well (calling, making time to see me) wants to get married and settle down in the next 5 years. must be a good listener. I am kind of neurotic and i need someone who will listen to me and give me reassurance. must not haves: 1- no sketchy ex girlfriend situation 2- no pot or alcohol abuse issues 3- He must not be an atheist or a religion hater who will not respect my beliefs 4- must not be clingy/needy
kaylan Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Perfect guy? Allow me to link my OKC profile lolz 3- He must not be an atheist or a religion hater who will not respect my beliefs Whats wrong with being an atheist if hes someone who doesnt care what people believe? 1
Jane2011 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Things I don't want: -- smoker of cigarettes -- heavy/very regular smoker of weed -- mama's boy. I don't mind a guy who lives at home. I just don't one who is utterly ruled by his mother. -- uncleanly person. I'm very particular about a guy being clean, smelling good, and brushing his teeth frequently so that I can enjoy kissing him.
kaylan Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Mind you, this is just my "ideal," not requirements. And I'm just gonna list a bunch of things I like in a guy, not that any one guy could possibly do/have all these things. Dark hair5'9" to 5'11"About 145 to 165 lbsPlays the guitarLikes basketball and maybe plays basketball recreationallyEats healthy but isn't fanatic and critical of others (or me)Has a college degreeWrites and speaks wellImportant: Reads booksI used to say I didn't like a lot of chest hair, but last guy I dated had a lot and I liked it.Keeps up with current events, has opinions about politicsIs politically liberalAppreciates and is an active patron of art, literature, music, theater, etc.Cooks a bit. Doesn't have to be chef-caliber. But will cook.Exercises regularly (to me, that means 4 to 5 times a week, at least)Isn't too critical, tends to be agreeable in demeanor even when he disagrees with me or othersIsn't too sarcastic (or sarcastic at all). Some sarcastic men are funny, but for whatever reason, I've been in love with men who are not sarcastic as a form of humorHas a sense of humor, but is not actively "the funny guy" (I don't do well with the constant entertainer/comedian type of guyIs smart, intellectualLikes movies and music (who doesn't, though?)Likes to try new things, but isn't some major daredevil (bungee jumping and the like)I also like a guy who likes to write You just describe me. Seriously. Except I weigh about 185. Im actually pretty slim though. I never understood how I was so slim but weighed a good 20 lbs more than guys my height.
eleanorhurting Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Perfect guy? Allow me to link my OKC profile lolz Whats wrong with being an atheist if hes someone who doesnt care what people believe? i guess that would be OK but it would be hard in the long term because i plan to take my kids to church, teach them to pray, etc. I don't want to be with someone who will not support that. 1
Leigh 87 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Geez. You people are fussy! Me? I just look for people who share my passions. Surely, each girl just has different interests, and need a guy to cater for them. Personally, I just need a guy who: BONUSES but not essential: - likes motor bikes, because I love them but am too inept to ride them myself - larger, strong build. Not too lean or skinny. ESSENTIALS: - wants to sky dive and try some extreme sports together with me - likes road trips - Likes trying new activities like rock climbing - Likes hiking and going on walks at different nice places - likes to party on weekends, not every day though! - Has to weigh more than I do LOL. No special body type. Can be over weight slightly, or underweight, as long as he has an itnerest in being active. - obviously, active guys, not gaming or inside couch potatoes - wants to travel - sexually, he needs to like giving oral, or be open to learning to like it with me. - of course, he has to be a decent, nice person. - does not cheat
kaylan Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 i guess that would be OK but it would be hard in the long term because i plan to take my kids to church, teach them to pray, etc. I don't want to be with someone who will not support that. Hmm Im more for letting kids decide what they feel is right. Letting them have minds of their own growing up and decided their own path. I wouldnt really stand in my wifes way if she wanted to take them to church, but if the kids ever asked me when they were older about my beliefs, id be honest with them.
