spider165 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 As I have previously written on here my ex fiance broke up with melast June. Things got some what nasty after the break up since Icouldn't stop trying to contact her and fix things between us. Sheended up telling me to stop contacting her or she would take legalaction. I was very hurt by that and of course stopped immediately.Last Sunday out of nowhere she sends me a text saying "Hi".She ends up saying that she has been thinking about me a lot lately.Furthermore she goes on to say that she can't see herself lovinganyone like she loved me. So I was like let's meet up and talk andshe says that she was out of state. I asked her if she wanted to meetup when she gets back and she says "I don't know". I gaveher like a week and texted her asking if she made it home safe. Shewas super short with me and just texts me "yes" and doesn’treply to my other question. I wrote her an email yesterday telling her that I'm confused byher actions and if she only contacted me to see how I was doing tonot contact me again. I also told her that if she wants to gettogether and talk about us in person that I'm willing to do so but Idon't want to just be friends. She has not replied back to my emailand I guess is ignoring me. I went through hell the first few monthsafter the break up. I started working out a lot which helped me getthrough the worst. I'm still very hurt and heart broken over thewhole thing. I haven't been able to date other people because I'msuper guarded and won't let anyone get close to me. For me to move onI know that I can't have her in my life anymore. Is it wrong for meto tell her not to contact me? Any comments, suggestions, and adviceis welcome.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 You were right to tell her not to contact you, she might have been testing to see if you would jump if nothing else works out. But you could have played it better, you had to play hard to get. You were too easy, then chased her, and that might have been why she lost interest. Maybe she wasnt interested enough regardless. In any case, forget about it for now, and if she contacts you again, make her work for you. Dont answer right away, be short with her, let her make the suggestions, and always assume she is looking to see if you will answer her. Treat her like you DONT want her. If that works, it will give you more emotional confidence, and power, and you will be able to decide better whether or not you really want to get back with her. Bottom line is if she couldnt be serious enough about you to fix the problems she had with you, she never will be. 1
69ways Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 As I have previously written on here my ex fiance broke up with melast June. Things got some what nasty after the break up since Icouldn't stop trying to contact her and fix things between us. Sheended up telling me to stop contacting her or she would take legalaction. I was very hurt by that and of course stopped immediately.Last Sunday out of nowhere she sends me a text saying "Hi".She ends up saying that she has been thinking about me a lot lately.Furthermore she goes on to say that she can't see herself lovinganyone like she loved me. So I was like let's meet up and talk andshe says that she was out of state. I asked her if she wanted to meetup when she gets back and she says "I don't know". I gaveher like a week and texted her asking if she made it home safe. Shewas super short with me and just texts me "yes" and doesn’treply to my other question. I wrote her an email yesterday telling her that I'm confused byher actions and if she only contacted me to see how I was doing tonot contact me again. I also told her that if she wants to gettogether and talk about us in person that I'm willing to do so but Idon't want to just be friends. She has not replied back to my emailand I guess is ignoring me. I went through hell the first few monthsafter the break up. I started working out a lot which helped me getthrough the worst. I'm still very hurt and heart broken over thewhole thing. I haven't been able to date other people because I'msuper guarded and won't let anyone get close to me. For me to move onI know that I can't have her in my life anymore. Is it wrong for meto tell her not to contact me? Any comments, suggestions, and adviceis welcome. m8 had exactly the same for 14 months after the break up. a week ago she called and said she was thinking of me and maybe she m8 a mistake leaving and when a few days i called her to tell her i am confused and to call em when she decides what she wants , she said we have no future..... exactly ,WTF
Chi townD Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 The first time she would have text me saying "I can't see myself loving anyone else." I would have responded back with "Stop contacting me or you will force me to take legal action."
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