xpaperxcutx Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Guys, and gals, is constant contact a turn off? Supposedly you only see the person you're dating at most twice a week, would texting and calling each other everyday start becoming a nag? What is a happy medium?
FitChick Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 If I liked him a lot, I'd like it. If I didn't, I wouldn't. In long distance dating you need constant contact because that is the relationship for the most part until you are together.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Well as far as I go, I'm more of the independent kinda needs his own space sometimes kinda guy. Some days I like to unwind and be/think to myself, and I don't need the constant contact because It's not like I'm going to forget about you and feel that you've forgotten about me for not talking to me every day. It also depends how much I like you as well, maybe I'd miss you a lot and want to talk to you every day, maybe I can't stop thinking about you...It's hard to say because I don't really keep track of this kind of a thing. I would say for me a happy medium would be every other day I guess, just in general, maybe more some weeks, maybe less others.
Star Gazer Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Daily contact for me isn't a turn-off. All-day contact is. 3
Thieves Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 For a second I thought you were talking about constant body contact. As in touching. The visual of a girl rubbing up on a guy's leg like a cat in heat popped up in my head, too. Anyway, I'd say it depends on the guy. I don't mind daily contact with someone I enjoy talking to as long as it doesn't go overboard, or come off like you're writing to me on Twitter half the time. I don't need to know everything you're doing at every hour of the day, but calling to see how I'm doing or what I'm up to is fine.
Jane2011 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 If I like a guy a lot and am close to him, I like daily contact without it going overboard to being all day every day. "Daily contact" to me can range from one contact from each of us that day to contacting three or four times over text with just some little note or message about something funny/interesting. A mix of one to four contacts per day is good for me. None of that means all day every day.
threebyfate Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Anything can be a turn-off if you're with someone incompatible. Anything can be a turn-on if you're with someone compatible. 3
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Once I'm physical with a woman... contact and interest are the same thing.
TheFinalWord Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 Daily contact for me isn't a turn-off. All-day contact is. I agree. If you have a busy schedule and have to feel obligated to constantly communicate with a person you are dating it gets annoying. Especially since we're probably talking about texting.
Leigh 87 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I prefer to be with a person who thinks about me enough and wants to talk to me most days. I prefer to keep it to 1 - 4 texts, like another poster specified. I like to keep some parts of my life to myself, so I can have stuff to talk about to them:)
TaraMaiden Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 when you're with the right person, you'll know what's right, because it feels right, right from the start. if you have to ask - it's not right. 2
Leigh 87 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 YES - it feels right:) i contact my b.f more often than he does, he loves my attention Initially, I responded to him, but I also sent him and initiated messages and seamed very interested. I never doubted he liked it, even though he was nbit a chatty guy.
Mr. Slim Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 I don't need any contact at all between dates; I hate the phone/texting. If she needs to call or text then I just adapt and deal with it (within reason).
Motor35 Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 is it weird i rarely initiate contact with my guy? 90% of the time, he starts all converstions...
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