jamie1987 Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I was just wondering what u all thought, so ive been thinking been broke up with my ex a week we have a kid together etc so its hard and i want to move on is it best maybe to go looking for someone else or is it best to wait and bide time. like every time i hear that she is going out she asks me to watch my kid witch i dont mind but im wondering if she is with someone else she said she does not want anyone else after we broke up but she is the type that when she is drunk gets all flirlty and does not know what she is doing and i get worried but i know i should not
Chi townD Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I know that it's easier to write this than actually practice this but...you have to forget what she's doing. Not your problem anymore. And dude? It's only been a week. You need to give yourself some time. You need to heal or else you're going to be useless to yourself and the person you would be dating. Now, I'm not saying to become a hermit. Go out and have a good time. But, I wouldn't be looking to date anyone just yet.
Author jamie1987 Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 I know that it's easier to write this than actually practice this but...you have to forget what she's doing. Not your problem anymore. And dude? It's only been a week. You need to give yourself some time. You need to heal or else you're going to be useless to yourself and the person you would be dating. Now, I'm not saying to become a hermit. Go out and have a good time. But, I wouldn't be looking to date anyone just yet. yeah thx i said it was a week but its been 2 ive been facebooking one of my other exs to see if shes up for a small drink to take my mind off her to see if it helps
nick d Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I started going out about 3 weeks after my break up.. And when I was meeting girls and talking with them it actually made me feel worse! Whether you will admit it or not, you still have your ex on a pedestal.. (I do too and it's been 7 weeks now since the break up). So any girl you meet won't measure up to your ex and it will only hurt you more..
Author jamie1987 Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 yeah i suppose i just keep thinking that she will be with someone else even tho she said she does not want anyone else like shes going out tonight and i cant stop thinking about it and thought it would help for me to get someone else
nick d Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 yeah i suppose i just keep thinking that she will be with someone else even tho she said she does not want anyone else like shes going out tonight and i cant stop thinking about it and thought it would help for me to get someone else I'm gonna be totally honest with you man... My ex told me the EXACT same thing. "I don't want anyone else".. She is dating someone now.. They say that to let you down easy and to make you not want to date anyone. Trust me on this!
Author jamie1987 Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 I'm gonna be totally honest with you man... My ex told me the EXACT same thing. "I don't want anyone else".. She is dating someone now.. They say that to let you down easy and to make you not want to date anyone. Trust me on this! I dont think so tho she said she only wants to concentrate on our daughter just now but as i said who knows what could happen when the drinks flow
VirileEntity Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I'd recommend focusing on yourself for the time being. Enjoy your hobbies and your passions, whatever they may be, go out and treat yourself to something nice, and improve your body however you may see fit. Easier said than done, obviously, but if you make it into a routine, it becomes easier as time ensues.
Author jamie1987 Posted March 17, 2012 Author Posted March 17, 2012 I'd recommend focusing on yourself for the time being. Enjoy your hobbies and your passions, whatever they may be, go out and treat yourself to something nice, and improve your body however you may see fit. Easier said than done, obviously, but if you make it into a routine, it becomes easier as time ensues. Yeah i know what ur saying all i mostly do is play computer games but even that reminds me of her as she used to play to but as ive said i bought a weight bench to try and get built up and keep me occupied but even thats an effort just dont seem to have any drive anymore
mississippimom Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 I started going out about 3 weeks after my break up.. And when I was meeting girls and talking with them it actually made me feel worse! Whether you will admit it or not, you still have your ex on a pedestal.. (I do too and it's been 7 weeks now since the break up). So any girl you meet won't measure up to your ex and it will only hurt you more.. I wish you could tell my exbf that lol....when we finally "ended" things a few weeks ago, actually Feb 13th, we called it "quits" ...he failed to tell me he met his new gf a few days earlier...now they are living together. I told him yesterday that she was a REBOUND and he's still hurt over mine and his breakup. I know he's doing it to see if he can get "over" me, but it's failing obviously. I hate it for him but he jumped on a new relationship WAY too soon and I don't want him to get hurt.
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