udolipixie Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 What incentive does the OP have to go out with her male equivalent (a guy whose 50 lbs overweight), when she has musclemen messaging her? A relationship or marriage if she wants such things and musclemen aren't interested in such things. Even though the OP seperates herself from the vast majority of women by thinking "it's too good to be true", she's still most likely going to prefer NSA sex with a really muscular guy than a relationship with an equally chubby, funny, nice , intelligent guy. Egh who says the equally chubby, funny, nice, intelligent guy would be willing to offer a relationship? She may get depressed about it when it's all over, and end up marrying a guy in her actual league by the age of 35-40 when the cinderella/biological clock is just about to hit 12, but it's still not fair that men have to commit to her after all these scores of "hot guys" pumped and dumped her, bringing her sexual value down to men (whether you femi-nazis like it or not, it's how it is). Cool. Do it's how it is also follow the belief of the slut double standard of how virgin/inexperienced men are of no value if virgin and low value if inexperienced. After all the slut double standard judges gals negatively for high partner counts and guys negatively for no or low partner counts. It's really depressing, and why monogamy should be brought back for the sake of male sanity. Monogamy is still around. People can chose to be monogamous, promiscuous, or in open relationships. In what way should monogamy be brought back to you other than it's a choice people make? Monogamy was kind of like a social regulation to prevent 10% of males from having sex with 90% of women, No just no. Please show statistics, evidence or facts stating that what monogamy was for or those percentages. yet with that dismantled it's next to impossible for a guy whose a couple inches shorter than average, couple dozen pounds over weight, with a job making under 40 G's to find a stable girl who isn't 400 lbs or has down syndrome. Perhaps it's next to impossible for you or guys you know. Plenty of average, ugly, short, fat, old, bald, and obese guys tend to have sex with women, relationships with women, and marriages with women that aren't 400lbs or have down syndrome.
Chubbi Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 StD stats show that women between the ages of 18-30 have a high risk of STDs. The reason they don't focus on men as much is because these women are having sex with the same goodlooking men, while other men will only have about 1-5 partners. Gerard Butler went through about 20 women in a year before his rehab stint.
SmileFace Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Haha @ muscle man. I am not sure why there is a correlation between body type and personality.
Hetzer Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 How's your personality? It's good. I'm way more interesting, funny, and charming than the average woman , that's for sure. A relationship or marriage if she wants such things and musclemen aren't interested in such things.[/Quote] Would you really say you'd rather have a relationship with a guy whose in your league over fwb or sex with a guy much more attractive than you? You'd be the first woman I've met who says this and practices it. Egh who says the equally chubby, funny, nice, intelligent guy would be willing to offer a relationship?[/Quote] Judging from reading the male internet dating profiles, which outnumber womens 10 to 1, I'd say so. These guys are 5's who are messaging the 5's, and not getting responses because the 5's are having NSA sex with 10's. Cool. Do it's how it is also follow the belief of the slut double standard of how virgin/inexperienced men are of no value if virgin and low value if inexperienced. After all the slut double standard judges gals negatively for high partner counts and guys negatively for no or low partner counts.[/Quote] Enough of this feminism none-sense, the slut "double standard" makes a lot of sense. If you don't have something to dissuade women from being promiscuous, then there is no morality, illegitimacy, etc. The reason there's a double standard is women can have sex whenever they want, usually with almost whoever they want, compared to men who have to really work their asses off or get lucky (atleast for every day guys). Abuse of your power is the issue and avoiding all women having sex with the same 2-3 cads by encouraging that they be in relationships before having sex, not mindlessly oppressing women. Monogamy is still around. People can chose to be monogamous, promiscuous, or in open relationships. In what way should monogamy be brought back to you other than it's a choice people make?[/Quote] Encouraging marriage at a young age (for STRAIGHT people *gasp*), and discouraging all the new types of relationships most women my age are in IE FWB or ****-buddy relationships with the same old guy in the band or fratboy. No just no. Please show statistics, evidence or facts stating that what monogamy was for or those percentages.[/Quote] Just look it up, or better yet, look around. You're going to tell me people aren't more promiscuous now than they were in the 50's? Promiscuity/free sex only benefits women, because sex is a big investment for them. Because it's such a big investment, women only have one night stand sex with the best of the best looking, and get tangled up in that drama/become the popular guys booty call thinking a relationships in the cards, meanwhile some guys like me who are perfectly normal, stay perpetually single because some mental midget surfer bro is stringing all the girls along. Perhaps it's next to impossible for you or guys you know. Plenty of average, ugly, short, fat, old, bald, and obese guys tend to have sex with women, relationships with women, and marriages with women that aren't 400lbs or have down syndrome.[/Quote] I don't know any guy whose my age (early 20's) that is short/bald/obese who has a girlfriend. I don't see anything like that on campus (these guys are always alone). I do see lots of dumpy , ugly , fat and moronic looking women with all types of guys though, often much better looking than them. People start to date more within their league in their 30's , or you start seeing attractive women with somewhat unattractive males as well, but that's only because they have money.
FitChick Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 Gerard Butler went through about 20 women in a year before his rehab stint. And, sadly, I wasn't one of them. Rehab was for his addiction to prescription painkillers. His next rehab stint will be for sex addiction. His rehab after that will be for cupcake addiction. 1
dindygirl Posted March 18, 2012 Posted March 18, 2012 I am in the same boat and am going to turn 44 in a week. I was 120lbs overweight and basically have no had a boyfriend in 8 years. Men seem to hook up with heavy women for the wrong reasons - not all but at least all the ones I did. I too am about 50lbs heavy now but look about 40ish lbs over because of my workout routine. Still, now that I am in that in between phase I am not big enough for the guys who think all very heavy women are desperate and think you will sleep with them easily. I asked a guy who I thought liked me out (he seemed shy) and he blew me off so I guess I am not thin enough yet. I wish I had an answer other than people can be jerks toward heavy people. Regardless of the guy at work who strung me along or anyone else I am committed to reaching my goal for health issues. Focus on that and if any of these guys who were mean to you when you were heavy knock on your door then tell them to get lost!! That is what my plan is at least.
mortensorchid Posted March 19, 2012 Posted March 19, 2012 First, congratulations on your loosing over 100 lbs. I used to be 45 lbs heavier than I am now and I know of some of your stuggle. It's a rather sad situation out there, something we do not like to talk about. Obesity is more rampant than we would like to think it is, for people of all ages and backgrounds. What do we do about this? The only answer is that in order to feel better about yourself, for others to like you (in any way be it romantic, business or otherwise), you must loose the weight. People do not take you seriously if you get fat, I've been there and have experienced it first hand in the workplace as well as my personal life. I am behind you 100% with this in your weight loss efforts. Because the world is not going to change, YOU have to change.
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