spiderowl Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 (edited) Guys, if you are interested in a girl, do you consult your friends about her? Do you mention to your friends that you are interested or do you always keep it to yourself? What would you do if one of your friends was interested too - would you talk to him about what you and he should do? Would you go in direct competition with him or give way to him? What if he's your best mate? Edited March 19, 2012 by spiderowl
somedude81 Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Yeah, most time I've been into a girl I told my friends about her. I've never actually had a situation where me and a friend were both into the same girl. If that happened, I'd have no choice but
gaius Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 I used to blab nonstop, but now I usually keep pretty quiet about it. It's pretty embarrassing if you're all worked up about a girl publicly and it doesn't work out for whatever reason. If my friends met her first and are pursuing I try to leave it alone. If he's not a great friend that I care about keeping and she seems more interested in me then I might go for it. Are you interested in the friend of a guy who's after you?
Author spiderowl Posted March 20, 2012 Author Posted March 20, 2012 Thanks, interesting. I'm only used to what women tell each other so this is new to me. I thought maybe guys only swapped scoring stories rather than genuine feeling stories? Yes, I like a guy whose friend has asked me out a few times. I don't think they are very close but I don't know for sure. I like the Cable Guy film too. Maybe his approach is a bit extreme?
thehead Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Guys, if you are interested in a girl, do you consult your friends about her? Do you mention to your friends that you are interested or do you always keep it to yourself? What would you do if one of your friends was interested too - would you talk to him about what you and he should do? Would you go in direct competition with him or give way to him? What if he's your best mate? It depends on the girl and the potential for a serious relationship. The more the woman is "girlfriend material" the higher the likelihood I'll mention her to my friends after we've started seeing each other. When a friend is interested in the same girl, it's a case of may the best man win. I've had this happen once or twice in college and there were no hard feelings.
Beetleguise Posted March 20, 2012 Posted March 20, 2012 Guys, if you are interested in a girl, do you consult your friends about her? Do you mention to your friends that you are interested or do you always keep it to yourself? What would you do if one of your friends was interested too - would you talk to him about what you and he should do? Would you go in direct competition with him or give way to him? What if he's your best mate? Yes Always mention Probably not, do what you would normally do....Make it clear i want her and compete but still be mates
Author spiderowl Posted March 21, 2012 Author Posted March 21, 2012 I'm sort of getting mixed messages here. Is there a code of conduct amongst guys and their mates about what to do about girls they both like or is it a question of the 'best man wins'?
Eddie Edirol Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 I'm sort of getting mixed messages here. Is there a code of conduct amongst guys and their mates about what to do about girls they both like or is it a question of the 'best man wins'? I usually handle it as best mans wins. Thats if I found out someone else told me he was working on her. If I'm not told, I dont say anything to anyone. Guys dont have that support group to console him if he doesnt get the girl, its more of a suck it up and move on attitude. So I generally dont say anything until I know Ive sealed the deal.
hotloader Posted March 21, 2012 Posted March 21, 2012 Guys, if you are interested in a girl, do you consult your friends about her? I wouldn't. More often than not, her friend(s) will attempt to "cock block" you, for lack of a better term. People....as a general rule of thumb....don't like to see other people happy unless it benefits them in some way.
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