Bob_Funk Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 (edited) Yeah, its very unsettling and gross. Way to throw business students under the bus. We are FAR different from art students, and last I checked some of the smartest and most successful professionals in the world are business majors. Meh. I didn't mean all business majors, or even all arts majors for that matter. Many of my very intelligent, driven friends studied business. I was referring to the guys who go in without a plan, the kind the OP would offer her vagina to. STEM majors weed out idiocy. Edited March 17, 2012 by Bob_Funk
FrustratedStandards Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Hmmm... now that I think about it you're right. I haven't been asked these things either. Maybe since they know you aren't very promiscuous and you're smart enough to stay clean, they don't bother asking because they assume there's nothing to worry about. But you're right. Hmm.. that's actually very alarming.
RedRobin Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Papers, please... and even then there will be a 3 month window to clear any priors. When I get my annual physical, I request everything. Having been cheated on before and having those nervous moments waiting for lab results... and knowing what goes on in the above postings, I leave nothing to chance. I won't continue in a relationship with a man who isn't proactive about getting tested in advance either. There ARE men who are proactive. This has the advantage of weeding out guys who run through women too. Most people don't enjoy being tested and re-tested every few months or weeks.
Cypress25 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 STEM majors weed out idiocy. I don't know about that. I know plenty of people who are academically brilliant but have no common sense. Besides, most people don't choose their romantic partners based on their college major. OP, you're a smart girl and it's a good thing you always insist on a condom. There are guys who are proactive about their sexual health and automatically reach for a condom before having sex, but as you've discovered, there are also lots of guys who don't think about it in the heat of the moment. They probably think nothing bad will ever happen to them.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 (edited) That's interesting because I assumed more men would bring that up, however I guess thinking it through it may be a buzzkill or they feel they might risk not get laid insinuating that you might be whore that needs to get tested. However for the record that some guys do ask, this was something I had always done and asked, the last thing I wanted was a surprise pregnancy or STD so I brought it up, but this was moreso when I was younger and I think some women were a little at least surprised or a little uncomfortable about it for a moment but probably because they may not have been used to ever having the conversation. I've never cared about any awkwardness though, It's important enough to talk about and sometimes I was even beaten to the punch on the question. As I've got older though I hadn't really thought about It but It's changed and It's come up in conversation before even going to that level, I guess the maturity level and responsibility factor is on another level versus when you're younger and It's a little embarrassing to talk about that I suppose. Honestly though you have to sleep with people you feel you can trust, If not then you're just rolling the dice anyway, the best you can do is use protection but It's not like there is a guarantee or anything, plus It's not like an STD will always show up on the radar right away anyway after contracting one even If you got tested. I mean really? how many guys are going to be honest with you If it means putting it in or not while laying on top of you? I think you're giving yourself a false sense of security in that case, If you're really concerned you should bring it out "out of the heat of the moment" because most guys are either A) have no idea whether they have an std or not, I mean his friends slept with the same girl a few weeks ago and he feels fine! or B) They're just going to say "yes...yes...yes" to everything you ask! Edited March 17, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 I didn't mean all business majors, or even all arts majors for that matter. Many of my very intelligent, driven friends studied business. I was referring to the guys who go in without a plan, the kind the OP would offer her vagina to. STEM majors weed out idiocy. Way to make assumptions when you don't actually know anything. Jerk. To everyone else, pretty good responses. In the future if a guy doesn't bother to ask, I'll use that as one of my gauges of maturity and will know to move on.
MrNate 2.0 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Your concerns are definitely valid. Then once you mentioned where you live, Florida (aka booty paradise) then things kind of fell into place. Many guys will just try and get as much as they can, so like some have mentioned, if they're that lax, it's just best to move on. This might be contributing to increasing pregnancy rates..lack of condom usage and those who accept this. Hm.
FitChick Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Many here have said you should ask or they have asked the guy/gal but isn't that irrelevant since people lie? Don't ask but wear a condom/use birth control if you are worried.
kaylan Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Getting an STD is not always a sure thing. You can go bareback to an exposed partner and the chances are not always 100% of getting an STD. ooooooh. I get it...so because chances arent 100% of getting an STD with an infected person, I shouldnt worry too much and its ok if I go bareback anyways... Great advice /sarcasm
salparadise Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 I think most men are just so excited to have sex that their rational thinking pretty much shuts off. It's kind of shocking, but now I know the deal, so I don't expect them to be responsible about this. I look after myself. I think you're probably right. Men are hard-wired to want to do the deed. Bringing up STDs at the point where you've got yer sweetie grinding and breathing hard interrupts the magic of the moment and could reverse the course of events. Plus, condoms don't feel good for a man, and it is a whole lot about the feeling. A man has to override a lot of natural instincts to initiate that conversation and voluntarily wrap it up. And even though in our conscious minds we prefer not to catch anything or get a woman pregnant, in our subconscious we actually do want to at least sow seed. We're descended from a few generations of guys who were predisposed to do that. So in that sense, it's the same thing that makes us want sex to begin with.
Thieves Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 If a girl and I dont have a sexual health and contraception conversation before things get heated up, then Ill glady ask in the heat of the moment. A simple "this is safe right?, is there anything you need to tell me about?" is how I go about it. Ah... this post made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. In a good way. So glad there are people out there who still actually care about their health. Seems there are too many people nowadays willing to get lost in the 'heat of the moment'. Sex is awesome, but is it really worth contracting something just because you were too irresponsible to ask? Getting an STD is not always a sure thing. You can go bareback to an exposed partner and the chances are not always 100% of getting an STD. Sorry, but amazingly stupid post right here. Whether STDs are a 'sure' thing or not, the point is they exist and are still very present in our society. This reminds me of when my mother told me how my father gave her chlamydia a long time ago. She would've had no idea if she hadn't gotten tested, and they were still married at that point. My father said nothing, probably because he didn't know or thought it couldn't happen to him. But no worries, I'm sure you'll be thinking a lot about that hot, steamy session of bareback-loving if you wake up one morning and your urine starts to burn.
Lobouspo Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 OP is a Florida Gator. Should have bagged Tim Tebow while he was in Gainesville. He is a virgin AND rich to boot. Wouldn't have to worry about and STD with him...
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted March 18, 2012 Author Posted March 18, 2012 OP is a Florida Gator. Should have bagged Tim Tebow while he was in Gainesville. He is a virgin AND rich to boot. Wouldn't have to worry about and STD with him... LMAO, ironically the guy graduated with my major. But I was a transfer student - so a bit late on that one. . Plus, I doubt he'd approve of my agnosticism.
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