SJC2008 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 (edited) Serious question. It seems that my view on dating and relationships is in the minority. It blows my mind that people don't openly discuss what they are looking for. I'm not saying dating should not be fun and we should be there with a clipboard and checklist but it seems like people don't ask questions. What are you looking for? what's your comm style? are you open to marriage? etc...Then theres this thread about opening up to his wife. (Woggle I mean no disrespect at all and really hope it works out for you). How can you marry someone and be afraid to open up to them? Shouldn't that happen before marriage? Why do I feel like I'm in the minority about these things and that people just wind up in relationships? Edited March 18, 2012 by SJC2008 left out don't
Thieves Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 No, you're not in the minority at all. I think I've gotten to the point where I've seen so many people and too many friends mess around and escalate certain problems in their relationship simply because they were too weary to communicate openly with the person they were with. To be honest, I'm a little too impatient for that now. Of course, something like this is understandable for your first few years of dating, as it's a new experience and you're mostly feeling your way out... but after a certain amount of time, it's important to just know when you need to be an adult and speak up. Unfortunately, sometimes I think some people have to get their hearts broken a few times before they realize that, as hard as it may be, they HAVE to start being more open about communicating with their partner. Or else, more heartbreak is bound to follow...
Author SJC2008 Posted March 18, 2012 Author Posted March 18, 2012 I was talking about more in the dating stage than when in a relationship. It seems taboo to tell a woman you want to get married and have kids. It doesn't mean you want to marry her or have kids with her it just means if the right one came along ya know? What's wrong with telling somene you're dating your core values or what you really want in a woman?
FitChick Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 It seems taboo to tell a woman you want to get married and have kids. It doesn't mean you want to marry her or have kids with her it just means if the right one came along ya know? What's wrong with telling somene you're dating your core values or what you really want in a woman? Nothing wrong unless you are telling the wrong person. The person will say, "Me, too! I thought I was the only person who felt that way." Now I'm only dating men I'd consider marriageable. I can't be bothered with the rest.
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