jdavid32 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 OK people, need some advice. Ill try to make it a short story. Ill give you a little background info on myself. Im easy going and a lot of fun, I'm very easy to talk too and get to know, basically I'm very manipulative. I know i know good trait to have but can be a CURSE!!! My ex and I have been on and off for about 5 yrs lol. I have broken up with her about 4 times, mainly because we were fighting a lot and I didn't feel like putting up with it, and made me feel that we shouldn't be together. Plus I always looked and wanted other women. I have never been broken up with by any girl, I have always been the one to do it. I would break up with her to be with other girls, which i have learned is still cheating if i get back with my ex(I have no idea why she took me back so many times, I would not do the same) I have dated other girls in between us, but for some reason I always end up back with her and she takes me back as well. I haven't contacted her or been with her for a little over a year now, but she is always on my mind. I know she is my true love, as I have gotten older and more mature, my ways have changed, and the women i have dated, have not matched up to her(clearly a problem of comparing new girls to my ex). Well, me and this new girl have really gotten to know each other as friends, but I have issues with her, (due to my ex). About 2 weeks ago, I text my ex out of the blue, we went and had dinner, and had a long talk. I admitted all the wrong things I have done to her, and apologized for the way I took advantage of her and treated her wrong(now that does not mean she was a perfect angel,lol, but we fought mainly because of me and the things i did). So after a long talk and dinner, we text and talked back and forth, she has a BF as of now. Basically, I had something really great, and now that I'm mature and know what i want, she is possibly willing to give me one and final chance, so should I be with her(which is what i feel like i should do, F all the BS and be with her) I truly love her, never felt like this with any other woman, when we touch its like a shock of excitement,love, tingles and everything, its awesome!!! and she will be by my side no matter what. OR should I not, and go on looking for something else. I def do now want to hurt her, I have done enough damage in the past. I am very lucky if she can forgive me, and takes me back. I guess long story short, I have been a whore all my life,lied and manipulated my relationships to get what i want, and passed up a very good catch. I know I should be with her in my heart. She is absolutely beautiful, smart, and very honest person, qualities hard to find these days. But another part of me says, give this new girl a shot.. What should I do? even though I think i really know what i should do.. Just want another opinion on this situation. Sorry so long, there is a lot more to explain but thats a quick rundown. Ladies don't be too harsh on me, I have made a lot of mistakes in my life, been hard lessons learned, and this is hard to admit. Thanks in advance.
Leigh 87 Posted March 22, 2012 Posted March 22, 2012 Your already considering the new girl! YOu are not ready to stop your whore - ish ways, I am afraid:S If you were madly in love with your ex, you would not even consider other women. What have you done to change your ways? What you put your ex through is truly horrible. I hope for your sake, that you get councelling and get the help that you need. Leave your ex with her boyfriend, get counclling if your SERIOUS about changing and not hurting her again, and then after you have actually worked hard to change yourself, go back to your ex. After all, if she truly is the girl for you, above and beyond all the other girls you play around with, you will still want her after months of therapy. Seriously, I am rooting for you, I hope you get the help that you need. Realize, if you want the best for your ex, you will get councelling, because that will MINIMIZE the risk of you hurting her again.
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