El Brujo Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 ...on St. Patrick's day evening at a very fancy local hotel, and was disappointed to find that it's just another bar group. If the people at PoF really think they're going to get a competitive edge on Meetup, then they're better off playing pro football.
thatone Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 what's wrong with that? if it weren't for meeting people, there wouldn't be bars. who would pay 4x the price for drinks that you can get at the liquor store if it weren't for the people you meet there?
phineas Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 What i've noticed from POF meetups is that it's usually the same people signing up that have been on the site FOREVER. They all know each other on the forums ect & I get the impression these people really aren't interested in dating anyone and if the site went pay they'd quit. 1
Author El Brujo Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Yeah, but my point is... OLD has been around almost as long as the internet, but it was only about 4 or 5 years ago that singles "discovered" meetup.com, and from that point it took off like a rocket. Now that the OLDSs are seeing how well meetup has been doing, they're trying to copy meetup, but that's like GM trying to build Maseratis. When I look at the big picture, OLD tried to change dating behavior and it didn't really work (the people who invented OLD thought women would allofasudden start making the first move at least 50% of the time)... meetup groups for singles have undone some of the confusion that came with OLD.
phineas Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Here is the thing, I don't view meetup.com as a singles thing. There are lots of groups for many kinds of activities but, also specific groups for meeting singles. I mean, I can't imagine people going on a 10 mile hike just for the opportunity to meet someone. I know I wouldn't. 2
Emilia Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Here is the thing, I don't view meetup.com as a singles thing. There are lots of groups for many kinds of activities but, also specific groups for meeting singles. I mean, I can't imagine people going on a 10 mile hike just for the opportunity to meet someone. I know I wouldn't. There is some truth in this and this is the approach I prefer (I'm a meetup group organiser) but it's good to meet people through mutual interest in general. If you are single AND like the particular activity then this is your chance to get aquainted with like minded people. You also expand your social circle which has to be the best way to find a partner. Online dating doesn't have this social aspect and that's what I find off-putting (I think many others feel that same way). 1
Emilia Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I've checked out the website and it seems these meetups are not very active in my area. Do you think it would be worth my time to go to events say within 45 min to 1 hour drive from my town? Meetups are much more plentiful if I am willing to drive some. Well that depends on what you want to do, doesn't it? By the way, you can always start your own meetup in your local area if there is something you are passionate about.
Author El Brujo Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 Well that depends on what you want to do, doesn't it? Darn tootin'. There was no group for self-published authors on meetup, so I started one almost a year ago. Only $48 a year to run a group. By the way, you can always start your own meetup in your local area if there is something you are passionate about. ^That.^ If you live in LA, NYC, or DFW, there are going to be loads of meetup groups, and some of them are for singles (though most of these are going to be cookie-cutter bar and nightclub groups)... but if you live in some little Route 66 town with only a couple hundred people, meetup will just not work for you. In fact, a week ago some woman from Stockton e-mailed me on PoF, saying that she looked on meetup and couldn't find my group. Well DUH, Stockton is a few hundred miles away from L.A. and that's why she couldn't find it. She didn't read!!! I just don't know why women go in for that "love across the miles" stuff... if you love the guy that much, why not just ask him to buy you a train ticket???
FitChick Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I mean, I can't imagine people going on a 10 mile hike just for the opportunity to meet someone. I know I wouldn't. I would. If I didn't meet anyone I liked, at least I would have gotten my exercise for the day. 1
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