applefruit Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 Hi, IM SCARED im going to die. ive posted here before and i got too tired for months i was incapacitated so i couldnt think about helping myself and was very lethargic. so im scared im going to die. im 28 yrs old, almost 29 and i live with my parents because they force me to live with them because of control, and they keep me sick for a few years with a life threatening , debilitating disease. and im scared, i feel so weak and the pain is unbearable. but im mentally exhuasted too, so i forgot how to do anything for myself.my brain function is declining so i cant even think or focus anymore how to help myself or that i need to. i have a deadly infection and the only reason im kept sick is because they force me to live with my mother, she is very contagous of the bacteria..she is keeping me sick with this bacteria that kills people every day. shes contagous and im so sick i cant leave the house, i dont have energy some days to leave my bedroom or get down the steps. so i have trouble getting things i need or cooking or doing laundry, and no one takes care of me or helps me they disabled me so much that i have trouble taking care of myself now and i forget to do things like brush my hair or teeth because im so tired all the time my memory is declining some days. i dont think ill survive like this anymore. theyve kept me sick on purpose for 3 years now. i obviousely cannot work or make money because im terribly sick, which is terrible because i really wanted a career when i was younger and i worked hard in college to get good grades. and the reason thyey control me and do things to keep me sick on prupose is because theyve abused me alot of my life in the past and its a control and abuse thing. because my parents said they dont want me to have any future, job or to marry. so me sick like this im helpless like i was at 10. im drowsy so much of the time and feel faint i have no friends, no family members will help me, no aunt or uncle no cousin no one. i tried calling different numbers to get me out of this house. because i know if im away from my mother or quarantined or lived alone id recover physically and also emotionally from my pain i called organazations that help the disabled and they kept giving me different numbers and i was in circles trying to find someone to help and they said im not old enough that they only help senior citizens or only mothers etc... so no one has helped me sofar i need to get out of the house but im really sick and scared to be without someone taking care of me. i looked into womens homeless shelters and domestic violence shelters and they told me on the phone that those places are crowded and they take in women with children first, and that if i dont have a child i might not find room. and they wont have someone there to take care of me, id be on my own and scared and very sick. also my disease infection can be contagous and i have no immunity defense to bacteria in crowds which is why im stuck in my parents home most of the time, i know the more people im around the sicker i can get. i need a place where i can live alone, or be isolated alone from others and still get medical care when needed or someone to cook for me or shop for me. i think id be fine to live alone by myself in an apartment with no roommate, but i cannot get anyone to pay rent for me. i know id recover if i can stay away from people especially my mother who is contagous i have a heart problem and if the infection gets worse or stays like this my heart could get infected and then id need surgery. i dont want to die i think the solution is remove myself from my parents home and live alone so that i dont get more sick from anyone and that i can stay clean away from all bacteria of others. no one is helping me. i asked my doctors and they keep giving me new antibiotics every few weeks that dont work in the last few years. ande one told me to go to a social worker office and my medical insurance dosnt cover social worker visits, i checked and plus i have trouble getting out of the house to qa doctor especially if i dont feel well i have toi wait every few weeks till i get some energy back to be able to go out of the house i do have a mental health history from 15 years ago , so im trying to be careful that they dont put me into a psych hospital again which is where the agencies like to place people who were ever diagnosed as mentally ill. they also dont listen to medical complaints at those places, in my past experience.no matter how serious it is i need to get myself somewhere fast to live alone, to save my life. but also at the same time make sure that no one tricks me and puts me into a psych hospital instead which did happen a few times before when i tried to ask agencies to get me away from the abuse.
TaraMaiden Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I believe this is way to much to air and broadcast on a public forum, and should either be deleted or hidden from prying eyes. I also believe the OP needs immediate professional attention and care. this shouldn't even be here. this should be directed at someone in authority. applefruit: If you can post on a private forum - post on a doctor's email or surgery system, or email your local authority or police. In fact, send this to as many different outlets as you can. and get help.
CC12 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 applefruit, it's really good that you recognize that you need some help. Do a Google search for your local MHMR and call them. If that doesn't work, I think you should try again with some of those organizations you didn't have luck with before. If those organizations tell you that they can't help you, ask them if they know how you can get help or who to call next.
