kaylan Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 (edited) Men of LoveShack. Harken unto my calling. I verily say to all of you, that the female...she is not the confusing creature you seem to think she is. No, no. But what is she then you may ask? Well lemme tell ya bros. Ok two nights ago I visited my college town to hang out with my buddy who is still there. I graduated back in the summer but still have friends there. Anyways, we went out with a couple of friends for "tower hour". For those who dont know "tower hour" is something some bars do on a night during the week where you buy large towers of beer for great prices. Anyways, the bar we went to has a dance floor and plays club music. So we always end up dancing. One of our friends is actually a new friend who just moved into my old house with my buddy. This guy doesnt drink, and doesnt go out dancing too much. Its not so much his scene, but hes a chill dude. Hes def more of a toker. We are all on the dance floor enjoying the music, and this girl is with her friends and decides to ask him for the time or something. I forget exactly what she said, but she made an excuse to talk to him. She was cute, and had an attractive body. I looked at him and said "dude...what are you doing ...go back over there and capitalize on that...a girl wont randomly talk to you like that unless shes feeling you" Hes actually kind of awkward when it comes to talking to women it seems. Hes obviously not used to the atmosphere...so we pushed him along, and they ended up talking, dancing, kissing, and he got her number. Score brah, seriously lol. After we left he kept thanking us for getting him to talk to her, because he was oblivious to her interest at first. He kept saying how great of a time he had. And like I said, this isnt a guy who does the party/club/bar dance thing too often. Before the assumptions come flying in...no he wasnt super tall or super good looking. He was just an average bloke who was looking kinda scruffy that night as well. Whats the point of this story? Decent dudes like my new friend here can easily make headway with women. Its as simple as putting yourself out there and not looking like a bum. Just look chill and enjoy yourself and things kinda happen. Edited March 17, 2012 by kaylan 6
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Hes def more of a toker. And a joker and a smoker too right? Anyway, wonderful story. You give us here on LS too much credit though in thinking we can all experience love and happiness. 1
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Great story! How can a guy expect to win the lotto if he doesn't buy tickets. 1
ThaWholigan Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Men of LoveShack. Harken unto my calling. I verily say to all of you, that the female...she is not the confusing creature you seem to think she is. No, no. But what is she then you may ask? Well lemme tell ya bros. Ok two nights ago I visited my college town to hang out with my buddy who is still there. I graduated back in the summer but still have friends there. Anyways, we went out with a couple of friends for "tower hour". For those who dont know "tower hour" is something some bars do on a night during the week where you buy large towers of beer for great prices. Anyways, the bar we went to has a dance floor and plays club music. So we always end up dancing. One of our friends is actually a new friend who just moved into my old house with my buddy. This guy doesnt drink, and doesnt go out dancing too much. Its not so much his scene, but hes a chill dude. Hes def more of a toker. We are all on the dance floor enjoying the music, and this girl is with her friends and decides to ask him for the time or something. I forget exactly what she said, but she made an excuse to talk to him. She was cute, and had an attractive body. I looked at him and said "dude...what are you doing ...go back over there and capitalize on that...a girl wont randomly talk to you like that unless shes feeling you" Hes actually kind of awkward when it comes to talking to women it seems. Hes obviously not used to the atmosphere...so we pushed him along, and they ended up talking, dancing, kissing, and he got her number. Score brah, seriously lol. After we left he kept thanking us for getting him to talk to her, because he was oblivious to her interest at first. He kept saying how great of a time he had. And like I said, this isnt a guy who does the party/club/bar dance thing too often. Before the assumptions come flying in...no he wasnt super tall or super good looking. He was just an average bloke who was looking kinda scruffy that night as well. Whats the point of this story? Decent dudes like my new friend here can easily make headway with women. Its as simple as putting yourself out there and not looking like a bum. Just look chill and enjoy yourself and things kinda happen. Been there, squandered it . Many times. But you're right, gotta put yourself in the action if you wanna get any interest 1
jobaba Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Good story. Not to say that's happened to me, but it definitely has happened to friends of mine. Yep. Put yourself out there and see how it goes. Definitely.
aj22one Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 The problem here is that most dudes on here with issues are probably not going to be out dancing at some bar on any given night. Most probably don't live in a college town either. So, the lesson to learn here is that you have to put yourself out of your comfort zone and then take advantage or any opportunities that come your way. 3
somedude81 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 What would have happened if she hasn't approached him first? My money is on nothing.
