J_weik Posted June 11, 2004 Posted June 11, 2004 My exgirlfriend and i broke up 3 weeks ago today. I was doing alright, then i seen her again today. All the hurt that i had, is now back. Or maybe i've been hurting this whole time and i just pushed it away. Anyhow, i don't know what i feel, or where to go/what to do. I'm lost. I would like to be friends with her, because You can never tell what will happen in the future, but it hurts right now. So either way i hurt. What do i do? Right now, i'm thinking about doing stupid ****, i know this isnt right, but i'm messed up. I don't have any friends where i live (started dating her right when i moved up here) so i don't have anyone to talk to. I didn't call her at all, then today she calls me and tells me to come over after work (i work for her uncle still.) Why Did she want me to come over, why did she even call me? Also, when i was leaving, she said give me a hug. So i gave her a hug(which lasted like 10 seconds, because she wouldnt let go.) She also put her hand around me, and walked me to my car. I don't understand this, and i don't like games. I feel like doing some realy dumb stuff right now, i'm totally lost.
pitprincess Posted June 11, 2004 Posted June 11, 2004 Why the break up? I understand you hurt... its hard to over come.. Don't do nothing silly sweets, take care of your self The hurt is still fresh and it will heal in time but it is hard. Stay strong :) May I ask where you live?
Author J_weik Posted June 13, 2004 Author Posted June 13, 2004 The reason we broke up? Well, to be honest i do not know. She broke up with me 1 day before her graduation/summer started. All we used to do is sit around and just hang out with each other. I know she didnt mind it because she would always hug me and be all over me. Then she breaks up with me and tells me she doesnt want to sit around this summer doing nothing. First she says she wants a break, i told her i couldn't do that, so she just said lets be done altogether. I didn't talk to her for a week, and i was feeling better, but ever since she called me, and told me to come over i feel bad. Then she tells me that "she doesn't love me as much as i love her." And what she doesn't know is that when i was coming over to her house (right when she broke up with me), i was coming over to give her a promise ring that i had just bought. I seen her almost everyday, and now i rarely do, nor do i want to because it will just hurt more. Either way i'm hurting bad, if i do, or dont see her. I live in Illinios.
tegteg Posted June 13, 2004 Posted June 13, 2004 Wow mang, sounds something simalar to what i went through.... My lil story is, she broke up with me, why? Cause she just wanted to be "friends".... But yet wanted everything else as it was haha yeah right.... Well anyways it REALLY sucked for bout 4-5 months and then never really got "better" but it just kinda scared over... Alltho the pain is still there for me.... The way i tryed to get through it was workin out... And workin out ALOT.... 5 mile runs, situps, pushups, ETC... sometimes 20mile bike runs..... i just completely wore myself out and yet it worked for me.... When she would call me to go out and do things i would ignore her or tell her i better things to do or i have to do soemthing else... Its NOT easy ill tell ya that much, especially if you love this women... Like the old sayin go's outta sight outta mide.... To an extent of course, the more your away the better off IMO.... IF she asks why you cant be around her TELL HER WHY! (she may get the hint) Wether or not she wants to her that, its not your fault... If she has a heart, shell understand and respect you feelings.... Also, if you have a hobby do it... If not, find one, one you like and think you will do good in... Set goals, that helps alot especially when you obtain them.... Number 1 thing to remember is to make YOURSELF FEEL GOOD bout what you, have/are/going to do.... And i know its not easy but try and take the GOOD out of the bad... It may end up helping you more then you think... Im sorry to hear you dont have many freinds if any. I would start by goin out to like maybe and plce to play pool or some place with ppl with simalar interests... U know?? Anymore ?s feel free to ask away... Im sure more ppl have lots of other oppinons...... HTH and GL DG
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