Rayne03 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 (edited) Applefruit, I believe this has been asked of you before and never answered, and if you wish to build any sort of credibility here, please answer this question.... What is this "life threatening disease/bacteria" that you have ? If this is what is making you so sick, and you've received a proper diagnosis, then what is it? Please share. Honestly, if this is the case, you must have a diagnosis from a Doctor. Avoiding this question just makes other posters (me included) very skeptical of what you are sharing, and we would like to believe you and try and help. Edited April 4, 2012 by Rayne03 spelling
Rayne03 Posted April 4, 2012 Posted April 4, 2012 Also, if you are truly as ill as you say, apply for disability. If you are that disabled, you shouldn't have trouble getting it and that's your ticket to your own place.
2garROO Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Hi, IM SCARED im going to die. ive posted here before and i got too tired for months i was incapacitated so i couldnt think about helping myself and was very lethargic. so im scared im going to die. im 28 yrs old, almost 29 and i live with my parents because they force me to live with them because of control, and they keep me sick for a few years with a life threatening , debilitating disease. and im scared, i feel so weak and the pain is unbearable. but im mentally exhuasted too, so i forgot how to do anything for myself.my brain function is declining so i cant even think or focus anymore how to help myself or that i need to. i have a deadly infection and the only reason im kept sick is because they force me to live with my mother, she is very contagous of the bacteria..she is keeping me sick with this bacteria that kills people every day. shes contagous and im so sick i cant leave the house, i dont have energy some days to leave my bedroom or get down the steps. so i have trouble getting things i need or cooking or doing laundry, and no one takes care of me or helps me they disabled me so much that i have trouble taking care of myself now and i forget to do things like brush my hair or teeth because im so tired all the time my memory is declining some days. i dont think ill survive like this anymore. theyve kept me sick on purpose for 3 years now. i obviousely cannot work or make money because im terribly sick, which is terrible because i really wanted a career when i was younger and i worked hard in college to get good grades. and the reason thyey control me and do things to keep me sick on prupose is because theyve abused me alot of my life in the past and its a control and abuse thing. because my parents said they dont want me to have any future, job or to marry. so me sick like this im helpless like i was at 10. im drowsy so much of the time and feel faint i have no friends, no family members will help me, no aunt or uncle no cousin no one. i tried calling different numbers to get me out of this house. because i know if im away from my mother or quarantined or lived alone id recover physically and also emotionally from my pain i called organazations that help the disabled and they kept giving me different numbers and i was in circles trying to find someone to help and they said im not old enough that they only help senior citizens or only mothers etc... so no one has helped me sofar i need to get out of the house but im really sick and scared to be without someone taking care of me. i looked into womens homeless shelters and domestic violence shelters and they told me on the phone that those places are crowded and they take in women with children first, and that if i dont have a child i might not find room. and they wont have someone there to take care of me, id be on my own and scared and very sick. also my disease infection can be contagous and i have no immunity defense to bacteria in crowds which is why im stuck in my parents home most of the time, i know the more people im around the sicker i can get. i need a place where i can live alone, or be isolated alone from others and still get medical care when needed or someone to cook for me or shop for me. i think id be fine to live alone by myself in an apartment with no roommate, but i cannot get anyone to pay rent for me. i know id recover if i can stay away from people especially my mother who is contagous i have a heart problem and if the infection gets worse or stays like this my heart could get infected and then id need surgery. i dont want to die i think the solution is remove myself from my parents home and live alone so that i dont get more sick from anyone and that i can stay clean away from all bacteria of others. no one is helping me. i asked my doctors and they keep giving me new antibiotics every few weeks that dont work in the last few years. ande one told me to go to a social worker office and my medical insurance dosnt cover social worker visits, i checked and plus i have trouble getting out of the house to qa doctor especially if i dont feel well i have toi wait every few weeks till i get some energy back to be able to go out of the house i do have a mental health history from 15 years ago , so im trying to be careful that they dont put me into a psych hospital again which is where the agencies like to place people who were ever diagnosed as mentally ill. they also dont listen to medical complaints at those places, in my past experience.no matter how serious it is i need to get myself somewhere fast to live alone, to save my life. but also at the same time make sure that no one tricks me and puts me into a psych hospital instead which did happen a few times before when i tried to ask agencies to get me away from the abuse. here is a name of a legal agency that can get you the help to get the help you need for your disabilty, but reaching out takes courage and you'll need to want to live enough to not be afraid of getting help even though it cant happen over night to be helped reaching out is something you can do immediately. first of all, battered womens shelters are primarily set up for spousal abuse or relationship between man and woman and her child that is abusal. they do not reach out to battered husbands nor children that adults no matter the severity. you need to look into another place to find the help you need. this area is expended, and you have needs that can be addressed in other places for care that will