nick d Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Today is the 11th day of my NC. Honestly I've come close between yesterday and this morning to contacting her. I changed my number so I just keep thinking maybe that's why my ex hasn't tried to contact me? I guess she could email me or come to my house if she did want to talk right? I know she is dating someone else already and it's making me sick to think about. Should I email her to check how she is doing?
gotye Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 no, leave it, she is dating someone else. It would be really hard to contact you with new number, but if she was really desperate to see you she would email or come to your home.
LogicallyIllogical Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I'm sure she knows where you live, or has your facebook/email, so if she wants to get in touch with you, she knows how. If she really wanted to be with you, missed you or loved you, she wouldn't be with someone else. It sounds like you still have her up on that pedestal. Knock her off the damn thing and try to start to move on. I'm assuming she let you go, so why would you chase her? She burned the bridges, so it's her job to mend them(if she ever wants to). I know it's hard, but let go of that hope. Go through no contact until you feel better. The funny thing is that IF your ex contacts you, you'll more than likely already have reached the point of indifference and won't care about her anymore. She's living her life, so stop worrying about her and start living for you again.
Author nick d Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 It's so hard not to have her on a pedestal.. She's so gorgeous and fun to be with. Ah I'm hating life at the moment!
mike588 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Today is the 11th day of my NC. Honestly I've come close between yesterday and this morning to contacting her. I changed my number so I just keep thinking maybe that's why my ex hasn't tried to contact me? I guess she could email me or come to my house if she did want to talk right? I know she is dating someone else already and it's making me sick to think about. Should I email her to check how she is doing? Don't do it!!! I've been in your shoes and know exactly how you feel. I came sooooo very close 500+ times breaking N.C. and am so glad I followed the advise given to me here NOT to!! Like you my ex. was/is with someone else and were not their focus now!! Please don't contact her..it will show your weak....she knows how you feel so just leave her alone....I know how difficult it is!!!!! Let her miss you...wonder about you...what and how your doing. Mine dumped me 7 months ago...I NEVER broke N.C. gave up ever hearing from her then last month she contacts me several times. If she wants to be with you....talk to you she will find a way!
Author nick d Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 Don't do it!!! I've been in your shoes and know exactly how you feel. I came sooooo very close 500+ times breaking N.C. and am so glad I followed the advise given to me here NOT to!! Like you my ex. was/is with someone else and were not their focus now!! Please don't contact her..it will show your weak....she knows how you feel so just leave her alone....I know how difficult it is!!!!! Let her miss you...wonder about you...what and how your doing. Mine dumped me 7 months ago...I NEVER broke N.C. gave up ever hearing from her then last month she contacts me several times. If she wants to be with you....talk to you she will find a way! Are you completely over her now? Do you still have urges to contact her?
mike588 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Are you completely over her now? Do you still have urges to contact her? I'm not COMPLETELY over her but I don't feel the way I used to...the pain...sleepless nights...cant eat...can't concentrate...analyze the breakup over and over and over.. thinking of her a million times a day...all that stuff. Thank God those days are over!!!! I think of her on ocassion but it just doesn't bother me anymore.....She contacted me several times last month and it was a setback...brought back all the memories...emotions....now I'm getting over her again but without all the above. No...I have no urge to contact her.
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