Jane2011 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 You just describe me. Seriously. Except I weigh about 185. Im actually pretty slim though. I never understood how I was so slim but weighed a good 20 lbs more than guys my height. That's cool. I'm not surprised. I do remember that you're a musician. Being a musician is just like 20,000 points in a guy's favor.
Leigh 87 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 OH, and other BONUS traits are: - plays a musical instrument He does not need to have a college degree. Not every one has to have a college degree in order to be intelligent.
kaylan Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 That's cool. I'm not surprised. I do remember that you're a musician. Being a musician is just like 20,000 points in a guy's favor. Really? Ive never found it did too much for me with the ladies. My far greatest asset ever was my hair...and then I cut it like an idiot.
Jane2011 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Really? Ive never found it did too much for me with the ladies. My far greatest asset ever was my hair...and then I cut it like an idiot. About a year and a half ago, I dated my guitar teacher, and I told him that I thought women go mad for guys who are musicians. He reacted in the same way. He said he thought a "certain personality type woman" likes it, but not all women. Yet...when I was seeing him and talked to my friends about him, they were all (in understanding my attraction): "Oh yeah, of course, he plays the guitar. BONUS." As a matter of fact, I liked that guy almost because he played the guitar. He was cute, too, mind you; I need for a guy to be cute. But his playing the guitar and playing music I like did MUCH to boost my attraction yet more. 2
irin Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 playing the guitar, has something to do with having skill with your fingers! 1
Emilia Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Whats wrong with being an atheist if hes someone who doesnt care what people believe? I am yet to meet an atheist (I am one) who respects religious people
ThaWholigan Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Really? Ive never found it did too much for me with the ladies. My far greatest asset ever was my hair...and then I cut it like an idiot. Never did much for me either. I've been a musician since 3 (piano, bass, learning guitar). Believe it or not, my greatest asset is my butt . I'll never understand why girls like that, it's weird.
verhrzn Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 (edited) Age: 27-30 Height: Taller than me. Since I'm 5' 1/2" that isn't difficult. Anything over 6' does get a little much. He'd be a nerd, more literary/video game. Music/comics wouldn't be bad. He'd be brunette with glasses. He'd make it very clear he found me physically attractive, and try to communicate with me every day in some fashion. (Just a funny link of an otter will do it.) Must have a college degree. He'd have either a low paying job he adored, or a high paying job he could tolerate. Something in academics or computers would be great. He'd have a somewhat snarky sense of humor, and be more of a homebody, but wouldn't mind going out once in a while. Edited March 19, 2012 by verhrzn
Emilia Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Age: 27-30 Height: Taller than me. Since I'm 5' 1/2" that isn't difficult. Anything over 6' does get a little much. He'd be a nerd, more literary/video game. Music/comics wouldn't be bad. He'd be brunette with glasses. He'd make it very clear he found me physically attractive, and try to communicate with me every day in some fashion. (Just a funny link of an otter will do it.) Must have a college degree. He'd have either a low paying job he adored, or a high paying job he could tolerate. Something in academics or computers would be great. He'd have a somewhat snarky sense of humor, and be more of a homebody, but wouldn't mind going out once in a while. Your pool is pretty large. Why oh why do I see guys like this ALL the time when I'm interested in the exact opposite (sporty, outgoing, fun, active).
verhrzn Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Your pool is pretty large. Why oh why do I see guys like this ALL the time when I'm interested in the exact opposite (sporty, outgoing, fun, active). Wanna know something funny, THOSE are the types of guys I see all the time. Not so much the outgoing, but sporty/active. Even though I work at an IT company, my department is filled with nothing but guys who love sports (playing and watching) and aren't big into the more traditional nerd interests. My company also has a softball team, and I see a lot of those types of guys when I go to those games (obviously.) Maybe your work has something similar?
danny in van Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I am yet to meet an atheist (I am one) who respects religious people because how DO you respect people who believe in talking snakes, and walking on water, and other fantastical things that if not labelled religious would be termed schizophrenic beliefs?
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