not exclude you. you do have needs that there are places and orginizations that can provide help, but the controling abusive problems cant be addressed by these shelters for you, there are other options but they will take a desire to live and not be crippled by your own fear so that you can reach out to the agency's that address your needs. i do not know how your parrents can be conatigiouus in anyway than emotionally and mentally or threatening to personal injury, i do not have understanding to how a parrent can carry bacteria that can make them infectious to your physical health. i percieve that the deteriation of your physical health and the emotional abuse and controling behavoirs can make you overwhelmed by your emotional wellbieng and make you exausted mentally and the natural fear of physical ilness killing you alone without emotional and freedom restraints can hurt your mental health and emotional stability, i feel without the parent problems alot of what your going through is normal to having a life threatning ilness. coupled with mental health issues it i do not see that this is unusaul to feel threatned by a mental health agency for help however having mental health issues as well as physical gives you more ground to reach out to differant starting places to get where you need to be as a long term goal. one option feels dangerous, but realistically with the lack of funding to mental health agencies and hopsitals it is unrealistic to exspect to be put away. there system there is not financially equipt to put a paitent in long term care, unless you were put in jail i would not exspect reaching out to a mental hospital to gain ground to get housing, health care, nursing at home, could be anything but strategic, and given your details about your parents and your age, i can tell you this is the easiest way to get services seeing that they can not let you out to be homeless or go back to a unhealthy and dangerous living situtation, the key in this is that you must go through the emergency room to get into one, and you must stress that you have a physical ilness as well as mental health issues and need a mental health ward that is located in a hospital that is not isolated from immediate access for the nurses and doctors to give you physical attention if the need arrises. then you have to trust them to find a bed in the right place. from there you can contact an agency called Disabilty Rights Center and request advocacy and assistance to get the help to not be placed back in your parents care and tell them the abuse you face there and your fear, and how your needs arent met where you live, the hospital and the free lawyers from Disabilty Rights can work together to help you get where you need to be. the time to get help is a fight that you have to choose if you'll fight from home where there is no safety or from a hospital that you can escape to quickly. if you need to get there without your parents keeping you home and you can not get there yourself and you are afraid you cant get in, a call to a 991 dispatch telling them you are afraid you will harm yourself and want to go to a hospital will get you out of the home you are unsafe in and accepted into the care of professional more quickly. you dont even need to have a emotional expression that is out of control nor get into details, but a 911 call like this is a call for help for immediate asssistance and the mental health issues you have should not be feared when they can be used to save your life. once in the hospital you can take your time and get help for your future and good care. do not be ashamed or afraid. reaching out takes commitment to get help, how you feel during is still a battle but you are less likely to suffer in a hospital til you can get services, than you are if you are living in fear and do not die, sometimes we have to feel these ways to be desparate enough to want to live and do the most safest way possible to get help in the most healthy way. having mental health issues is not to be looked at as a doomed to fail double edged sword. sometimes the things we are afraid to do that are healthy and wont hurt us, are the hardest to trust, especially when people have broken our trust right at home. but there is hope. if you are willing to do what it takes to get help and understand that your advantage can what you percieve as weakness and vulnerbilty, but in reality there is no where but a prison to put away the mental il, and if you are not violent a cry for help and a course that has people that will be compassionate and an agency oragnized to give you help is at your best advantage if you fight to be civil and healthy even if you have to lie and say you want to harm yourself, as long as you arent threatning anyone and you call for help, you can get help and utilize the care available to fit your needs, but it takes a commitment and a risk, even when it hurts no one how you get help, and it is scarey to do it. and once on the right path in the area where they do provide help it takes time and it wont be overnight to get to your goal, but reaching out for help once you decide can be done calmly even if you must call 911, but reaching out for help can be done quickly but you will need to trust that you can advocate for youself and do so calmly. even a cry for help 911 to get to a mental hospital to get a socail worker to place you where you can get physical relief can be done with just a calm voice and no freaking out in anyway. say the right words and you can get the right help, go to the right people and they can get you on the right road to recovery. but just cause its fair and normal to feel how you do doesnt mean you have to live in a threatning environment, but you will need to be clever to get beyond your parents reach. and no one can stop you from calling 911 and asking to go to a mental hospital to prevent you from hurting yourself in the future. and your parents would not be able to stop you from saying that to 911 or stopping you from getting help, and the mental health care system is familiar with patients with life threathning health issues and even ptsd from parental neglect and abuse. there is nothing to be afraid of if you want to get help, except for not doing it in a safe way to others or yourself, google how many actual state hospitals there are in any states anymore and you'll see this route will not put you away but can help you get help.
