mymission Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 We were together a year and a half, broke up a month ago. I have been trying NC but messed it up loads if times. I've begged for him back and tried to get answers out of him. BUT I HAVE GIVEN UP NOW. Ive sent him a hand written letter telling him that he's missed out now and I would'n't take him back if he asked me. And that I'm done with it all. I've removed him off facebook. I just hope I can stick to not texting him cos I know his number off by heart which is really annoying!
HollyBolly Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 We were together a year and a half, broke up a month ago. I have been trying NC but messed it up loads if times. I've begged for him back and tried to get answers out of him. BUT I HAVE GIVEN UP NOW. Ive sent him a hand written letter telling him that he's missed out now and I would'n't take him back if he asked me. And that I'm done with it all. I've removed him off facebook. I just hope I can stick to not texting him cos I know his number off by heart which is really annoying! NC isn't easy. That has already been established. Does it help heal? I think so. I broke up with my ex 5 weeks ago. It was not violent but not exactly pretty. She never contacted me in those 5 weeks. I have contacted her twice. First, it was 2 weeks after the breakup. I texted her asking her how she was doing. Did I really care how she was doing? Not really. I was lonely and needed...SOMEthing. She didn't reply, thank God. Then I sent her another text one week after that to ream her out. Don't worry about why. I had my reasons. No reply from her, which was good. I have not contacted her at all, via any means, for the past 2 weeks, and will continue NC for the rest of my life, if I have to. By sending him a letter, hand-written or otherwise, you have opened yourself up to being hurt again. That is what breaking NC is all about: vulnerability. Should he write back, try not to even read it. If you must read it, DO NOT reply! If you feel the need to contact him, post it here instead. Just get it out of your system any way OTHER THAN contacting him.
Author mymission Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 It was final closure for me. I know he is not going to reply. I just didn't want to leave it on the last things we said to each other
HollyBolly Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 It was final closure for me. I know he is not going to reply. I just didn't want to leave it on the last things we said to each other And if he DOES reply?? What then? Will you have the strength and will-power to ignore it? I know I won't! Not right now.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 17, 2012 Posted March 17, 2012 It was final closure for me. I know he is not going to reply. I just didn't want to leave it on the last things we said to each other He knows better than to contact you again, because he wont want to deal with you trying to get back together. he also wont care about the letter, but I understand how it takes a load off to write it. Since he didnt tell you the real reason he broke it off, he doesnt deserve you trying to pacify the last things you said to each other. You dont need to be friends, he doesnt deserve that. You said those things for a reason, let them stick, you were probably right. Leave it be, you dont have to please everyone. You care the only one to make your closure, otherwise you will keep looking for reasons to contact him. 2
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