yazz23 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Long story short, I met this pretty cool guy in a bar. We went on a couple of dates and felt we hit it off pretty well. The sexual chemistry was definitely there along with tons in common in terms of values, career interests, etc..... By the second date things physically progressed and almost had sex, but because I started to see a possibility in it going somewhere, I decided to wait. He seemed ok with me saying no, but then declined an offer to hang out again basically saying thanks but not thanks. Jump ahead to several months later and I run into him 3 times in the same day! He texts me weeks later mentioning how he wished we could of said hello but he was afraid I didn't want to talk and that he might have been in the wrong. I replied that although he might have been confusing I would love to have said hello. HE never replied back to this text!! I then asked him about this event he was planning on going to and he replied like 10 hrs. later and kept it very short. I'm so confused!! Why would he contact me and why would he not respond to me text? I really want to text him to get the conversation flowing again, but I really don't want to appear needy. Any advice??
Feelin Frisky Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 I sympathize. I'm beginning to really hate "texts". People are reduced to sound bytes and considered disposable. Anyway, this guy has thrown you some crappy mixed messages and if you really want another chance to straighten things out and see if there is any chemistry, do whatever you have to to actually speak with this guy. I have little if any respect now for people who think they can hide behind the limits of texts and pass off an appearance of interest. They fool themselves. Maybe he'll speak with you or meet with you, maybe he won't but if you want to know which, just don't worry about crawling in the right configuration and contact him and be direct. You sound like a nice person and you deserve to not be toyed with.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 He was just interested in sex...that's why he backed off when you didn't put out. Now that he knows you'll take a little "more effort" he figures you're not worth the effort because he already tried and it hurt his pride and plus again, he's not into you enough to really make an effort, he's just keeping the portal open for the possibility for a second chance....to have sex with you. 1
Author yazz23 Posted March 19, 2012 Author Posted March 19, 2012 I got that impression after he went cold when I didn't put out, but then he threw me off when he contacted me months later. Did my come back in saying he was confusing upset the guy?? Finding unfortunately these days more and more people are just looking for hooking ups and not really anything substantial
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