brokenTom Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 applefruit, This is a truly disturbing situation you are in and I REALLY hope you find the help you deserve. I don't have any advice to offer that hasn't already been given, but I wanted to let you know I am rooting for you. Please don't lose hope and continue to try and reach out. For anyone interested in knowing more background, applefruit posted a similar thread about a year ago: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/familial/family/268720-controlling-adult-daughter-munchausens-proxy
LuckyLady13 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Hi Applefruit. I have such similar experiences to everything you're saying so I understand you. My mother is controlling and abusive and has two daughters. She played psychiatrist and diagnosed both of us with mental disorders constantly. She was always trying to tell me and other people that I was ill (physically and mentally) and did the same with my sister but stuck with the mental illness angle with her. My mother loves attention and thinks this is a way to get sympathy from others and their undivided attention. It is also a way for her to try to keep her kids as slaves by separating us from friends and family, keep us from having jobs, successful relationships, etc. I'm an intelligent, creative, caring person. Sound familiar? My father isn't like my mother. So I can't imagine having two parents like this. I was never put in a mental institution but that's probably because my mother just wasn't smart enough to think of it. She constantly lied to other people. Like you said, neighbors, people at the store, whoever. It always disgusted me. She did try a few times to push me into seeing a psychiatrist to get a diagnosis but her diagnosis would change from time to time. So she wanted me to pretend to have the symptoms she was making up in her head in front of a shrink to get permanent disability or social security. She wanted me to stay with her (she's on disability) like a forced friend/slave. I always refused and when I did, she would have a fit. I got a job I really liked during an up time when I was physically in good enough shape to do it. She called me at work to "talk" and I told her my boss said no phone calls unless it's an emergency. She didn't like this so she started calling my boss's phone and asking for me. She knew this could get me fired. My boss suspended me for 2 weeks without pay. I know all about the lies, the controlling behavior, the armchair psychiatrist diagnosis...the constant "mental disorders" you know you don't have. And all of this just wears you down mentally so bad that it sucks the very life out of you. Applefruit, I know it isn't easy but try to have a little patience and understanding with other people. I have had friends who looked at me like I was making up stories until they met my mother and saw it themselves. Then they would get very upset and say "I'm so sorry" and almost cry because they witnessed something they didn't think happens. People assume parents care about their kids. When they would see my mothers pure anger and hate and how she had no sympathy for me, her own daughter, their heads would spin. People have a hard time grasping the idea that some parents honestly don't feel a thing for their kids and sometimes they have to see it with their own eyes. It sounds more like a movie to them, something made up that's so extraordinary it can't be real. But for someone like me who witnessed it my whole life, I completely understand you. This is no story. No movie. Your parents are like my mother. By the way, my sister has been diagnosed with a mental illness, lives with my mother at the ripe age of 30 and is on social security so my mother did get one slave out of the two of us. My sister is now trapped and most days so mentally unglued with anxiety she hardly makes sense. You're absolutely right that you will physically feel so much better away from your parents. And you are intelligent enough to have open eyes to the world and learn fast to become the person you really are starving to be. But how to get out? I feel for you. The physical drain and physical problems on top of each other makes getting out of bed feel impossible some days. I also was on antibiotics for 4 years with constant infections. I believe now that the mental drain from my mother had me so mentally dragged down that my body could not fight off infection. As a side note: Antibiotics cause anxiety and insomnia which will only make it harder for you to think straight. I stopped taking them and rode out the infections with the idea that if I got a very high fever, only then would I take them. The high fever never happened so my anxiety level is now dropped dramatically. Applefruit, I think what it's going to come down to is you getting so sick of this life you're living that you take some drastic measures to get yourself out. What I mean by drastic measures is going to a shelter and reaching out in every direction for help, despite the fact that you're too dragged down and worn out to go food shopping for yourself. There are ways to survive and start climbing out of the pit you're in. It feels so impossible when you're at the bottom but I think you've got some fight left in you to start that tough climb up and out. I think it's entirely possible your