rockymountainman Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 (edited) Hey everyone, Maybe I am just hoping/being optimistic but I was curious if I could get some advice if I have my mind in the right place so here is my story. I started talking to this girl in december and things progressed very fast for 2.5 months. We talked every day and always had a good time when we hung out. We both expressed in the beginning how we were looking for something casual but we became emotionally involved with each other those couple of months. The reason to keep it casual was because she was moving to a city an hour away for law school but we still talked every night after she finished studying. Well it got to the point were I asked her out when she came in town one weekend and she said yes. A few days later, she called me and said that she wanted to keep things casual, take things slow, and see how it goes bc she didn't want to do a long distance relationship right now. I asked if she meant a friends with benefits type of situation because I understood the perception 'casual' implies and she said no. When she comes in town though, we hang out the whole time and she sleeps over at my place like nothing has changed (still having sex too). Since the conversation where she broke up with me (which was about a month ago) we still talk 1-2 a week. I dont call her bc I want to give her space and let her focus on school and readjusting to a new city (also don't want to be clingy). I still would like to have a relationship with her but idk if she will ever come back around. I understand the perception of a casual relationship on here and I'm confused that she said she isn't talking about a FWB type situation since thats usually the case for a casual relationship. What do y'all think about this situation? Is she trying to not sound slutty by saying its not FWB (but treat it as such) or does it seem like she does want to take things more slowly and let the casual relationship develop into something more? thanks confused man Edited March 19, 2012 by rockymountainman fixing title
CC12 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Is she trying to not sound slutty by saying its not FWB (but treat it as such) Well, "friends with benefits" means that you're strictly friends who occasionally bang. But you're emotionally involved so the term "FWB" doesn't really apply. or does it seem like she does want to take things more slowly and let the casual relationship develop into something Maybe. Right now, though, the only thing you know for sure is that she doesn't want a committed, "boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship with you, which is understandable because you've only been dating a couple of months. I'd guess that she's open to getting more serious with you in the future, but it's not really even on the table for her right now. So try to relax and see what happens. Don't question her motives so much. Just have fun with it.
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