lifeasiknowit Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Is it a bit much and too intense for a girl to write poetry to her boyfriend? I'm in a new but serious relationship, and I was wondering if it would be too intense of me to send poetry to him that I've written about him. Would it freak him out or would it be flattering?
sid3 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 It may be a little too intense, its hard to say if it would freak him out. It may. It may also flatter him. Obviously I'm not going to be much help to you. I guess if it were me, I would ask myself if sending it could potentially change the dynamics of my new relationship.
Author lifeasiknowit Posted March 18, 2012 Author Posted March 18, 2012 What if I told him about the poetry and asked him if he would like to read it? Or would even the idea of it freak him out? If it helps, he is a romantic, and very open with his emotions, and he's told me he wants us to share our thoughts, feelings, ect.
sid3 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Yeah, then share it. You don't have anything to worry about IMO.
Desensitized Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 A bit too early, imo. Esp. if you just started dating. If I was your bf, I would be flattered, but at the same time, I would wonder if you were one of those crazy, clingy psycho chicks. There's too many of them.
kaylan Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Is it a bit much and too intense for a girl to write poetry to her boyfriend? I'm in a new but serious relationship, and I was wondering if it would be too intense of me to send poetry to him that I've written about him. Would it freak him out or would it be flattering? Personally, for me, I would so love that. Id plant a huge kiss on you for it. I love when a chick can express how she feels for me in words. Especially since my exes werent too verbally expressive about how the felt for me. Sometimes its just nice to hear how much someone cares for you. Plus Id prolly try and turn it into a song lol. Im a musician and I always love trying to make melodies to go along with lyrics. 2
Thieves Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Well, I think it's lovely that you like to write poetry, and like Kaylan said, I think anybody in a relationship would appreciate any type of gesture that expresses how the other person feels about them. It's always nice to feel cared about, right? Plus, I write poetry as well, though not usually about the people I'm with... But at the same time, I think it may be too early in the relationship for that sort of thing. Perhaps wait a little bit longer so you can both feel the relationship out a little more, and then think about sharing the poetry. Or if you don't want to do that, you could just casually bring up how you like to write as one of your hobbies. Hopefully that'll peak his interest, and through the conversation you can offer to show him some of the poems you've written. I know I would love to have a signifcant other share his poetry with me (if he's good at it, that is! )...
FitChick Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Why not wait until you've been with this man for a year, then present your poems in a little book, or print them out in a PowerPoint presentation with illustrations. Make it special. Meanwhile, keep writing them until that time.
KathyM Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 If you're serious about the guy, then by all means write him some poetry. A lot of guys appreciate that kind of thoughtful, romantic gesture. My oldest son used to write poetry to his girlfriend, and they are now married. My younger son used to get love notes, poetry and other romantic writings from his girlfriend, and he kept every one of them. He still has them, even though they are no longer together, because they are a nice remembrance. Guys tend to cherish that kind of thing. My husband has kept many of the special cards and notes that I have given him over the years.
Taramere Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 I've never written a poem for a man, but I've written poetry with some men. That statement sounds far more romantic than the reality. The poetry tends to be childish humour rather than anything lovey dovey. I think that if you were with an unusually romantic, creative sort of man then yes - write poetry for him by all means, but you'd better be sure that it's good. Bad poetry (eg sentimental rather than coming from a deep place of true emotion) would be something to burden others with rather than gift to them. If you have a gift for it, you might be like Elizabeth Barrett Browning...having another poet fall in love with her simply as a result of reading her poetry before he even met her. On the other hand, the poetry that attracted his attention to her wasn't directed at him specifically. I'm sure if it had been, he'd have been freaked out. Once they were a solid item, she was able to write poetry for him without it wrecking things.
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