mother isn't infecting you with a bacteria but dragging you down so hard mentally your body can't fight, just like the way mine was. I can't recommend going about it the way I did (not taking antibiotics) because it's dangerous. If you get a high fever, you need to do something ASAP. Sometimes I really wonder why my mother doesn't get tired of this angle of saying both her kids are so ill all the time. She does this to my father too, by the way. He's always ill and mental too! And he's now on disability. People have to realize my mother is full of stories when she says her entire immediate family is so ill. But it does take a little time for people to get what's going on with her. Applefruit, you're intelligent and creative. Being so, you're going to have to find some creative ways out of this. There isn't a list of things to do I can give you. I found my way out and haven't seen my mother in a few years now. It's bliss, my dear! There are people out there like me who have seen this before, understand it and will reach out their hand to help you out of your pit you're stuck in but it might not be easy to find them. Keep reaching out. I can't imagine having two parents like my mother instead of one so reach out and do it again and again until you find people who can grasp what's going on and help you start getting out. You're not all mental like your parents drilled into your head so do not bring up to anybody that you've got a history of mental disorders. It will skew their opinion of you and you don't need that. It's hard enough for normal people to grasp such mentally unstable, uncaring, selfish and controlling parents. It's enough to have to wait all the time for people to realize that yes, there really are parents like this. No, my parents aren't like yours. Mine do not care. They do want me trapped at home ill and helpless. You said you can't do simple things anymore. You're smart, Applefruit. You'll pick things back up much faster than you realize right now. I understand how you feel and what you're going through. I made it out but my sister didn't. My father is declining also. I'd love to have my mother locked up in jail where she belongs for all this mental abuse she's pushed on her entire immediate family. Some people really can suck the life out of others. I want to see you make it out too but I understand how you have an additional problem I didn't have. Your father has you over a barrel. I suspect that if you get a job, he's going to try to pull the mental illness angle to get you back in the house again. The same way my mother tried to get me fired. There's only one thing I feel like saying to you right now. Run. When I was about 15, a neighbor noticed the abuse going on. I was locked in my bedroom for weeks at a time. This neighbor saw me climbing out a 2rd story window (afraid to jump and break my ankles) trying to get away and yelled to me "run honey, run!". I did. There are people out there who will understand you. Look under every rock because you will start finding them if you just keep looking and looking. They will reach out to help.
NeverDated Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Applefruit, I believe this has been asked of you before and never answered, and if you wish to build any sort of credibility here, please answer this question.... What is this "life threatening disease/bacteria" that you have ? If this is what is making you so sick, and you've received a proper diagnosis, then what is it? Please share. Honestly, if this is the case, you must have a diagnosis from a Doctor. Avoiding this question just makes other posters (me included) very skeptical of what you are sharing, and we would like to believe you and try and help. I agree with this. A year ago, you posted that you were suffering from a chronic, antibiotic-resistant infection. How are you still alive? Logic (and medicine) dictate that by now the prescribing doctor would have admitted you to the hospital for IV treatments.
LuckyLady13 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 NeverDated, in Applefruits defense here, I was admitted to the hospital. My white blood cell count remained sky high for years. IV antibiotics didn't kill it. I've been on almost every antibiotic in existence. They had me on 3 at a time with steroids. Still didn't knock it out. We live in a day and age now with MRSA. It actually is possible to remain ill with an infection for long periods without dying. But it's not a cakewalk to be ill and in pain with infections, not getting worse enough to die but not better enough to really live. It gets severely depressing. Every time i had about 2 weeks off a round of antibiotics, I got worse. Back to the doctor (I saw 4 and an infectious disease specialist), I'd go on other antibiotics because every single time I tested positive for infection. I was getting ear infections, throat infections, esophageal infections, skin infections, infections in my stomach and wouldn't die! The inflammation and pain was so horrible. There were days I wanted to get sick enough to die but...here I am. I did meet a woman infected with MRSA for a year and so was her son and husband. They had to continually disinfect their house and go on round after round of antibiotics. They finally got rid of it. It is entirely possible to have infections for a year or more without it killing you.
