Rod1029 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 So my ex broke up with about a month and a half ago. They chose to do it over the phone while I was walking to their house from the train station. They went on to say how I was boring, predictable and had no personality and they weren't the only ones that felt that way (their freinds). Now a month a half later, they're texting me saying how much they miss me and last night they poured their heart out to me and basically stated that they went to get back together and go back to the way things used to be. I told them I just want to be friends but they want to be friends with the possibility of us getting back together at some point. I told them thats not going to happen. They wanted me to come over last night and hang out with the same friends that said I was boring..predictable and had no personality?? I told them that I had other plans and I was going to hang out with my homeboys instead and they got upset because I didn't drop everything and go see them. The fact is, you broke up with me and said some hurtful things. You can't just apologize a month and a half later and expect things to go right back to the way they were. It doesn't work that way. Am I wrong for being a little bit stand offish? Do they even deserve another chance? 1
rAFC Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Only you can decide if they deserve another chance. However, I think you are completely right to be "stand offish" because if they can do this to you once, they can do this to you again. It is up to your ex to prove to you beyond any doubt that they would not repeat the breakup. 1
M2155 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Running back when they call would have been boring and predictable! Yes you can take all the time you need, it's all your call. I would make them sweat it out for a while to see if they were just having a lonely moment or if they really make some genuine consistent effort to get you back. Part of the effort is not giving young hard time about not being sure this person deserves you. I would wonder also, am I all of a sudden not boring and predictable? Or did they just decide they like that? Or is that what they are willing to settle for until exciting and spontaneous walks into their life? Proceed with caution
MarlaOryx Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Wow! Sounds like my dream come true! What were the parameters of the breakup? How are you feeling? You *should* or *shouldn't* do anything but be true to yourself. But it's gotta feel pretty damn good.
Chi townD Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 They? and them? Just how many Ex's are we talking about here?
Frank13 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 They went on to say how I was boring, predictable and had no personality and they weren't the only ones that felt that way (their freinds). Another note to guys. This is what is known as the "nice guy". That's why you see so many woman on the coping board stuck on guys who treated them poorly. It caused them drama and pain which made them feel something and feel alive. It is the opposite of boredom.
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