Ladies, how big of a turnoff is passive-aggressive behavior from a man?

[CainJ]

How big of a turnoff is it for a man to be passive-aggressive? In an argument, when a man refuses to argue when there's a clear discrepancy and disagreement, when he panders to his girlfriend/wife/SO instead of stating his opinion, his side or thoughts?

 

What about when, in an argument, instead of being straight up about his thoughts, every retort by the guy is completely sarcastic and completely passive-aggressive?

 

I'd like to hear plenty of thoughts from the ladies of the forum.

[whichwayisup]

It's a total and complete turn off for me. My husband wouldn't dare pull that crap on me.

 

I'm so lucky to have a man who is pretty good at communicating and is straight forward with this thoughts.

 

Also, it is a put off when friends, family members or co workers are P.A too, so for me, it goes outside of marriage. Not something I like nor want to deal with.

[Teal]

Passive-aggressive behavior is too counterproductive and sometimes downright toxic for me to have a healthy relationship with someone who acts that way. It's a deal breaker, not a turnoff.

[jenwantsbabywade]

My husband is very passive agressive, I just called him out on it yesterday and about called him out on it today. He gets in a super sarcastic, child like kid tone and it's like he is mimicking an 8 y/o. It is very difficult to have a conversation with a man when they become passive-aggressive, once they go there, the conversation is just over, or you start resorting to unhealthy behavior yourself or becoming enraged how child-like their ways are becoming. It's a huge problem for me with my husband.

[shayla]

It's a dealbreaker for me.

Wasted 3 years on a man that played mind games, and used PA behavior and manipulation in almost every conversation we ever had, including the last one in which I confronted him for the other woman I found out he planned on marrying behind my back.

 

Never again.

[johan]

They say they don't like it, but deep down...

[Star Gazer]

What about when, in an argument, instead of being straight up about his thoughts, every retort by the guy is completely sarcastic and completely passive-aggressive?

 

This is particularly annoying and turns me off every time.

[Lois]

It's a huge turn-off and exhausting to deal with. Say what you mean and mean what you say, don't stuff about with nonsense and idiotic mind games.