NeverDated Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 I was getting ear infections, throat infections, esophageal infections, skin infections, infections in my stomach and wouldn't die! The inflammation and pain was so horrible. There were days I wanted to get sick enough to die but...here I am. I'm sure (and that is really awful!). As people have pointed out here and in the other tread, applefruit had repeatedly referenced a "contagious" and "antibiotic resistant bacteria" that "kills people everyday." Even you state that IV antibiotics didn't (don't?) kill your infection...she never mentioned a single hospital visit for this bacterial infection that leaves her so weak she can't properly speak. I guess all a few of us need is to know which bacteria is antibiotic susceptible enough it can be fought off, but resistant enough to leave her virtually incapacitated. Call me cynical. The style, cadence and writing style of this post and others suggest it isn't a personal account but instead a constructed world. This strikes me as the kind of writing I would see when I worked with young author communities (ie, this reads as fiction).
Eddie Edirol Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Applefruit, I believe this has been asked of you before and never answered, and if you wish to build any sort of credibility here, please answer this question.... What is this "life threatening disease/bacteria" that you have ? If this is what is making you so sick, and you've received a proper diagnosis, then what is it? Please share. Honestly, if this is the case, you must have a diagnosis from a Doctor. Avoiding this question just makes other posters (me included) very skeptical of what you are sharing, and we would like to believe you and try and help. She cant answer that, if she had a diagnosis, she would have been removed from her house by now, and if her parents were poisoning her, it would have been found out by now- or at least since she posted this in march. I dont understand how she says she faints in public, but she cant get up and walk. She abandoned her thread when she was asked this, and went on to give advise in other threads. She cant leave her house, but wants to, but cant live by herself and wants someone to take care of her, but she cant go to a shelter. She says she cant go to a shelter because shes contageous, but doesnt know what she has to be contageous. She took care of her sister when she was 23 because her parents didnt look after her, but after that, all of her siblings and her parents ganged up and got violent on her. From her post last april: one time while i was shackled by court officers outside my bedroom and brought to court at 8am from being in bed sleeping and in pain and not feeling fell. my father tried to convince the judge that i was plotting suicide for 2 years and havent showered in 6 yrs or something. thank g-d the judge that time didnt believe him and told him he was starting fights with me by making up stories You'd think she had her chance to tell the judge right then what happened to her, but nope. people involved with this court/mental health dont listen to me, they dont care about me or whats good for me or what i want in life. they make their own day easier because they have all the fancy paperwork against me they need and a demanding father who claims im a danger to all. Oh, and then: i have proof that the court evaulator nd my father lied about me, i have proof that the psychiatrist who never met me that my father paid to write a letter about me saying im psychotic and need to be hospitalised and drugged emediately LIED about me also my sisters unfortunately have been good chat buddies sometimes, fashion advice, talk about nice tv shows but they dont give a rat about me, they refused to help me and do not care if i rot in a sewer. im their fair weather friend , if its not interesting to them they dont do anything. they also take after my parents personalities. they also gang up on me and have instigated things, got violent to me and lied to my parents about me to try to get me in trouble or put away. What does this sound like to you guys? Ive been in over 15 different mental institutions as a kid or maybe 20 i lost count. I would think that if she was sent to that many instititions as a kid, then there is a real mental disability that happened, that has frustrated her family for the last 15 years. Oh, and then her parents became religious fanatics. She's basically saying that she cant do anything, or contact anyone, like she wants someone to show up, take her to a free apt, and take care of her until she gets better, but she cant trust strangers so she cant do that either. so i need a power of attorney or something, someone else to go instead of me. or talk on skype to the judge if im too sick to go to the court Now after she abandoned her own thread, because she couldnt give any real answers, she thought she could give advise in other threads in a few days later. Remember how bad her grammer and spelling was? It was just fine a couple days later in this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/spirituality-religious-beliefs/276131-jewi-not-jew#post3381635 She was accused of being a nigerian, but I dont think she is a Nigerian, she might be Quietguys sister though. My question is why she decided to answer other threads, and then decide to give up for a year and come back and try the story again.