OpenBook Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Men of LoveShack. Harken unto my calling. I verily say to all of you, that the female...she is not the confusing creature you seem to think she is. No, no. But what is she then you may ask? Well lemme tell ya bros. :lmao::lmao: Ah, the Summoner's Tale! I love straightforward advice like this!! Sometimes it really is that elegantly simple. The lucky guy has good friends around him. Well done! 1
Professor X Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 The moral of the story is? He did nothing, maybe in your eyes he's average, but men really don't get approached that much. up until 2 years ago I was going out a lot, the only person in my group of friend who got approached is the guy who looks like a blonde Johnny Depp.... The rest of us had to work hard lol.
ThaWholigan Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 The moral of the story is? He did nothing, maybe in your eyes he's average, but men really don't get approached that much. up until 2 years ago I was going out a lot, the only person in my group of friend who got approached is the guy who looks like a blonde Johnny Depp.... The rest of us had to work hard lol. Meh, even I've been approached and I'm no model...... 1
Bob_Funk Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I used to go out all the time, and I've never had anything remotely like that happen to me. As far as I'm aware, nor have any of my average looking friends. Whenever we'd approach, here are two typical reactions we'd get: 1) *snarled face* "Why are you talking to me?" 2) *turns away and ignores guy completely*
BetheButterfly Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Men of LoveShack. Harken unto my calling. I verily say to all of you, that the female...she is not the confusing creature you seem to think she is. No, no. But what is she then you may ask? Well lemme tell ya bros. Ok two nights ago I visited my college town to hang out with my buddy who is still there. I graduated back in the summer but still have friends there. Anyways, we went out with a couple of friends for "tower hour". For those who dont know "tower hour" is something some bars do on a night during the week where you buy large towers of beer for great prices. Anyways, the bar we went to has a dance floor and plays club music. So we always end up dancing. One of our friends is actually a new friend who just moved into my old house with my buddy. This guy doesnt drink, and doesnt go out dancing too much. Its not so much his scene, but hes a chill dude. Hes def more of a toker. We are all on the dance floor enjoying the music, and this girl is with her friends and decides to ask him for the time or something. I forget exactly what she said, but she made an excuse to talk to him. She was cute, and had an attractive body. I looked at him and said "dude...what are you doing ...go back over there and capitalize on that...a girl wont randomly talk to you like that unless shes feeling you" Hes actually kind of awkward when it comes to talking to women it seems. Hes obviously not used to the atmosphere...so we pushed him along, and they ended up talking, dancing, kissing, and he got her number. Score brah, seriously lol. After we left he kept thanking us for getting him to talk to her, because he was oblivious to her interest at first. He kept saying how great of a time he had. And like I said, this isnt a guy who does the party/club/bar dance thing too often. Before the assumptions come flying in...no he wasnt super tall or super good looking. He was just an average bloke who was looking kinda scruffy that night as well. Whats the point of this story? Decent dudes like my new friend here can easily make headway with women. Its as simple as putting yourself out there and not looking like a bum. Just look chill and enjoy yourself and things kinda happen. Females are just as diverse as males. One thing I find very sad in nowadays, some males seem to consider females as some object to "score" by getting her phone number? or having sex with her. I am glad that there are some men who are not interested in "scoring" on females, but rather are interested in finding a woman to love, commit to, and enjoy a long-lasting relationship with her!
