R1TE0N Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Talked with a guy online... asked him what he was looking for, he replied: I'm looking to find a friend that I can be intimate with but also grow into relationship (date) and just have the best times with. Do you think you would have an issue with something like that? So..... is that just somehow a more a glorified tactful way of saying FWB?
Professor X Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I'd say your instincts are right.. He's looking first and foremost for intimacy, a.k.a sex, after that, maybe he will want it to grow into a RS.
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 It means - "I want to have sex with you first, as a precursor to having sex with you again, and then maybe several times after that, and then I'll tell you whether we're going the right way (you just keep having sex with me, without complaining) or going the wrong way (you start getting, clingy, needy and wanting to be exclusive...)" so.... yes. 1
RedRobin Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Ask him what he means by 'intimate' and 'best of times' with. Also ask him what his definition of a 'friend' is and share your version of what a 'friend' is. If a guy said this to me, I'd make a joke out of it... I'd tell him I don't have sex with my friends. Do you? I'm intimate with my mom... we share secrets and brush each other's hair. And I have the 'best of times' with my dog. We enjoy long walks in the woods. Is that what you had in mind?? (I know... I'm a brat) 4
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 ..I'm looking to find a friend that I can be intimate with but also grow into relationship (date) and just have the best times with. Do you think you would have an issue with something like that? So..... is that just somehow a more a glorified tactful way of saying FWB? To add; I see nothing either 'glorified' OR 'tactful' about it.... 1
RedRobin Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 To add; I see nothing either 'glorified' OR 'tactful' about it.... I agree. Another 'tell' on this one... he asks, do you have an 'issue'... like, if she doesn't go along with it, then there is something wrong with her...
BetheButterfly Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Talked with a guy online... asked him what he was looking for, he replied: I'm looking to find a friend that I can be intimate with but also grow into relationship (date) and just have the best times with. Do you think you would have an issue with something like that? So..... is that just somehow a more a glorified tactful way of saying FWB? Yep. FWB is very popular nowadays, and there's many ways to say it and to justify it. It hurts a lot of people though who want loving, committed relationships that last the test of time.
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