NeverDated Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Just wanted to add...I read through her other posts on here, just in case the mysterious illness was ever named. It wasn't. The story doesn't add up across what's been written. In some posts, her mother keeps infecting her. In others, it's a bacteria that was living in the carpeting in the home. There are several other story-matching problems to boot (in some threads she says she doesn't leave home because she's lazy, in others it's because she's disabled, in others it's because her parents forced her to stay, that kind of thing). (Tried to edit my last post, but EE had already posted so it wouldn't let me.)
Eddie Edirol Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 (Tried to edit my last post, but EE had already posted so it wouldn't let me.) Dont worry about it my dear, as you saw in her other threads, she wasnt believed there either.
NeverDated Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Dont worry about it my dear, as you saw in her other threads, she wasnt believed there either. Yes, I saw that. I just hate posting that quickly without responding to what someone had said. Bad forum manners. :-P Just a quick question along the "s" vs "z" line in the other thread: she writes "g-d". I've never seen an WASP do that, only those of the Hebrew faith. Just a curious/passing observation that is more or less meaningless...
LuckyLady13 Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 My sister has had similar reactions from people as I'm seeing here. The thing is, SOMETHING is going on here for a person to come to a forum and post the types of things Applefruit is posting. In the spirit of being helpful rather than critical, I have to say I'm seeing reactions I've seen before. My sister is the one who lives with our parents and she's the one who had the worst anxiety and it got so bad that she went to her job crying to her manager she was going to kill herself. Instead of people thinking something must be going on at home, they thought my sister is just mental. People do get mental when they live with people who don't care about them. It's a natural thing to have happen. Applefruit, I feel bad. I wish everybody could be understanding because you do need help. Don't stop reaching out and don't let people discourage you. My mother did (after the suicide scare) push my sister to go on social security. The anxiety my mother caused with her abuse toward my sister, father and me had my sisters head scrambled up pretty good. But even then, she had to pretend she was worse off mentally than she really is to get social security. I had a friend who was abused by her parents and living with them at the age of 40! Don't let this go on like that because the damage gets deeper as every year goes by. She also suffered severe anxiety but eventually got the courage to tell the police she's homeless. They set her up with a program to get her housing and she lives in a hotel (not the greatest but) it got her independent and out of her situation. Her brother still lives with their parents at 30. Some parents really are stranger than fiction. Shortly before getting away from her parents, I witnessed my friends mother threatening to kill her pet bird if she leaves. This devastated and terrified my friend. I felt so bad for her.
brokenTom Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Abuse and neglect from parents seriously messes with your head. A few small-ish details here or there not lining up is not a great reason to doubt everything they say. IMHO
Eddie Edirol Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 My sister has had similar reactions from people as I'm seeing here. The thing is, SOMETHING is going on here for a person to come to a forum and post the types of things Applefruit is posting. I know something has to be going on here, but I dont think it is anything like what shes talking about. I find it hard to believe that someone is that mentally helpless, yet goes into other threads to give advise? After not responding to questions in her thread? And then waits a year to come back here, tell the same sob story, and hasnt tried to email someone advised in her thread last year to help her escape, yknow? If someone really wanted to escape so badly, they would have found a way, or found someone to help them by now, after all the years she said she's been held captive. If she doesnt tell what the real issue is, and just wants to vent, theres nothing anyone on a forum can do anyway. 1
NeverDated Posted April 6, 2012 Posted April 6, 2012 Abuse and neglect from parents seriously messes with your head. A few small-ish details here or there not lining up is not a great reason to doubt everything they say. IMHO These aren't little details. The OP states that the mother is purposefully reinfecting her with a bacteria. Other posts state she's just sick. Others state she got it from the carpet and it can't be cured. That's like saying you broke your leg, then giving multiple different reasons why it happened. I do think there's something going on with the OP, but doubt it's what she's saying it is. Honestly, it seems like even she is unsure of what her problem really is.
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