loveydove Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Hi fellow Love-Shackers, I've been roaming around these posts for a few weeks now, and while I have found comfort in knowing others are going through the same pain that I am experiencing - sometimes the energy here can become a bit negative. I mean let's be honest, we're all broken hearted, so very few of us are able to encouraging others without bias. In my quest to find more answers for myself, I happened upon this site: | Ask Love Doctor Yangki Christine Akiteng She has some very interesting articles, including her opinion on the dangers of N/C. Before you freak out!!! She is not saying not to use N/C as it is the number one way to regain your power, self esteem, and to begin the healing process. However, she talks about the dangers of using it incorrectly: to inflict pain on another, to make them want you back, to punish, etc. She says if you are not solely doing it for yourself it can actually cause more pain in the long run, as you are secretly expecting them to hurt, and you may never hear from them. I just thought it was an interesting and comforting website and I wanted to share incase it could be helpful for someone else. I hope everyone is hanging in there, we will get through this someday. -Loveydove
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