Leigh 87 Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Does anyone here have a partner, who;s friends do not like u? When I met my boyfriend over a year ago, I had been socially isolated from an eating disorder, and therefore had no clue how to act socially. I simply had no experience with how to act around people. So I had to learn. Through making mistakes. Around my boyfriends friends, I made an idiot of myself, because I just acted off. However, I always knew every time I acted strangely, and vowed to change for the better. After all, I am a great person, very kind, funny, quirky, and I have a lot to offer. I simply had to learn how to act around people. After a year, I have learnt how to go out andact fine around anyone. However, the damage is already done with Andrew's friends. They all thin badly of me. His ex female friend, who I acted strangely with, hated me so much, and then she broke up with her boyfriend, and her boyfriend tried to kiss me one night!!!!!!!1 She then went around, telling every one how ugly I was, and apparently ALL my boyfriends friends call me ugly, and think I am terribly unnatractive. Needless to say, he is not friend with that idiot anymore. I taught him what she was really like, thank god:sick: I am asking all of you guys: do any of you have partners, who;s friends u do not associate with? It does not impact our relationship. My boyfriend just admires me for changing and working hard on myself. Also, he only sees his friends once every week or two, on one night, to go otu for beers with his guy friends. Which is healthy and is what he should do, regardless if his friends liked me. Because he only sees his mates once a week for a beer, the fact they dislike me does not matter. We are not the types to hang around a lot of people. We prefer each other, and seeing makes once a week. I hope, though, that in the future, when there are big parties occasionally, his mates will SEE that I am fine, and at least not think any WORSE of me. LOL. ...........And I AM glad my boyfriend has seen some of his frinds true colours! - like his best guy friend, who tried to kiss me, and then denied it and went around calling me hideous names, saying I was way too ugly for him any ways. - The girlfriend of that guy, who went around anouncing how UGLY I was - his friends who all said I was butt ugly - one of his friends, came over to his house one night with HIS own girlfriend. Who was pregnant. He got drunk, and kept trying to have SEX with me !!:sick::sick: Needless to say, I have shown my boyfriend that he needs new friends. he was in the popular group growing up, and he is agenuinaly nice guy: plenty of mean people LIKE him, but cos they have not done anything wrong TO HIM, he is just nice to every one. We plan on saving and travelling around our own country, and are looking forward to going out and meeting people together, who arte quality people. He grew up with all those folkes. He knew he was better than a lot of them, he said, but because no one is mean to him, he just has fun with people. Seriously though. I am an extremely thoughtful, sincere, kind person... and I am glad I have shown him that it is really low for people to go around calling people ugly and such. BY the way. I am not ugly in the slightest. lol.
ptp Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 Just gonna give you my perspective on this as a male. If my friends has a problem with my GF I will listen to what he has to say, because more than likely he has my best interest at heart. For example if a friend told me my GF was cheating on me or if the friend felt my GF was using me etc.... However, I would never let anybody call my gf ugly and certainly not to her her face. I would put a stop to that immediately and if it persisted, I wouldn't associate myself with that person anymore. Fortunately, I have not personally experienced something like that. IMO, it is despicable what some of your BF's friends have said to you. I am glad your BF stopped associating with some of those people. Keep being yourself and show loyalty to your BF. His friends, the good ones who care about him will see how genuine you are. Hopefully they will come around. If they don't that is okay too, as long as your BF cares about you and treats you with respect. It is easy for me to separate my friends from my GFs.
Nightsky Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 My friends don't pick my clothes, they don't pick my nose, (usualy not) and they will never pick my gf. They better like my gf or its going to be clobbering time. 1
Author Leigh 87 Posted March 16, 2012 Author Posted March 16, 2012 ptp - thanks:) We also find it very easy to keep our friends separate. We are together most of the time, so to be honest, we feel it is HEALTHIER, to have time apart alone, with our own friends. Not a problem. I am at a stage now, socially speaking, where if we do go out, I tend to get along with every one, so my boyfriend and I can have a great night out and we can both chat to the same people. Yes, the sort of people around here can be highly immature, and just not the best quality people, in my opinion. They are the sort of people, who if they do not like u, they use indults like " f*kin putrid sl*t" or " most f*in mole in the world". I cannot really remember all the insults people around here use. Luckily, my boyfriend is a guy who has travelled the world, and is interest in learning about other people and cultures, so luckily he is not boring as his stupid friends he grew up with. I also told him, that if he truly loved me, he would not LET people talk to me like that. At the time, when that girls boyfriend tried to kiss me, he was not in LOVE with me at that point, but he saw how badly it hurt me, and called her an idiot and stopped talking to her. Trust me. The things that girl said to be were the most horrible things you could possibly say to a person... I mean, the guy tried to kiss me, and then both of them throw terible insults my way, telling me I am so ugly, that all my boyfriends make fun of how ugly I am, and that I should go kill myself because I have no hope, because apparently I am too unnatractive to get anything in life. Of course, he had to say that after trying to kiss me, because I am the girlfriend of his best friend. :sick: People just make me sick, really. I am so much better than people lie that, and I am GLAD I showed my boyfriend their true colours. Honestly - my boyfriend would not have known what people can be like, if it were not for me. He would have not met me, and he would have continued to hang out with those mates. Luckily, he has seen them for the lowly people they truly are. As for his other friends who he still associates with - they do think I am very nice. I am a very generous person, they do know that I am very nice. I am just quirky, and got off to a bad start. Over time, they will just see me at parties occasionally, and they will see me for who I truly am, and realise that I am not the way I once was His dad has cancer and is grumpy with me, long story. Basically, it is just ME and HIM lol... me and my boyfriend, and NO ONE in his life is happy for us, or associates with me anymore. We are young and will make great friends, so I am not worried. There is a lot of time to make cool new friends. We both love meeting new people, and want to start doing it more often. I really hope my boyfriend can see that he is better than the people he grew up with. Some of them might be ok, but a lot are just ... gross:sick:
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 16, 2012 Posted March 16, 2012 My friends don't pick my clothes, they don't pick my nose, (usualy not) and they will never pick my gf. They better like my gf or its going to be clobbering time. I used to live by that idea. What changed my mind is that every woman my friends have nearly unanimously disliked has been very bad for me.
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