dindygirl Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Boy I misread some signals from some guy at work. I e-mailed him a casual thing about going to a wine tasting I had a spare ticket to. I figured it was no big deal, he would say no if he didn't want to and that was that. I worded the e-mail in a non dating fashion and left him a huge out if he was not interested. I get along fine with this guy and now am so embarassed. I wish he would have just wrote back no. I know he has seen my e-mail already because it went out around 3pm and he has a Blackberry that he checks frequently for work. It is 6:30 and nothing. I feel so bad. Now I feel like he is so creeped out by me he cannot even write back. I need to go in there tomorrow and have to see him and I am so embarassed. Luckily after Tuesday AM he is gone for a week and I can compose myself. Boy I am dumb. A couple of other people in the office implied that he liked me and he seemed to. Now I got him runnin' scared. I was going to sign up for match the other day and was doing the free preview and saw him out there and figured "Ok, he has no girlfriend and is looking what is the harm." He was last on there within 24 hourts and his profile mentioned liking wine tastings so I went for it. I hope I don't get in any sort of trouble - it was a very casual invite. I am certainly not harassing him. I will never mention it again. I am just so embarassed. At least I learned a lesson but getting thru the next few days is going to suck!! One thing that is good, I was confused on whether he really did like me and I know obviously not now so I can start moving on which is a good thing. He may have just been stringing me along because he likes attention and his ego stroked. I guess I should feel happy I did not stroke anything else of his
Author dindygirl Posted March 18, 2012 Author Posted March 18, 2012 You are right...I am just really embarassed. And I have to see this guy everyday which will be bad in the short term. Eventually it will blow over. I am still within 24 hours of the blow off so I guess I am feeling my worst right now.
SmileFace Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Yeah dont worry about it. You showed interest, if it isn't mutual. Big deal, life goes on. It is good that you asked a guy out but you can't expect him to be interested. Anyway calm down, don't mention it and just forget about it.
FitChick Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 This is why you shouldn't date anyone you work with (or try to date them).
Author dindygirl Posted March 18, 2012 Author Posted March 18, 2012 Yeah I know I took a chance (the work thing). I normally don't. Anyway I am moving on. Eventually things will even out. I am certainly not a stalker or anything and can accept that I misread his interest as just being nice. I am the only female worker in the area so that may be simply why he treated me different. The first 24 hours will be the hardest. Then he will be away on a trip. When he comes back things will have blown over a bit and I will just treat him like normal. Not seek him out especially but if I see him in the hall say hello. If he comes to my desk (hopefully not after this) I will still be nice and friendly but put this stupid experience in my rear view mirror.
dasein Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Woahwoah, don't feel so badly yet. No walk o shame necessary. Consider never again giving someone an invitation via email. Personally, have gone to effort to cut mine down, and still get 50-100 per day, most work related. Friends who haven't taken such steps and get well over 1000 emails a day as I used to. Moreover, you never know whether he read it, scanned it, saw it was from you and left it to enjoy later and forgot it. Try not to be so hard on yourself and reserve any communications or invitations to in person or on the phone in the future. Will get rid of these types of problems going forward.
Jane2011 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Also, it may be that he took a long nap. I mean, maybe not, but all I know is that in times past when I freaked out over someone not getting back to me quickly, he was asleep! Of course, mid-day is less likely, but you never know. Anyway, if the guy is not interested, so be it. Good for you for giving it a shot. I asked out a guy who I worked with, long ago. He had a girlfriend, though, so it was a no-go.
jobaba Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Boy I misread some signals from some guy at work. I e-mailed him a casual thing about going to a wine tasting I had a spare ticket to. I figured it was no big deal, he would say no if he didn't want to and that was that. I worded the e-mail in a non dating fashion and left him a huge out if he was not interested. I get along fine with this guy and now am so embarassed. I wish he would have just wrote back no. I know he has seen my e-mail already because it went out around 3pm and he has a Blackberry that he checks frequently for work. It is 6:30 and nothing. I feel so bad. Now I feel like he is so creeped out by me he cannot even write back. I need to go in there tomorrow and have to see him and I am so embarassed. Luckily after Tuesday AM he is gone for a week and I can compose myself. Boy I am dumb. A couple of other people in the office implied that he liked me and he seemed to. Now I got him runnin' scared. I was going to sign up for match the other day and was doing the free preview and saw him out there and figured "Ok, he has no girlfriend and is looking what is the harm." He was last on there within 24 hourts and his profile mentioned liking wine tastings so I went for it. I hope I don't get in any sort of trouble - it was a very casual invite. I am certainly not harassing him. I will never mention it again. I am just so embarassed. At least I learned a lesson but getting thru the next few days is going to suck!! One thing that is good, I was confused on whether he really did like me and I know obviously not now so I can start moving on which is a good thing. He may have just been stringing me along because he likes attention and his ego stroked. I guess I should feel happy I did not stroke anything else of his Sorry. Keep at it. Also, tell him to not tell anybody in the office. Between you not telling anybody, and him tentatively being able to keep it under wraps it will at least mitigate the embarrassment factor. Been there, done that ... recently.
dispatch3d Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Yeah, seriously, its been three hours chill out. The guy could easily take a day to respond to it.
turt Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Maybe he is trying to write a good response to you and pushed it off. Why are you making such a big deal about it? Are you sure he doesn't think it's a joke? Since other people know he likes you and you saw his profile online, it wouldn't be hard come up with the idea.
Jane2011 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Oh yeah, three hours is nothing. For some reason, I was thinking the event was same day and that was how you knew he didn't want to go. But if the event is another day, yeah it's reasonable that he hasn't replied back yet. Give it a whole 24 hours.
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