Author kaylan Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 The moral of the story is? He did nothing, maybe in your eyes he's average, but men really don't get approached that much. up until 2 years ago I was going out a lot, the only person in my group of friend who got approached is the guy who looks like a blonde Johnny Depp.... The rest of us had to work hard lol. The moral of the story is to put yourself out there and capitalize on the opportunities presented to you. He did have to go back and talk to the girl, dance with her, and all that jazz. And trust me, hes just an average dude, just like most of us. Men get approached more than you think. Its not super often, but it happens. Maybe its just the area Im in. Its happened to me several times, and its definitely happened a bunch to my buddy who I went to visit. Hes a good looking cat so it makes sense it happen to him more often. Im an average dude, but I used to get a decent amount of interest from having long hair. Honestly, I dont think its hard to be good looking and get interest from the opposite sex. This goes for men and women. You just gotta be in decent shape, have good style and grooming, and highlight your attributes. If you add in some good body language and a bouncy fun personality when youre out, people will take notice and be open to meeting you. 1
somedude81 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Females are just as diverse as males. One thing I find very sad in nowadays, some males seem to consider females as some object to "score" by getting her phone number? or having sex with her. I am glad that there are some men who are not interested in "scoring" on females, but rather are interested in finding a woman to love, commit to, and enjoy a long-lasting relationship with her! Unfortunately, those men stay single until the party girl decides she's had her fun is looking for a stable guy to settle with and she still might cheat on him anyways.
Author kaylan Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 Females are just as diverse as males. One thing I find very sad in nowadays, some males seem to consider females as some object to "score" by getting her phone number? or having sex with her. I am glad that there are some men who are not interested in "scoring" on females, but rather are interested in finding a woman to love, commit to, and enjoy a long-lasting relationship with her! Youre reading way too much into this. Saying "score" is the same thing as women saying "go girl". Its basically saying good job. Especially when it comes to a guy who was out of his element. None of us even mentioned sex that night. So calm down. How do you know hes not looking for a nice girlfriend? Women need to stop being so insecure and over analytical in regards to sex and relationships. Just take things for what they are.
Professor X Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Men get approached more than you think. Its not super often, but it happens. . I never said it doesn't happen, just saying that the title is misleading.
Author kaylan Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 I never said it doesn't happen, just saying that the title is misleading. How is it misleading? I cant see what you mean. Meeting women is easier than some guys think. I used to think it was tough, and then once I just put myself out there to enjoy the atmosphere, many things changed.
gaius Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I am glad that there are some men who are not interested in "scoring" on females, but rather are interested in finding a woman to love, commit to, and enjoy a long-lasting relationship with her! Well they still have to score by getting her phone number to start up that whole process! How come you didn't capitalize on your opportunity Kaylan and steal her away when your friend decided he wasn't going to pursue?
Diamonds&Rust Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 It's hard for stoners to meet women at bars.
jobaba Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Who votes i go out tonight and try this? ...as the predator or the prey?
eleanorhurting Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 ...as the predator or the prey? Both? approaching men never works for me. they never want me
Author kaylan Posted March 18, 2012 Author Posted March 18, 2012 Well they still have to score by getting her phone number to start up that whole process! How come you didn't capitalize on your opportunity Kaylan and steal her away when your friend decided he wasn't going to pursue? Lol I wasnt gonna cockblock the guy. That would have been a douche move, especially since she seemed into him at first. It all worked out though. Maybe he can be my young apprentice. Who votes i go out tonight and try this?I vote for it. Both? approaching men never works for me. they never want me Just have to pick out a dude whos feeling ya...thats all. I say go for it tonight and have fun. Hell...grab a dude and bring him to the dance floor...or grab a dude whos already on the dance floor for a dance. A girl gets ultra cool points for being that assertive with me...that is if I already find her attractive =P. But youre not a bad looking gal...so youll dont just fine.
Imajerk17 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 If you put yourself out there, either a girl you approached will be into you, or a girl will actually approach you. At least one will eventually happen, with the former more likely. But either way you win. Good thread kaylan!
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