gotye Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Day 4 of NC just really hurts to not have this, we told each other we complete each other last week
Philosoraptor Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Emotions run high right before a breakup. You'll hear words like forever just the day before when someone is weighing whether or not to stay. Just focus on yourself and find accpetance in what happened.
robkris8079 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Emotions run high right before a breakup. You'll hear words like forever just the day before when someone is weighing whether or not to stay. Just focus on yourself and find accpetance in what happened. this is so true. I think it's more the other person is trying to convince themselves. Oh the **** I heard and she wrote. It will make you think the other person is just nuts but in reality they have been going through the breakup long before they even let you know. As time goes on you will start to see more of the signs. That is unless the breakup was after a huge fight or traumatic event.
Author gotye Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 Emotions run high right before a breakup. You'll hear words like forever just the day before when someone is weighing whether or not to stay. Just focus on yourself and find accpetance in what happened. ugh, that is BS. I don't think he doesn't love me or doesn't miss me or anything, but just keep telling myself it isn't meant to be and trying hard now to stop pretending like we'll get back together personally I let someone know by being distant before a break up, I don't try to convince myself of anything
Author gotye Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 what is super annoying to me right now is everyone telling me; oh, you're an attractive girl... you won't have problems finding a man like, that is really what I am worried about? I know I will! Even if I wasn't attractive, I am not worried about never finding someone interested again! That isn't the problem, it's that the one guy I want left me
Philosoraptor Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 ugh, that is BS. I don't think he doesn't love me or doesn't miss me or anything, but just keep telling myself it isn't meant to be and trying hard now to stop pretending like we'll get back together personally I let someone know by being distant before a break up, I don't try to convince myself of anything To each their own. I'd prefer someone just say something when their interest fades rather than becoming distant or doing the back and forth thing. I'm sure he distanced himself internally then pulled closer. The only difference becomes at what point you let go. what is super annoying to me right now is everyone telling me; oh, you're an attractive girl... you won't have problems finding a man like, that is really what I am worried about? I know I will! Even if I wasn't attractive, I am not worried about never finding someone interested again! That isn't the problem, it's that the one guy I want left me Give yourself time to heal then find the person that you want that doesn't leave you.
Author gotye Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 (edited) To each their own. I'd prefer someone just say something when their interest fades rather than becoming distant or doing the back and forth thing. I'm sure he distanced himself internally then pulled closer. The only difference becomes at what point you let go. Give yourself time to heal then find the person that you want that doesn't leave you. no, def, I have been propositioned now a few times by guys and I keep saying; dude, I am not ready! one guy kept going; but why? it really peeved me I do want to go on some frivolous dates though Edited March 16, 2012 by gotye added some stuff
CaliBabe Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I was like 6 months NC with my ex when our 7 year anniversary came around. It was incredibly hard not to reach out but I stayed strong and I didn't. Glad I didn't too now that I look back. You will just add to the strength that you are already building for yourself. This day will be hard but I advise to NOT contact. He will think you are still all about him.
Author gotye Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 I was like 6 months NC with my ex when our 7 year anniversary came around. It was incredibly hard not to reach out but I stayed strong and I didn't. Glad I didn't too now that I look back. You will just add to the strength that you are already building for yourself. This day will be hard but I advise to NOT contact. He will think you are still all about him. definetely; keep telling myself he took the power when he ended something I wanted to keep I took the power when I told him I didn't want contact and I am keeping the power
Kaotic Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 what is super annoying to me right now is everyone telling me; oh, you're an attractive girl... you won't have problems finding a man like, that is really what I am worried about? I know I will! Even if I wasn't attractive, I am not worried about never finding someone interested again! That isn't the problem, it's that the one guy I want left me I 100% felt that same exact way!! amen!!! Everyone said that I'm pretty, so smart and have so much going for me and that I will find a guy so easily. And you are exactly right! It is not about find a guy, or even a good or great guy, it is about THE guy. I just turned a new page today. He left we out of the blue as well and we were talking about taking a trip to NYC and discussing baby names! I was a mess. I couldn't even be at work. In the 5 years that I've been working here I missed only 3 days and it was for serious medical reason. But last Thursday I couldn't deal. I was sobbing in my office with the door shut and couldn't breath like I was having panic attacks. I thought this couldn't be and that I'd never stop crying. But I did and so will you. I promise. It seems unfair. It seems horrid and mean and like your future was stolen from you. But you will feel better honey! :-( Today is the day that I realized I needed to let life take its course. Be stron honey and take comfort in knowing that things do happen for a reason. I tried to talk to him and reason with him and get answer but got nowhere so today I decided no more contact, no more trying. If this is meant to be then it will be and we will find a way in the future and be together. If its not meant to be then time will heal me and I will move on. Life will not stop due to this. Whenever god closes a door he open a window. Keep that jn mind :-) everything will work outfit you!
Author gotye Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 I 100% felt that same exact way!! amen!!! Everyone said that I'm pretty, so smart and have so much going for me and that I will find a guy so easily. And you are exactly right! It is not about find a guy, or even a good or great guy, it is about THE guy. I just turned a new page today. He left we out of the blue as well and we were talking about taking a trip to NYC and discussing baby names! I was a mess. I couldn't even be at work. In the 5 years that I've been working here I missed only 3 days and it was for serious medical reason. But last Thursday I couldn't deal. I was sobbing in my office with the door shut and couldn't breath like I was having panic attacks. I thought this couldn't be and that I'd never stop crying. But I did and so will you. I promise. It seems unfair. It seems horrid and mean and like your future was stolen from you. But you will feel better honey! :-( Today is the day that I realized I needed to let life take its course. Be stron honey and take comfort in knowing that things do happen for a reason. I tried to talk to him and reason with him and get answer but got nowhere so today I decided no more contact, no more trying. If this is meant to be then it will be and we will find a way in the future and be together. If its not meant to be then time will heal me and I will move on. Life will not stop due to this. Whenever god closes a door he open a window. Keep that jn mind :-) everything will work outfit you! totally agree. and if he wasn't feeling it, I can't trap him. My ex had a lot of self finding to do and it was unfair to assume he could do it while I was there pressuring him. I want him back, I don't expect it... every day this week I was like; he will come back then last night i was like; ya, he won't... move on.
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