heartbroken555 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 in january 2011 i was dumped by my ex girlfriend, you can go read my previous posts. We dated for 1 year,but i fell hard for her, we had an amazing connection, sex was great, we wer very close, but the one day she decided it was finished. She dumped me in a very bad way, i had just moved across town to be closer to her, an area where i didnt know anyone, and she started dating as soon as she left me. i was devastated. i couldnt sleep, eat, all i did ws smoke a ciggarette one after the other, smoke weed, and try to figure things out. i think i hurt myself too much, by begging her for a second chance, and basically making a fool out of myself.. numerous time throughout the year i tried to call her, initate contact anything, but she was cold, and she acted like she didnt give a ****... last december, after about 11 month of our break up, i met one of her best friends, who told me i should really move on, because she had cheated on me, and she left me for someone else. it seems she was talking to this guy behing my back for the last 2 month, then she decided to dump me.... turns out the dude had a gf and it didnt work out. When i found out i called her, and confronted her. i said some really mean things, and called her all sorts of names, i ws so mad and hurt, even after 1 yr... her new boyfriend ( she had 3 bf's since me, within a yr !!) msged me on facebook to leave her alone, or he was gonn take care of the situation ( lol ) her boyfriend is a little 22 yr old kid, ( im 26) and i think he just wanted to show her how bad he is or something.... then afterwards we spoke by email, and i told her even if she did, i forgive her, and i dont care anymore. that was2 month ago. last saturday, i went to a club with some friends and some girls. guess who is right behind me at the bar ? her new bf.... i turn around, with a smile, i say: hhey ! reconize me ? he reconized me alright, he was stressed and didnt know whats up lol i told him its all good, kept a smile, shaked his hand and told him to have a good night ( hee seemed confused lol ) then 2 mins later i see my ex... i say hi to her, nd wish her to have a great ngiht and that was it. during the hole night, she was looking at me ( and her bf asell lol ) and everytime i would pass by her, i ignored her, and i was making out with one of the chicks that came with us. ( i did it on purpose , she was kinda hot too ! ) anyways, i think it really pissed her off, nd she left early with her new bf i was sure i hit a nerve... see the thing is, this girl dumped me, cheated on me, prob regrets cheating, but hadnt seen me in a yr, she still had that bad image of me in her head... but fastfoward a yr later, she sees me in the club, looking super good ( better then her fat, not shaved new bf lol ) and with girls, having fun, smiiling, and i know she noticed how much weight i lost, and how im fitter, and how i chnged my wardrobe style and look so much better. i know she just couldnt stand it lol.... 2 days after... i get a private call. when i pick up, she hangs up i know its her... she did this a few times during the yr ( everytime i would show her iv moved on ) but if i would call her back, she would deny it ( even if one of her calls went threw without the *67 and her number showed up lol ) i didnt call her back, and i wont make any steps toward her again. i gotta admit, i feel good about this, its like a ego boost alot of things have changed since then.... baack then i had just started a business and was broke, had no car, no nice clothe, ghetto apartment, with ghetto furniture. fast foward a yr later my business is doing great i got myself a bmw 5 series. nice apartment in a good area, with gym sauna and pool inside the building. NEw furniture, and iv dated and met so many woman and people this year, its crazy... i guess it was a good thing that she left. it made me know myself a bit more. and im sure she saw a newer and better version of me... i wonder why she called though...is it because i miss her ? is it because she regrets ? or does she just want to see if i still havent mooved on ,and expects me to initate contact? whatver the case, im not..... if she has something to say, she needs to come foward and say it... but i know she wont....too much pride for that... anyways.... what i wanted to say is : it ****en huuuuuuurtss to be dumped by someone you love. specially when they cheated on you..... but eventually, you get over it, start becoming smarter, and better, and get your **** together, and you have all these lovely ladies that you can meet and you forget about your ex ( actually youll never forget about her, but everytime youll think about her now, youll say...hahaha.... poor her.... she doesnt know what shes missing !!!
jamie1987 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 This is very gd to hear my girlfriend left me two weeks ago and we have a child together so i have to see her everyweek so its harder for me to forget about her all i want to do is txt her and try and make things better but i know she wont listen she does not love me anymore. So ive went out and bought a weight bench and try and build up and hopefully get my driving leasons soon to show that i can be a better person and so she regrets what she has done, but one thing she never done was cheat on me i know that and if she had i would prob feel 10 times worse. I know what uyou mean about the begging and stuff i was basicly on my knees crying to her to take me bk and made myself look a fool
nick d Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I know what uyou mean about the begging and stuff i was basicly on my knees crying to her to take me bk and made myself look a fool Happens to the best of us man.
