Necris Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 I'm a 20 year old complete virgin guy who has never had a gf or anything like that, anyway I hardly ever have dreams about sex and when I do sex never happens instead most of my dreams are either super trippy (I can't really begin to describe how trippy alot of my dreams are) or a horror fest like being baptized in acid while being eaten alive by worms with iron teeth. Anyway in this dream I had I was in the university cafeteria trying to get something to eat unfortunately I found out I had no money but then while I was feeling hungry I looked around and there was someone selling free 5-star restaurant food far better than the food at the cafeteria so I thanked them and grabbed a plate of steak then I walked outside. Suddenly I was in this giant forest with trees with trunks as thick as houses and there was this scenic golden light being filtered down from the thick canopy above me so anyway I decided to sit down and eat and then something else happened that I can't recall. Anyway then there was the naked woman in front of me and apparently we were supposed to have sex or something (voices in my head in my dream told me that) but I couldn't "get it up" when we were about to try and then for no reason she suddenly had diarrhea and pooped all over the place and then I was told to clean it up (voices told me to) so I spent the rest of the dream cleaning the floor with a towel. Overall I'd say this is actually one of my better dreams. So, no its not really a sex dream since that never happened but it was the closest sex dream I ever had. What does this dream mean? What's wrong with me why can't I ever have an actual sex dream? Also how do I stop thinking about women, its not like I'll ever get a gf anyway so why do I think about such things?
dbave Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Simple. First off, if you say your not going to get a woman then you won't. Usually thoughts turn to words and words to actions. So your reinforcing your reality. As far as your dream, it seems like instead of the 'common food' you found the 'perfect food' for you. It was there always within reach and it didn't cost anything. You merely had to make the distance to get to it. The forest sounds like some sort of transition out of the cafeteria. You were cleaning up the girl's mess because you feel like women have a higher social status than you and thus you worship them a bit.
Author Necris Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 Simple. First off, if you say your not going to get a woman then you won't. Usually thoughts turn to words and words to actions. So your reinforcing your reality. I'm a bit of a pessimist I noticed being optimistic about something doesn't seem to help at all. I just find my odds incredibly low for a girl to actually want to be with me. It's difficult for me to even get real normal friends let alone a girlfriend. I find it incredibly hard to connect with anyone and it seems that many people especially women do not share my same interests and hobbies which I admit are pretty nerdy like software design, videogames, anime, biology,psychology,etc. In all my experiences with women I have never even been close to getting a girlfriend the closest relationship I ever had with a girl was when I was 8 and I was friends with a 7 year old girl in my neighborhood for a few months before my family moved. I have only been on very few dates and all of them ended up terrible like the girl not showing up or the worse actively making the date hell for no reason. I am also very shy and I find it difficult to understand people and talk to them so my social skills are lacking, plus I'm not overly attractive (I don't think I'm ugly but I'm not the kind of guy women seem to be sexually attracted to) or really that confident since I only experience rejection. As far as your dream, it seems like instead of the 'common food' you found the 'perfect food' for you. It was there always within reach and it didn't cost anything. You merely had to make the distance to get to it. The forest sounds like some sort of transition out of the cafeteria. You were cleaning up the girl's mess because you feel like women have a higher social status than you and thus you worship them a bit. I'm not understanding what you said about the food in my dream. As for cleaning the girl's mess I really don't know why I would do that when I awoke the only thing that could be said is wtf.
ThaWholigan Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 23, virgin also. As someone who has looked into dreams also, I find that dreams are very rarely linear in their meaning, it can be something completely different. I also have lots of trippy dreams, especially during the time I smoked weed. I generally don't have a lot of dreams about sex either, and if I do, I usually wake up just before penetration. Generally it doesn't mean a great deal. It can mean that you are masturbating too much. If not, I'm not sure. Also, it may be an indication into your mentality when it comes to women. I have struggled with my own perceived unattractiveness to women also and still am, but I am working on ways to get over that. You have to reprogram how you see the world, cautious optimism is perhaps a lot better than being pessimistic about everything. Good Luck
Author Necris Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 Now I just had a dream about me tying up a woman and torturing her with knives, razorblades, and drills (no there was no rape or sexual behavior of any sort but there was alot of blood). I had a series of other extremely trippy dreams as well that were so confusing I don't even know what happened. I'm beginning to think my mind just likes tormenting me in my sleep for the hell of it.
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