Leigh 87 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 and LOL... .. Women actually find a " prey" they " target" when they are out clubbing? wow. I understand the need for sex and validation.. but I wish thatwomen would look at it as : " gee, I am horny and want action after being lonley for some time. I am going to try to talk to some nice guys and see if I get along well with any, and hopefully get their numbers and become friends" and then " if I hit it off with any guy, we may then go on to have sex". Instead, both sexes are impatiant. They go out and want sex RIGHT NOW, that night. Apparently, girls that do not know u, will come and robb their @sses in your face. Charming. I wish for the days when people would wait a little longer, and have fun getting attention from their partners, or dates... and lastly, LOL - as if I would chat to a guy who ignored me? Logically, people who ignore u are nto interested, and u will come across as desperate, if u try to get ppl w ho are not interested in u, to like u?
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Leigh, we will have to work on your paraphrasing. In terms of ignoring, to a degree anyway. Then again, women can be quite competitive. However, everyone definitely won't respond the same way. If it gets you closer to your goal, then you might as well. If ignoring doesn't, then, naturally, it's probably best to employ another tactic.
Imajerk17 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 (edited) There's a lot of truth to what you are saying here Fondue, but guys need to be careful for what they are taking away from this. Keep in mind that bars and other "meat markets" are TERRIBLE places for men to go to meet women. There is just way too much competition. Go someplace that is decent to meet women (the grocery store, the coffee shop, even online dating) and you will actually have to engage them. You usually will have to be the one to show interest first and approach them. Otherwise if you try "ignoring" them, nothing will happen. More to the point, you and your friend didn't really "win". Any more than a woman who makes it a point to suddenly stop returning guys' phone calls and she suddenly finds that she now has a few crazies blowing up her phone wanting to know "what happened". While the guy she was really into just stopped calling. Not really the objective here. But yeah, if a guy who often finds himself "trying too hard", then not putting so much energy into his interactions and getting her to chase him will often work wonders. Edited March 19, 2012 by Imajerk17
Feelsgoodman Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I was buddies with a chick who blew off guys all night waiting for my good friend to get there and talk to her. She didnt wanna risk him seeing her with another guy. That chick is certainly not very smart. All that is going to accomplish is make the guy you are interested in think you are unapproachable. If she was that much into your friend, she should have approached him herself and found an opportunity to strike conversation.
Thieves Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Their ring leader sat next to me again and had her friend grind her like a lap dance. She starts saying stuff like, "yah, check that ass. You wanna grab it?" Wow, do women actually talk like that? Did you throw your drink in her face after she said that? Because I just cringed from that sentence alone. As for if ignoring women actually works? I'd say it does on some of them. However, if someone ignores me, I take it as a sign that the guy isn't into me like that. Apparently though, other women take it as "Must try harder." Sigh.
kaylan Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 (edited) That chick is certainly not very smart. All that is going to accomplish is make the guy you are interested in think you are unapproachable. If she was that much into your friend, she should have approached him herself and found an opportunity to strike conversation. You forget many women expect the guy to make the first move...so she was waiting on him and was sending a few signals females want what they cant have Some women are like this, some men are like this. Some folks want what they cant have and like a challenge. O wells Edited March 19, 2012 by kaylan
Author Fondue Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 NOT true for some women! There's man at my workplace, black guy. Talk, dark and handsome. You know how some black guys are irresistible to women, so as you can imagine, he gets a lot of attention from women. I IGNORED HIM. Didn't give him any of my attention, acted like he wasn't there. Why? Because I could tell he already got attention, I have pride and also, he seemed too sure of himself. It was because of my lack of giving him attention that he started watching me, wondering about me, reacting to how I was ignoring him, and eventually approached me with questions asking me why, asking my number, wondering about me and all. It works on men too. It is more likely than not just a human thing and not a woman thing. Humans in general like to feel desired; like attention. If there is someone who doesn't give it, they are mysterious and it creates intrigue in the other person. Can happen to any gender! PS: you're not attractive to me but that's just me. Woah, hey now. Let's not start throwing jabs.
Leigh 87 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 They are just doing it to make themselves feel desirable and for their own ego boost.. Not as a way to " meet men". They would have to be very stupid people in order to actually believe a quality guy would want them for anything more than a one night stand, if they act that way.... Women want what they cannot have? *sigh*. What happened to common sence? If I like a guy, I get to know them, if they are not interested, I let it go. No games. I am attracted to nice men... I do not go for men I cannot have. Life must be so boring, or PEOPLE must have such narrow interests, that they need to get their thrills from getting the attention of guys who ignore them. As some sort of " game".
lospantalonsfancie Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Nice experiment OP. Unfortunately, this is all too common a phenomenon: people want to have what they can't have, in a bid to convince themselves that they are powerful, thereby assuaging their insecurities. It applies to both men and women, though as a guy I have seen it more with women, possibly because women tend to be the "pursued party" more often than not. That being said, a few years back I witnessed a similar incident to that described by the OP that went even further. If I recall correctly, this happened at a frat or house party. Drove the girls insane. Two very attractive young women tried to approach this average-looking fellow who paid them no attention, and tried to sexually grab his attention to no avail, eventually reaching with their hands where they shouldn't have (his genital area). He had previously mostly ignored them, but at that point he told them they were being disgusting and had a mind to press sexual harrassment charges. The girls were livid and started screaming at the top of their lungs calling him gay. It was quite a scene. The girls in this case were very attractive, and no doubt never experienced rejection of this magnitude before to their sexual advances, let alone been told that the guy was so repulsed that he wanted to sue them. I was happy I witnessed it, and it made me feel sorry for those girls and how empty they must be on the inside. 1
Feelsgoodman Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Woah, hey now. Let's not start throwing jabs. Baffled10 is a troll (and obviously not even a woman) 1
fishtaco Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Very common. Fun times. When I was younger and single, I wish I had friends I could go out with that would do these social experiments. Oh to be young again...
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