Terrorblade Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Man, Very well done! You are coping very well after the break up, hats off to you! My girlfriend of 3 years left me, and likes this new dude already. From what I've read, it's probably GIGS, but I don't intend to sit around waiting for her to come back. Some of the chicks in my college are already hitting at me lol. I've joined the gym, and feel better every day. Just one word of advice, man. Don't let it get to your head - don't see it ass something like Revenge, or proving something out of it to your ex. If you feel good, it should be because you feel good from the inside, not because you made your ex feel jealous (which you definitely did, by the way ) And yeah, it sucks to be dumped, man. I am going through that phase myself.
Sugarkane Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I can absolutely relate to your story. But I never got the closure. I always wanted to show how well I was doing more than anything! My ex thought I'd never do anything with my life and loved putting me down. I would love to do what you did!
xztjohn Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 wow, your story is alot similar to mines. Its been 5 months and alot of things have changed. I will use this as motivation haha
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Glad you are over her, but it was uncool to use someone to make the ex jealous. Someone was used.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 You don't sound like you are over her at all. You played petty jealousy games and put WAY too much energy in trying to figure out what she thinks/feels about you. If you were truly over her, you wouldn't give a F.... 1
Sugarkane Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Glad you are over her, but it was uncool to use someone to make the ex jealous. Someone was used. So did his ex and yet that was ok?Not to mention lying and cheating. She was far from innocent in this.
nature Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 I'm sorry she hurt you. It does not sound like you are over this girl at all. Sounds like you are as hooked on her as ever. Remember, she was there with a boyfriend. So don't read too much into the fact she was watching you. She may have caught on to the fact you were trying to somewhat show off and act cool. I have seen ex's of mine do that years ago, and I knew what they were doing. She has known this last year you have been very sad about her. So she still knows she has power over you. Perhaps it would be best to try to hang out in different clubs and places until you really get over her? To stop the pain and anguish.
Desensitized Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Meh, who cares. I'm glad the OP had this experience. At least it will make him feel good about himself for all the times he tried contacting his ex and was always rejected. And honestly, I doubt the girl he made out with cares too much about being "used." She wasn't forced to make out with him, was she? Yeah... 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 So did his ex and yet that was ok?Not to mention lying and cheating. She was far from innocent in this. No, his ex could have been truly into the boyfriends she had. Also, OP seems to be creating alternate reality for himself. Never assume anything. He connected the following things: 1. Him kissing another girl 2. His ex leaving early 3. Getting a call from a private number. In all reality all 3 events had nothing to do with each other. Ex probably barely noticed and left early for her own reasons. The call was just a wrong number or you haven't payed your bill or something. 1
windmask Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 ur awesome sir...like it gives me so much hope and i thought i was the only one feeling this bad even after a year or so. my ex left me a year ago i saw her recently she tried talking to me or w.e. but still i miss her etc and i guess i need more time to forget her because i think i still love her...but she like ur gf left me randomly i strongly believe she cheated on me too. because she hates me i feel even though she broke up me not sure why that is. how can she hate me if she broke up with me but i think thats how it is. but thanks for the great story.
Author heartbroken555 Posted March 18, 2012 Author Posted March 18, 2012 @eternal sunshine.. your right, im not over her, i still think about her everyday... i still miss her... so what? it only means i truly did love her and i have a heart... i actually went there to have fun, i did have fun, it showed, i was with a girl , that wasnt "used" lol she was actually all over me, and that whats it is ! i cant lie and say it ddint feel good, and knowing my ex, for sure she got jealous, and its true, she prob does know i enjoyed it, and might have "faked it " but the fact is i didnt, and it was a hell of a night i think i deserve this, after all the **** SHE put me threw... and I KNOW for a fact shes not 100% over me too, and that doesnt change anything anyways... so im just happy i left her with a good impression, im having fun ! and im so much better... if she would call, and ever want to come back, there would be lots of talking we would have to do, but i know deep inside, people never change, and she would come back for the wrong reasons ( lonely, jealousy, ect) you seem to be one of those type of people that say: AHHH your not over your EX... so what ?? lol.. i will be eventually... that doesnt mean im sitting at home crying and hurt ( i did for a few months lol ) im just living my life !
Recommended Posts