nick d Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 So some of you may have read a post on the girl I met last weekend.. If not I'll sum it up.. I was out and had a girl approach me. We talked for hours and had a great time together. She was scarred to tell me that she has a 6 month old son, but assured me the dad wasn't in the picture. Anyways the next day we are talking and she tells me she doesn't want to lead me on but she really likes me, she is just confused right now. So, I accept that and tell her ok I understand. She tells me not to forget about her and such.. Well fast forward a few days she starts texting me and just making small talk. Next thing I know we are talking about going on a date and hanging out.. Then she starts talking about how she thinks it's good how independent I am and that I have my own house. So I ask her if she lives with her parents.(She is 22 by the way). She then replies saying "Actually I live with my bf (baby's dad) and his parents. WTF?! She proceeds to tell me she likes me and is just very confused! So yeah, I really hope to find a good/honest girl once I finally get over my ex.
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Well, there's nothing to mistrust - she wasn't lying to you as such... it's not as if you started dating, making out, moving in together and making wedding plans... She's insecure, confused and really needs to get her head sorted, absolutely agree... but i don't think it was a deliberate attempt to mislead or deceive you. i think this was more of an exercise in trying to establish what she wanted - and it din't work. so maybe you were 'used' by her, for her to try to find herself something stable to stand on. but that doesn't mean you should become more and more mistrustful.
Author nick d Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 Ya but my point is, is she is out picking up on guys while her bf and son are at home. And saying that she has practically nothing to do with the baby's dad..
Kamille Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Arg she sounds like confusion on legs. Run. It's easier to trust people when you learn to rely on you own judgement about who is worthy of your trust. In my experience, too much drama too early on is a sure sign that person isn't worthy of my time an energy. Move on. The best lesson you can learn here is this: if someone shows you who they are, believe them. Someone out there there is a woman who's ready to have a relationship with me. Don't waste your time on drama.
Kamille Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Ya but my point is, is she is out picking up on guys while her bf and son are at home. And saying that she has practically nothing to do with the baby's dad.. Ok whatev. Her behavior is morally objectionable. Don't waste your time.
veggirl Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Well your first clue she was a mess was the 6 mo old baby at 22 with supposedly no daddy in the picture. You should've exited at that point IMO. Reeks of drama. 1
carhill Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Monkey reaching for another branch. White Knight hoover. Common around these parts, like mobile homes
FitChick Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Well your first clue she was a mess was the 6 mo old baby at 22 with supposedly no daddy in the picture. You should've exited at that point IMO. Reeks of drama. I totally agree. I think it's your house she is interested in. Ka-ching!
daphne Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I don't know. I think you should thank her enthusiastically for telling you the truth and allowing you to dodge that bullet. I also think she was looking for a landing pad.
gaius Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 When you're passive and let women take the lead chances are you're gonna get stuck with one who want's something from you. Other then your sexual skills of course.
veggirl Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I totally agree. I think it's your house she is interested in. Ka-ching! Yeah this. I missed in my original read about the "its good you have a house" thing. Yep, probably does sound reeeal nice to her!
threebyfate Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Gotta' love the btws: btw, I have a six month old son,btw, I still live with my baby's daddy,btw, we live with baby daddy's parents. Agreed. She's looking for a landing pad. RUN!
johan Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Canadian women are the scary ones. You never know what they are going to pull.
phineas Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Canadian women are the scary ones. You never know what they are going to pull. Oh sheet! The first Canadian I met turned out that way. Right after we had sex she slipped up & called her ex-husband her husband even though she supposedly has been divorced for 10 yrs. She got pissed at me & told me she was going to have fun with him this weekend right after telling me she wasn't going to be a piece off ass, even though before we had sex she said that all she wanted to do was have fun. She also claimed her roommate was very nosy & she couldn't talk at home when she was there. honestly i'm wondering if the chick was actually married.
g450 Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Ha! I actually dated a girl like that...sorta. I could come over to her place to pick her up BUT I could not go inside her house because she was still living with her X BF and his Son. Her excuse being that they had a lease on the house and he wanted her to respect his space by not bringing guys to the house. Wow! Hugh red flag. I hung out with her for fun because I was on the rebound but we never had a relationship. Four months of NC at all from her and she emails me "I knew you would drop me like all those other guys". Really? Sheesh what a nutjob. Made me chuckle when I read her email. I guess she expect me to persue her. I should have ran when I first saw her. She was 40 and overweight but the photo she sent me was her prom photo LOL.
phineas Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Ha! I actually dated a girl like that...sorta. I could come over to her place to pick her up BUT I could not go inside her house because she was still living with her X BF and his Son. Her excuse being that they had a lease on the house and he wanted her to respect his space by not bringing guys to the house. Wow! Hugh red flag. I hung out with her for fun because I was on the rebound but we never had a relationship. Four months of NC at all from her and she emails me "I knew you would drop me like all those other guys". Really? Sheesh what a nutjob. Made me chuckle when I read her email. I guess she expect me to persue her. I should have ran when I first saw her. She was 40 and overweight but the photo she sent me was her prom photo LOL. She was overweight also but not a whole lot. Just a lot more than the petite pics she sent me. I did feel bad at first, but then I realized she was trying to guilt me/ get me to chase her. sorry not going to happen. Then the constant txting & the anger when I was working & couldn't respond.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Ya but my point is, is she is out picking up on guys while her bf and son are at home. And saying that she has practically nothing to do with the baby's dad.. If she was upfront with you... what makes you think she wasn't upfront with them? One time I met this really attractive girl at a bar and after chatting for an hour or so we started a heavy makeout session. Her friends came and pulled her away informing me that she was married with 2 kids. Stuff like that happens from time to time in life. You can't presume everyone will be like that.
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