tomswife Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 My sister inlaw seems to like me whenever she visits us (she lives in a different state) but the moment she leaves my door she turns into not a very kind sil. I have always loved her and welcomed her to my home. I make special plans and cooks nice meals when she visits. She hardly ever calls me. The other day she called to tell me that she wanted her bro (my husband to visit her this month because she is having a birthday party for her husband. She never invited me to the party and yet she told me on the phone she didn't want me to feel left out. The reason my husband couldn't decide if he is going to the party is because we have young kids and it is hard for me to take care of them by myself. I asked him to take a kid with him but his sister said it wouldn't work because the party is not kid friendly. I may not like my sil but I do love her and want to preserve whatever relationship I have left with her. So here's an email I want to send her. See what you guys think. Do you think I should even send her an email. She is mad at me because I told my husband I can't take care of the kids by myself while he is away. The problem is we co-sleep with the kids. Husband and I each have a kid in different rooms every night. The kids don't go to sleep by themselves or in the same bed with all of us. I have 2 years old twins. Email: Dear XXXX, I am sorry that you caught me at a very bad time. The kids were sick for the longest 20 days. They caught a very bad virus, they couldn't eat they couldn't sleep. J (hubby) and I did not have much sleep for 20 days. I thought that A(kid) is over his infection but yesterday he started having fever again. I am sorry if I didn't sound very kind to you. I want you to know that I love you and I wish you nothing but the best. It would be nice if we can just plan for J to visit with you any time but as a parents of two two year olds with no relatives near me, I just learned a few weeks ago that it is not wise to make commitments. Don't worry about me feeling left out, what's important is that you and E enjoy the party. I am so glad that you are having a party for E he deserves it and I hope he will see a lot of his friends! Again, I want you to know that I love you very much and that you are welcome to my home any time. Lots of Love and Big Hugs. SIL Should I send this email or should I just keep quiet?
Recommended Posts